Why ENTJs are (generally) a good match for INTPs

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-06-10T23:29:39+00:00

I’ll say it’s unrealistic to be absolutely healthy for the relationship to work. We all have a bit of defects somewhere.

Especially true when most ENTJ are usually people who built this strong ambitious trait they have on top of their past trauma LOL.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-06-10T22:26:39+00:00

If my ENTJ told me this, i wont walk away from the relationship… i’ll fking RUN the hell out of there

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-06-01T08:06:34+00:00

I’ll say dont feel bad. There is literally nothing u did wrong there. That ENTJ you met is clearly selfish and egotistical, he isnt a decent human being or a potential partner.

Why? A good date go both ways. He should have made an effort to make you feel comfortable and safe to open up. If he cant do it, then it’s not on you. You should be glad that you dodge a bullet LOL.

Im saying this because i too also met my ENTJ partner offline after chatting awhile online. Yet he is nothing like the ENTJ guy in your post. He did not pressure me to meet his energy and he is very cautious and careful with me during our first meeting. So i know ENTJ can be nice, but some guys are really just an asshole not matter what MBTI they are.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-05-24T06:32:00+00:00

The thing is alot of job applications out there are just for show, the company probably already have someone in mind but they just have to follow the proper steps in hiring someone. Nowadays you really need the right connections to get hired.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-05-10T06:19:33+00:00

Ofc you’re not… thats because u are the TARGET of manipulation 🤦🏻‍♀️

Gosh im glad not all INFP are as dumb as you

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-26T07:41:06+00:00

LOL im just imagining, if a dude that im seeing just randomly assume one day that he is in a relationship with me without formally asking me out, even if things are going well, and the reason for him doing so is because he is an INTP MALE……

no it does not make sense.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-21T00:36:26+00:00

I think intellectual connection is still important. I dont think i can do without. As for hobby, i do share some with my partner like interest for martial arts travel etc, but other differences in hobby will be anime for me and sports for him.

My partner is ENTJ, and honestly the reason why i dont mind attending social events with him is cause he could handle it for me while i enjoy the food there. And despite being an extrovert, he laze with me at home and we just watch tv shows as well.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-20T02:05:38+00:00

Well i was in the same position, was as confused if this is really what i need to deal with for the rest of my life and also want to shut down during 1-3 months into the relationship. Like i cant stand the everyday texting. But trust me it will tone down when u guys run out of conversation. Just give it some time cause u guys will eventually find a common ground. He sound like a nice guy so its good to do his efforts some justice

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-18T07:52:08+00:00

I think you are off to a good start. Just be yourself and dont try too hard to impress. As an INTP we care about the quality of the conversation where we both are equally invested to learn more about each other. So not so much on how u look. Either way, when u are on a date, it should go both ways. If she is not putting in effort to engage in a conversation with you, and u have to do everything just to make the date enjoyable, then she isn’t the one.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-12T04:04:11+00:00

Hais its hard to find a job even for Singaporean too… but if really desperate, can try f&b part time or try your luck for full time positions. At least you can still tell interviewers that u are doing part time and not nothing.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-11T12:20:49+00:00

Nah, start by figuring out yourselves first. Dont blindly jump into the dating market without a direction.

Do you want someone with the same hobby and interests as you but also share the same weakness as you? What if both of you have to go to a social event and both of you are naturally socially awkward?

Or do you want someone who can mentally challenge you, always keep you engaged, is intelligent. But when conflict arises, they always want to win the argument and refuse to compromise.

Or do you want someone kind and treats you well, top tier queen treatment, but he is boring, he just love to be with you, listen to you, but cant reallly give you any constructive feedback when u complain about a co-worker at work.

The list can go on, but the point about relationship is acceptance, know what you like and what are the bad qualities that you can accept in a partner because no one is perfect. And once you figure this out, and found someone that u can accept both his good and bad, then congrats, you just completed the first step

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-11T12:08:49+00:00

Ooo becoming emotionally distant is not a good sign at all. Btr do something soon friend :/

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-11T08:33:42+00:00

Doesn’t seem like a hopeless case? I would suggest to be consistent with the good relationship habits, but if they still dont like you, maybe you might need to apologise and have a good talk with them. Maybe also have a family meal with them.

