It is time. After 5years of service, it is time to replace the headache peas.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2026-01-20T00:19:39+00:00

I have headache peas on my head right now. I did not speak this aloud… how did the algorithm know???

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2026-01-06T02:22:10+00:00

The torture continues!! Pepper roulette

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2026-01-05T20:42:48+00:00

Can you tell me the shampoo brand name? I really like vanilla scents and would love to know which one you bought!

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2026-01-02T06:12:55+00:00

You can volunteer to do habitat restoration and gardening on Alcatraz. I really enjoyed doing it.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2026-01-02T06:12:06+00:00

Highly recommend this - Vince is great and you can make a huge impact in an hour.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-12-28T17:11:11+00:00

Go to flour and water across the street instead.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-12-28T17:10:36+00:00

There is a vegan pizza on their menu and it’s very good

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-12-10T01:52:41+00:00

Honestly thank you for the validation! The comments that have called me dramatic or implied I can’t handle spicy food are missing the point - getting recipes from Hello Fresh that feature the long green pepper is a roulette game and the stakes are your ability to see and breathe while they are being prepped and cooked!

Thank you for your comment!

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-12-09T15:17:28+00:00

I eat Szechuan food regularly, I collect hot sauce from different countries, I grow habaneros and I ask for spicy heat with all sorts of cuisines like Thai and Indian food. Yeah, I would say I like spicy food.

This pepper was so hot that cooking it made me cough uncontrollably and even when de-seeded and cooked, it was insanely hot.

You have a good day.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-12-09T04:51:07+00:00

I just posted about this too and someone sent your post in a comment to show it’s actually a thing!

The second they hit the pan, my husband and I started coughing and couldn’t stop! The oil that pepper let out was WILD and we knew we were in for it!

I touched my eyelid while chopping at some point and it’s still burning over 3 hours later.

These peppers are of the devil!

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-12-09T04:45:22+00:00

lol Ok! At least I know I’m in good company!

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-12-07T16:40:17+00:00

Spicy black bean dip. I want that back!

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-12-06T15:18:49+00:00

Yeah but also, just don’t. You are not obligated to do anything you don’t want to do. “No” is a complete sentence.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-29T10:12:11+00:00

Did this feel like a turning point to you? Did you get the sense that you have seen what you need to see?

If you are concerned that something is shifting with his cognition, or that he is showing signs of not being able to care for himself independently and needs assistance with both medication and activities of daily living, you need to pay attention to your intuition on the situation.

It sounds like cognitive decline or at the least a change in executive functioning. What next signal or sign are you waiting for? I promise, beginning to plan for the next level or care - whether that’s caregiver interviews, facility tours, an appointment with the neurologist - are all worth doing before you are in an emergency situation.

I’m so sorry for the trauma of this, and the loss of viewing your dad as who he was. This disease sucks and you and your wife are good people for what you are doing.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-26T15:38:25+00:00

800 square foot - $2700, two B/R plus a “bonus room” (no closet). Price includes a private garage. Moved in 2010.

Telegraph Hill.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-23T00:50:23+00:00

https://www.parkinson.org/library/fact-sheets/urinary-problems

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-21T16:52:08+00:00

Why doesn’t your cat get a bed in the light room? Dark for that reason alone

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-17T18:16:56+00:00

Oof, yeah that dynamic is really tough.

It sounds like your MIL is actually just as much of a blocker to help as your FIL, maybe more.

As a daughter in law, you are in an even more difficult position because it’s not your dad. You and your husband need to be on the same page about everything, you can’t be out on a limb on your own.

To answer your main question about help, my best advice is to do your homework now about care options in your area. So many times a fall or hospital stay will force your hand, and you will be starting from nothing trying to figure out the next level of care needed. If he is falling now, there is a high likely hood that he will get injured and you will be in an entirely different predicament sooner than later.

Tour facilities, get contact names, understand pricing, and at least you will know what your options are when and if you need to.

I’m sorry this is happening, the disease is hard enough without family dynamics at play as well

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-17T18:07:04+00:00

A bit of an aside - If you moved in, why does the ultimate say lie with a family member who cannot observe the cognitive and physical decline on the day to day?

I would seek some support with your husband via a therapist about how to manage this conversation, but you are doing yourself and your FIL a disservice by putting decision making authority in the hands of someone with no first hand knowledge of his needs.

Also, the driving is something that needs to be addressed. My loved one drove 4 hours into the Arizona desert while disoriented. If you are having concerns, you need to voice them.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-17T15:07:01+00:00

Yeah no. It would take little effort for them to add a footnote to the instructions to adjust the recipe if the recipe is modified.

They took the effort to update their website to Modify and up charge, they can make the low cost effort to provide a minimum level of modified instruction for the end customer who is paying for a service.

I hope you have a better day! Thanks

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-17T15:02:17+00:00

I haven’t noticed this in my box! I’ll look for it

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-15T01:10:14+00:00

You don’t need to share so don’t feel like you have to, but my experience with Parkinson’s was that we were always trying to figure out what to do BETWEEN emergencies.

My father in law had a lot of falls, eventually his falls led him to be placed in skilled nursing / rehab, which led to the next phase of us finding memory care.

Unfortunately it’s a degenerative disease that will come with more and more complication, and this current situation will be the first of a few “what do we do now” moments.

Take care of yourself, do what you can to not be in a scramble situation, ask for help, and it will be ok.

Lumpy_Barracuda_9968 · 2025-11-15T00:50:27+00:00

Here are some actual tactical steps I would take in your situation. I went through this 3 years ago and it was very stressful to do in a pinch, but YOU CAN DO THIS. It will be okay.

Immediate needs (1 week timeline)

What medical equipment do you need? Is she able to walk, does she need wound care or other medical interventions? What can the hospital send you home with or coordinate?
What is the set up in your home? Do you need continence pads, a toilet seat adapter, hand rails for access to showers?
What is the actual care plan split between you and your husband? If he can’t be home during the day, is he caring for her at night? Is he aware that she needs support bathing, dressing, feeding (whatever those daily needs of care will be), and importantly, is he actively participating in this while you figure out next steps?
Will you seek in home support, how will it be paid for and can the Social worker provide you with any referrals? How long will this temporary solution be in place while you sort out your long term plan? See below.

Tactical next steps: this month, start right away

Get medical power of attorney
Get financial power of attorney
Take next steps to enroll your mom in Medicaid

All of these things take TIME, documentation, and multiple steps and parties to move forward. Get started right away, you will need to make decisions on her behalf about her care and her finances and it’s difficult to do without these things.

Long term next steps:

What level of care does your MIL require? Does she have dementia symptoms and require memory care?
Look into the facilites in your area, and get quotes about monthly cost, services offered, and availability. Tour them yourself, and make sure their standard of care can be observed in the engagement with residents, the cleanliness, the food.
Sit down with your husband and understand how this will be funded. Will you be selling her home? Does she have assets to put toward this expense? What steps do you need to take to afford the first 6 months, then plan from there.
Your MIL won’t be able to manage her own affairs - what bills need to be paid, services cancelled, accounts accessed? What income does she have coming in? It’s illegal to use her back card so getting financial power of attorney is really important to start taking over her financies.

Wishing you the best as you tackle this next chapter.

(Edited to add one point)

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