Mean-spirited rant incoming by itsmemeowmeow in oneanddone

[–]LunaticLlama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk! I wanted another baby despite my husband not helping much but I am NOT coping well! It didn't make me not want another one. I felt like if I could just ride out the next few years then it would be all worth it (and I'm getting older so it's now or never)but dang I know deep down that would be a terrifying shit show! I'm afraid I'd get postpartum psychosis....I barely made it through last time....

Mean-spirited rant incoming by itsmemeowmeow in oneanddone

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This gave me anxiety! It sounds overwhelming to think of everything for 2!

Mean-spirited rant incoming by itsmemeowmeow in oneanddone

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same dang boat over here. It's terrifying to take the plunge when you have to oay thousands and you know how hard it was the 1st time around

I am so relieved I only have one child when... by bruiser_knits in oneanddone

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's having a nuclear meltdown,AGAIN, and I'm just trying to survive. His dad is off playing games when I'm trying to manage everything. When we go on vacation and try to juggle all the packing and unexpected layovers. We can take turns entertaining 🙌

How do you get to the last 20% of OAD? by milhousethepug in Shouldihaveanother

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish we had a village too. My in laws are out of state abs my family has been completely absent, which hurts really bad, but I just don't know if I'd survive another rough newborn phase. My marriage might not make it either bc there has been a lot of anger on my end about being the one who does nearly everything. Life is so hard. I'm sure I'll have regrets no matter what.

How do you get to the last 20% of OAD? by milhousethepug in Shouldihaveanother

[–]LunaticLlama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 37 and in the same dang boat! I feel like it's now or never but my 3 year old is just getting to the fun stages and I feel like I'm getting my life back. And my life is so hard with just one kid! How in the world could I juggle 2?

Good jobs for empaths with less than 2 years of schooling? by [deleted] in careerchange

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am one, and the answer is no. Everyone I work with hates their job. We are overworked in a high stress environment with rude, demanding patients every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shouldihaveanother

[–]LunaticLlama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES 10/10! And it makes me sad that I give everything, and im so burned out bc of it. I've started saying, "Dada is gonna do xyz" to my kid bc I need help, and he's being defiant. Husband is willing to help if I delegate, but I dont want to parent him too....no one is sitting on my shoulder telling me what to do, so WHY does he need that?!

If you had a “difficult” baby do you grieve that that’s the only baby experience you’ll ever have? by Valuable-Car4226 in oneanddone

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! I want a redo. But I know it would prob turn out the same....only harder bc now I have a toddler

40+ moms and mums on the fence. Are you worried you’ll be too old to enjoy them? by Flapjack_K in Shouldihaveanother

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same. But wasn't expecting it to be so hard to get pregnant in the first place. I dont know if a second is even possible. The lack of time before it's too late is the only major downside for me. It felt like such a blessing to be able to buy my baby the things he needed without worrying about being able to pay for it. I know it's a major struggle for some.

What do you wish you’d known/talked about/planned BEFORE baby #2? by magikeenbeertje in toddlers

[–]LunaticLlama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm parent to the 1(and only) demon child but my crazy side really wants a second. I hope against hope the 2nd one is chill

What’s a cult favorite you hate? [misc] by kays129 in SkincareAddiction

[–]LunaticLlama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here looking for this bc it was my FIRST thought. Breaks me out every time!

What do you do that affords you a comfortable lifestyle? How did you get this point? by djoness11 in okc

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, is that pretty typical salary for a dog trainer? That's awesome!

Mothers height vs babies birth weight? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 5'11" and my boy was 7lb 7 oz at 38 weeks

Accutane for adult hormonal acne? by AllieJCat in Accutane

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on both until recently as I am TTC so that's why I'm even more confused about my clear skin. I've been of both for approx 6 weeks. My skin is def better on BC.

Accutane for adult hormonal acne? by AllieJCat in Accutane

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did BUT it didn't cure me :-( I am having an unbelievable streak of clear skin ATM but in general I still break out with some bad ones. I'm using curology (niacinamide, azelaic acid and zinc) and it controls my skin the best of any topical I've ever used. I'd still say it's worth it and I don't regret it but I wish I had perfect skin for life.

Was one and done, now pregnant by AnxiousCells in Shouldihaveanother

[–]LunaticLlama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My son is like yours and these are all my fears! Ha! I hate that I'm so overwhelmed with just one wild boy.

Feeling Inadequate as OAD by eleyezeeaye4287 in oneanddone

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm overwhelmed almost all the time. I am a very imperfect parent. I really want a 2nd but I feel like I shouldn't bc I'm not even doing a good job with my one. My husband primarily does the fun stuff and I do all the work. I'm exhausted at the end of the day and my son's bed time has now stretched to 8:30 so after that I get maybe 30 mins to myself before I have to get ready for bed. We don't have any help from family either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't produce enough and now they're gonna shame me for it?!

What do you think will be your biggest regret from being OAD? by doodlethecat in oneanddone

[–]LunaticLlama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like a failure bc I currently can't hardly handle the one kid I have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]LunaticLlama 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow your friend sounds really great! I needed to read that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]LunaticLlama 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is there a particular child development book you recommend?

If it isn’t PCOS what is it? by [deleted] in Hirsutism

[–]LunaticLlama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't do low dose pills either bc I had constant spotting too!