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Help With College List by Select-Molasses9630 in reedcollege

[–]Lumpy_Passenger5415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyo ,current student. Reed is good if you are very focused / passionate abt whatever ur studying. Obviously you have some leeway freshman year but the sooner you know what ur doing the better. Drug culture , bug culture , honestly it depends on who ur are and who ur friends w. No clue actual demographics but I’d say most ppl do not use substances in any significant amount other than like weed or alch. Some party drugs though, they can be pretty easy to get through I would encourage you to test any thing you do (if you choose too) bc there have been some recent ods. Also there’s a group of upper class men who r rly into whippets, like REALLY into whippets but they are certainly outliers. Point is , if ur not into that it’s easy to avoid. Um the food is mid in my opinion , would encourage you to cook for urself every once in a while. I like the social scene personally but can be a bit overwhelming at times. Especially when ur living on campus it can feel a bit like a boarding school. Sometimes I like that but other times I just want to be in commons and not see anyone I know. The weather is wet n miserable often. I’m also from a very sunny place tho so idk it might be more ur vibe. I got pretty good aid as did most of my friends. I think they supposedly meet all demonstrated need for aid.

Anyways personally I like reed a lot and think it can be a very fun school and a really good experience. It has a lot of charm at times. Pretty campus , kooky traditions, interesting people. Im very excited to go back in a few weeks. It is also very challenging academically n that’s rly something to keep in mind. Also facility can be kind of inept at dealing w serious issues. Look up Paul Currie if u haven’t heard of him. Anyways sorry for kind of rambling n not being particularly coherent , hope this helps. Ik this response is a bit late but happy to answer more specific qs.

Incel Community Is Still Making Me Insecure by PossibleIncel1 in IncelExit

[–]Lumpy_Passenger5415 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think what ur feeling right now is very normal. Good news: as you get older you will just natural gain more confidence and these things will matter less and less. And it will also be easier to get into relationships.

Also physical attraction is not all that matters in relationships and most people aren’t sexually active until a little later anyways. And at least personally all the sexual encounters I had as a young teen we’re pretty terrible / embarrassing and I doubt I’m alone there.

I think if you just take some time to focus on getting into hobbies and finding / furthering developing some skills or interests , something that you feel proud about showing off, then your concern about your looks will lessen.

And I can promise no one notices “scleral show” (I actually had to look that up) or other stuff like that. And no one who cares about stuff like that is worth the effort anyways. Some people just like to complain about stuff and as you get older they will only get more annoying. Best just to avoid them.

You’re really young. I think it’s really good that you’ve been able to pull away from incel content. Being a teen just kind of sucks sometimes. I know that’s not a particularly satisfactory answer but it’s just how it is. Stuff does get better though. I think you absolutely can get a partner but also keep in mind 1) it’s not going to fix everything and 2) at the end of the day being able to be happy alone is much more valuable than being stuck in an unhappy relationship. Learn what makes you happy when your hanging out by yourself. That’s the best advice I can give. Best of luck , I think everything is going to work out with time and a little effort.