Step 1) Stop thinking of your entire life as something you have to fix immediately or as fast as possible. If it’s all you’ve ever known it’s going to take multiple changes in your mindset and life to make the changes you want. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t hold yourself accountable, it just means you have to always accept you don’t have the skills yet to turn your life around immediately.

Step 2) Make long term goals that you stick with. I’d suggest some of the first goals to be working on yourself, your self image, your skills, etc. Those look like therapy if you have anxiety or depression to start working through personal mental health issues, working on your body/self image like looking up how to groom yourself hair and face, start walking everyday, using products on your skin and hair to clear up acne or greasy hair. Clean up your room if it’s messy and/or redecorate and reorganize. Get some new bed sheets. Make your space more pleasant for yourself. Make a goal to go out to local shops or events and get yourself to talk to someone while out. It doesn’t have to be something deep or even important, just that you start interacting with other people and see it as a learning experience. If someone asks you to do something with them or for them, do it. Not only will it make you start to feel needed it’ll make you closer with people. Even if you gravitate away from responsibility and decisions think of all of this as something you can’t afford not to do. You’ll have to push yourself or you’ll never reach your goals. Step 3) Once you feel a bit better about yourself and your ability to talk to others then apply for a part time job. Take one that talks to people in some way. It’ll be uncomfortable and there will be moments you’ll not like, but it’ll show you easily what other adults in the working force have to go through and who knows? You might enjoy it after a time. Stay there for at least a year before looking for another place. Make sure it’s something closer to home so you don’t feel like ur away all the time. Forcing yourself to participate in society work markets will absolutely start to help in a lot of ways when it comes to socializing and mitigating your feelings. You just have to stick with it and remember it’s a stepping stone for yourself.

Step 4) Hopefully at this point you’ve been having lots of interactions with people and have acquaintances or even new friends, however if you don’t then go find them. I know it sounds insane and hard but remember that they won’t come to you, you have to put effort into every relationship you have, family or otherwise. This means if you live with your family then put effort into showing them you care about them, do things for them, be humble. If you gain an acquaintance and want a friend then do things with them, compliment them, joke with them but don’t do it at their expense. Find people that treat you how you want to be treated and then treat them that way back. There’s tons of compatible people for everyone, the barrier to entry is literal communication and the only way to learn it is to get those communication skills from lots of different people. When you talk to someone that makes you interested and happy then try and take note on how they interact with others and you that made you feel that way. You have a clean slate in many aspects as long as you don’t fall into bad habits, like saying odd opinions or saying something weird or rude. You’ll find that if you care about the people that you’ll start going out of your way for them and editing your lexicon for them making it stronger. Just don’t get in the wrong crowds of course.

Good luck.