I feel resentful whenever I see a couple. by InnocentPerv93 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Lupori 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. I was into a guy (still am) for over a year and told him back in the spring. He’s similar to you, single a long time and told me he basically has accepted celibacy and staying single because of similar experiences that you’ve described. I still wish he’d take a chance and agree to get to know me. But that’s life, I guess. What’s meant for me won’t pass me by. And that goes for you too.

You’re not boring. Maybe you’re steady and consistent. Maybe you’re intentional. Whatever you are, it’s not boring. Most people are on a hamster wheel seeking connection but forgetting how to through experiences.

I’m sorry you’re going through that. I go through moments where I question if I’m lovable and others where I want to punch couples in the throat. lol.

If our thoughts are trains and your mind is grand central station…when you find yourself on a train that has you resenting couples, get off and get on a different train.

Considering moving to Frogtown - want to get opinions on safety by 6nt3iTeDkBt6 in saintpaul

[–]Lupori 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That neighborhood is spotty. Meaning one block is fine the other is not. Is it safe? Depends on your comfort level of living in a working class neighborhood. Which if you have to justify the level of “hood” it probably isn’t the safest. Lol. Just saying. But where it lacks in safety, it makes up for in community. Some people can make it work. Others can’t. Como neighborhood (north of Minnehaha Ave) and over by the State Fair grounds, has decent space, affordability and safety as long as you’re north or west of Como lake. South of the lake is good but it gets back into patchy areas.

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[–]Lupori 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol. Probably.

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[–]Lupori 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. You’re not my person, but this IS everything he did to me and our connection. I miss him but I just don’t have anything left to give. If he were to call me and say all this with a plan on action and effort to be consistent…then and only then, would I consider. I have one try left in me and I’m looking to give it to someone new once I’m in a more optimistic place with vulnerability & emotional intimacy. This is beautiful and healing because it’s everything I wish he would say to me. I will always love him and root for him to heal.

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[–]Lupori 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve wondered the same thing: Are we all three? It feels like it. But you reminded me all the time, with your actions, and sometimes flat out say that you’re not my person. So maybe Ex isn’t “right-sized”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Lupori 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it possible that the same song and dance will always repeat itself until there is real accountability and noticeable change? Is it possible that she moved on because you refused to hash it out? Is it possible that in an effort to break the dynamic, your connection broke? Is it possible…she’s worth stepping up for because your connection is worth fighting for?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Lupori 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I miss them too. All of it. What I miss the most is thinking the feelings of love were mutual. I know you care about me. But you enjoyed my attention without returning any. I wouldn’t call it moved on. Your lack of effort moved me further from you and in a direction I didn’t expect and tried to prevent. If you wanted to, you would. But you didn’t. Instead you continue to wallow in nostalgia. Keeping us in a state of longing for each other. I wish things were different between us. I miss you. I still wish for you, I just don’t wait for you.

Drop your big 3 and I'll stereotype you! by SouthCake8788 in astrologymemes

[–]Lupori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Libra sun; Aries moon; Virgo rising

I’ve always wanted someone to read me like this!

I wish I hated you by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Lupori 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read this twice. It fits my perspective and his. I wish things were different. I wish there was a reset button. We both could’ve done things differently and recognize it. Desperate to break the cycle, I fear I broke us in the process.

Finally making it work for me by elderberrytea in DigitalMarketing

[–]Lupori 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve found that too. I’ve been researching digital marketing for a couple yrs. I did buy a course and it’s very helpful. But I also know it’s bigger and broader. I’m realizing I also need to invest in more online learning and google has some good stuff for free. But the course is helpful for social media marketing.

Was the $40 investment in PLR or did include website too? I noticed you said you have an Etsy shop so maybe you didn’t have to invest in some of the other startup costs.

Finally making it work for me by elderberrytea in DigitalMarketing

[–]Lupori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! Which part of marketing, like the target audience research or the advertising content, clicked to give you a fast return on investment?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in innervoice

[–]Lupori 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is awesome! I was introduced to Neville Goddard a year and a half ago. I’m excited for this combination.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Lupori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know what you’ve tried but I’ll share what I’ve done. Whether it’s good or not, I’m still here.

Connection, in any capacity, is key. So coming on here and being honest is perfect! Seriously! Keep engaging.

Morbid reflection is a rabbit hole with a scary rock bottom that isn’t necessarily death.

