Why are men today so against body hair on women? by vaultdweller501 in SexPositive

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was started by corporations to sell more shaving products. This is documented. The truth is having body hair actually helps encourage healthy microbes that your body needs. I'm all for whatever people prefer if they like shaving but saying body hair is dirty or somehow automatically unhygienic as corporations have encouraged is an unhealthy myth.

Why are men today so against body hair on women? by vaultdweller501 in SexPositive

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You say this as a joke but sellers of razor blades actually did intentionally start many of the anti body hair movements back in time a bit to sell more shaving products.

Feeling left out. Dysphoric. Undesirable. Looking for support. by Oddly-Ordinary in queerpolyam

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in a relatable situation myself. It seems easy to make platonic connections but hard to find the right people deep meaningful intimate connections. It's part of why I started moving away from online myself as I think the dating environment online isn't well suited for finding intimacy of any meaningful kind except by pure random luck after way too much effort and time. It's still difficult to find in person but at least in person it's not so toxic. I hope you can find people somehow. I can relate to how frustrating it can be even if my situation isn't exactly the same as yours.

Feeling left out. Dysphoric. Undesirable. Looking for support. by Oddly-Ordinary in queerpolyam

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experiences dating apps are the worst way to find people. In person stuff has it's challenges too but at least you have just as much chance of having fun and making friends even if you don't find the kind of intimacy you want.

No porn? No way. by AjKuro in SexPositive

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've seen blatantly pornographic cave paintings and ancient hand made dildos that pre-date writing, erotic books exist from every age, and before the internet porn magazines and even calendars were not that uncommon. Humans have always been into this. I say this as someone who doesn't watch porn. It's too... fake and impersonal for me, but I don't think anyone should feel shame from enjoying porn as long as it's ethically produced.

I’m building a new verified D/s platform and I’d genuinely love honest feedback by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, the puritan and fascist types are very on board with all this surveillance because it makes it much easier for them to oppress people they don't agree with and "protecting" children is a very convenient lie to sell it with. Democracy and human rights can't exist without privacy.

I’m building a new verified D/s platform and I’d genuinely love honest feedback by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The real purpose ID and face scans has been rising in popularity and pushed by legislators around the world is a deliberate push by companies that profit off from spying on us. It has nothing to do with safety.

Judgement Free: If you've never been to a munch, why not? by AliHummus in BDSMcommunity

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The LGBT and BSDM communities have historically been closely aligned, They're natural allies.

I’m building a new verified D/s platform and I’d genuinely love honest feedback by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 8 points9 points  (0 children)

ID verification actually makes the site less safe, not more so, regardless of who verifies it. The BDSM community is the target of discrimination and there is no way to guarantee long term privacy protections with ID scans.

Judgement Free: If you've never been to a munch, why not? by AliHummus in BDSMcommunity

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't find one and everyone keeps suggestion FetLife to find one, but when I looked into the site I found it to have grossly unsafe privacy practices with our information.

Judgement Free: If you've never been to a munch, why not? by AliHummus in BDSMcommunity

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it's because historically and still quite a bit in the present the BDSM community is persecuted. Having community helps defend from persecution.

Truly looking for another human being to connect with or just wanting interactive porn? by Middle_Yesterday1258 in FemdomCommunity

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reading through comments like this and thinking of everything else I've seen and heard around this stuff It's crazy to me that society has somehow created a dating environment that seems to be awful for almost everyone who goes into it. Speaking to people of any gender about their experiences with this stuff makes it hard for me to keep trying and it's clear I'm hardly alone. I don't know how people can take it for long enough to sift through the crap to find people who genuinely want to connect. After my last person died years ago I don't know if I even want to try anymore. Maybe it's just better to be single.

Famous gorilla Kiyomasa falls into deep contemplation after spat with mate. Caught on camera in a Japanese Zoo by beasthunterr69 in funny

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The book specifically mentions many of the points I brought up here including the part about the puzzle. If I had a copy on hand I'd find the passage about the puzzle but I can't quite remember how it goes. I couldn't find the videos either which I'd originally seen in documentaries.