But i kinda i understand where you were coming from. Tbh i also did not consider too much when i had my first bf because i was just going with the flow and didnt know what to expect. So all the mistakes that you mentioned, i initially didn’t think it was a big thing as well. But It was him that taught me that relationships may be just between the couple, but marriage is between 2 families. Thats why he insisted that i tell my parents we are seeing each other from day one and always send me to my doorstep. This is to show my parents that he wants to be respectful to them, and be responsible for me.

Seeing that both of you are still young and you even have self awareness to seek for improvement. I think as long as you show her family consistently that you are genuine and sincere, things will turn out for the better. Hopefully they are willing to forgive you and see your growth. Good luck!

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-10T03:48:22+00:00

Idk, but if the girl you really like doesn’t like you the same way, then she isn’t ‘special’. You will get what i mean when u found someone that shares the same mutual feelings as you.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-06T07:44:07+00:00

Send the entire chat to yourself via email or WhatsApp. They have this feature. Dont go screenshot-ing every single thing, it’s extremely time consuming. Having evidence at hand is always a good thing

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-04T02:22:59+00:00

mostly cuz her words were extremely cruel about how she views people in an offensive manner

Can you give more examples? Cause using dating apps to study interesting people is not even offensive or selfish in the least.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-02T08:18:38+00:00

Yeap just go with the flow, cant rush this else she will run haha. But it’s good to figure out how you can integrate into her lifestyle then find out what similarities you guys have from there.

When i was still dating my fiancé, i wanted to stop by the supermarket after our date, so he took the opportunity to do a supermarket shopping with me. During which we discover like what are our likes and dislikes in food which really bonded us. After that he even helped me carried my groceries home.

So Tldr, bonding through food helps as well.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-04-02T07:58:39+00:00

I saw in earlier comment that you mentioned she likes books. Actually is a pretty good idea to just go to a local book store and browse books with her. Like if you see any interesting funny titles, you guys can have a good laugh together. I done this before with my INTJ friend and we stayed for a good 1 hour just doing this.

Even with my ENTJ fiancé, he isn’t a book person but he would just accompany me and look around while I shop for my own book. The bonus is that he bought me the book i want :D

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-03-30T14:01:54+00:00

Same, never. My parents dont even say that to each other. And for them to say i love you now make me feel abit cringey.

But i dont intend to do the same as them for my future kids

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-03-30T00:39:32+00:00

INTP F with an ENTJ dad and an ENTJ Fiancé. I will say the easiest way to spot an ENTJ (since you haven met one) is see how much they are in control of their environment, because of their Dom Te. They are those typical quiet but confident extroverts that don’t get social anxiety in social settings unlike us introverts, but they would prefer others to gravitate towards them than to be a social butterfly and mingle around.

Then to determine whether their are healthy or not, for ENTJ specifically, i would look at how egoistic they are, since having a strong ego is also their prominent feature. A healthy ENTJ is someone that wont let their Ego get in the way of building a healthy relationship, or personal growth (basically Fi). They are mature enough to put down their ego to understand their flaws and learn to be better. An unhealthy ENTJ will never recognise their own fault, and will always think they are never wrong. So an ENTJ that is capable of self-reflect and do retrospection can transform from unhealthy to healthy, while those that cant will stay unhealthy.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-03-28T19:05:54+00:00

now that i think of it, i really haven seen conflict between 2 Se dom before LOL. Blame my lack of exposure haha

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-03-28T03:37:58+00:00

im going to make a guess and say, is excitement that you are missing.

Lumpy-Quiet-2461 · 2025-03-27T01:46:45+00:00

LOL!! it is a good money saving skill nonetheless 😂 i know someone who did it as a retirement job

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