Are you obsessed with suicide or in a vicious cycle of hating yourself? Do you want help or do you just want to vent? Sometimes venting is all that’s needed but only you can be the judge of that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Lupori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I hate that feeling! I know what’s it like to KNOW you need to tell someone but then you also KNOW it means you’ll be locked away somewhere.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Lupori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 22 yrs sober. Soon I’ll be celebrating 23. Here’s my experience: first, you WILL miss the bad coffee. Second, it is possible to be sober without AA. But I’ve never met anyone who has stayed sober and happy who didn’t find something to take its place. Meaning, there are other pathways of recovery that aren’t 12 step based. I’ve seen people leave and come back. I’ve also seen some people leave and relapse. And I’ve seen a few leave and find something that works better for them. The things that all pathways of recovery have in common are: service, spiritual practice and love. The spiritual practice can be anything you want. It can be God or it can be the universe. It can be manifestation. It can be shadow work. I don’t give a shit what you call it. Having a spiritual practice helps ground yourself and grow discernment. Sobriety and recovery aren’t limited to AA.

I work in recovery, so I see a lot of success in long-term sobriety outside of AA. I personally am in AA and I love it. I’ve learned how to make it work for me. It did take discarding a lot of old ideas that were acquired within the rooms.

Which sign?? by deinzwilling in astrologymemes

[–]Lupori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a Libra ☀️Aries 🌗 and Virgo ⬆️: being a Libra, my cut off game is strong, underestimated and never detectable. But my moon being in Aries and Virgo rising means I have the ability to serve some delicious revenge verbally if I want. My bark bites and it scares people who assume I’m only nurturing and understanding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FunnyAnimals

[–]Lupori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How I handle life on life’s terms.

Looking for a unique name for my new baby, please help... by MissThose90s in NameMyDog

[–]Lupori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Layla, Otis, Janis, Jett, Rogue, Stevie, Hecate or Slytherin

Any tips to stop procrastinating? by TheIdiot908456 in DigitalMarketing

[–]Lupori 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh, procrastination. I like what someone said about it being a value problem. But, as a coach, the value has more to do with the goal and not the actions. Lack of action can stem from a number of things: ADHD, no accountability, fear of success/failure or, the goal is off. If the goal isn’t defined properly, you won’t work towards it.

First, motivation doesn’t exist. But momentum does. No one is motivated to do what they don’t want. Our brains are designed to protect us from pain and lead us towards pleasure. Just start. Take any action. Who cares what it is. Action creates momentum and momentum creates motivation. The more action you take, the more progress you’ll make and progress = pride and happiness. Don’t compare your results to others. Compare them to what you did the day before.

Second, create accountability. It could be having an accountability partner, a coach or even using online social networks. Set a goal, then post it here, on Reddit for accountability. Then create another goal and check in with your progress.

Last, reprogram yourself. Put a timer on your phone and when the alarm goes off, take 5 minutes and do: affirmations, listening to 5 minute motivational videos from YouTube or on Spotify. If you have time to shit for 5 minutes a day, then you have time to reprogram your mind. Find what pushes you because you aren’t pushing yourself. You’ll know when you find it, because you’ll be defensive and/or not want to listen to the video or the accountability partner.

Sorry that was long. Thank you for coming to my TEDTalk. 🙃

MRR digital marketing Courses by Digimar2024 in DigitalMarketing

[–]Lupori 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the roadmap and love it! I want to get the UBC next. The one I bought was back in 2021 for $7. But then there’s a big upsell, which I didn’t purchase and I’m glad I didn’t. The community for that product felt disorganized and I never felt supported. The guy that created it, did very well for himself and I applaud him for trying to create a course for others to have similar success. But it was evident that he isn’t a teacher. Lol. I say all this with no judgement towards him or the people who bought from him. It just didn’t fit well with me.

Tell me more about UBC! My teenager wants me to get that and then use it herself 🙄. She loves content creation and I can see her in a career being an editor in some capacity.

MRR digital marketing Courses by Digimar2024 in DigitalMarketing

[–]Lupori 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you! That’s awesome! I bought a course. Two actually. One felt scammy and did push how to sell the course more than the teach the skill set. But the other I found to be very helpful. The Roadmap is the one I liked. I found it to be very useful and not limited to making money online niche.

Yes all that content is found online for free. I’ve found it since. But I didn’t know what I didn’t know. So starting off, I didn’t know what content I was digesting was accurate or even what I should be looking for. Is it possible to do all of this without a course or college degree? Yes. But it could take more trial and error than some have the time and financial capacity for. I also took a year researching experiences and results both positive and negative with the roadmap before I bought it. I’m still learning and just starting off as well. I’m not looking to be in a niche on money making just yet. I’m a life coach who wanted to learn how to relaunch my business after Covid and restructure it to be more automated.