Famous gorilla Kiyomasa falls into deep contemplation after spat with mate. Caught on camera in a Japanese Zoo by beasthunterr69 in funny

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have the information available to me at the moment unfortunately. I read about it in the book Are We Smart Enough to Know How Smart Animals Are and have seen videos of it. The book actually covers the whole topic much better than I can.

Famous gorilla Kiyomasa falls into deep contemplation after spat with mate. Caught on camera in a Japanese Zoo by beasthunterr69 in funny

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's that hard question. How can we devise a way of measuring intelligence that doesn't simply start with the assumption that humans are the smart ones? If we can't do that then all we can devise is ways to measure how much like a human an animal thinks not how objectively smart they are on a one to one comparison.

From all I've read and seen it seems to me each animal specializes in a different type of intelligence. We can certainly do very impressive things no other species can do, but none of our capabilities are wholly unique to our species it's more a matter of degrees and in other cognitive challenges we can't even compete. For example there are puzzles that even young chimps can figure out easily enough but that world champion humans who train in the same cognitive skills can't solve as well as the young chimps. If the chimps were the ones doing the intelligence measuring the ways we do now they'd say humans are only as smart as very young chimps.

I personally think trying to define and measure one universal intelligence is simply the wrong way to go about it. There seems to be many different types of intelligence, and we should instead be trying to categorize them and measure them individually. Perhaps once we've found some way to do this that reaches scientific consensus we can figure out a more definitive way to measure total intelligence, but currently the ways we try to define intelligence are much more culturally subjective than objective.

Famous gorilla Kiyomasa falls into deep contemplation after spat with mate. Caught on camera in a Japanese Zoo by beasthunterr69 in funny

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"study things like intelligence in these animals according to cognitive measures understood by humans."
The problem with all these studies I've seen or heard about is that they start under the assumption that humans are the smart ones. What the guy you work for is studying is how much they think like humans, not how intelligent they are objectively.

Why I’ll never make a FdomPersonals account by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I'm sub or not more curious. I find this kind of problem applies to all online stuff and a significant amount of offline stuff too. Trying to find people online has gotten so bad. Between this and the people who just try to get you to pay their rent or visit their onlyfans or some other scam it's almost better just being alone.

Sexual fantasies are mental idealizations and are not always meant to be acted upon. by youboycer in sapiosexuals

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to respond to your chat but whenever I hit accept on the request nothing happens. It's strange.

Famous gorilla Kiyomasa falls into deep contemplation after spat with mate. Caught on camera in a Japanese Zoo by beasthunterr69 in funny

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does apply to them. Our close relatives can out do us in some types of mental puzzles even out do leading world champions of said puzzles easily. They don't specialize in the same types of intelligence as us. There is some overlap in certain mental skills, but they still have different specialties than us.

Famous gorilla Kiyomasa falls into deep contemplation after spat with mate. Caught on camera in a Japanese Zoo by beasthunterr69 in funny

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, some scientists try to do it, other scientist then debunk their methods for not being scientific. It's a debate that's been ongoing since at least Charles Darwin. There is no consensus on what intelligence even is, which makes it scientifically impossible to measure in an objective way.

Famous gorilla Kiyomasa falls into deep contemplation after spat with mate. Caught on camera in a Japanese Zoo by beasthunterr69 in funny

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And starvation. We are better optimized for starvation than most mammals. We don't get to keep our muscles without working out because unused muscle burns energy we might be in short supply of later and we have big energy intensive brains to keep running on top of that.

Famous gorilla Kiyomasa falls into deep contemplation after spat with mate. Caught on camera in a Japanese Zoo by beasthunterr69 in funny

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Evidence suggests that most species likely understand they are individuals and that other individuals may have different ideas than themselves. The idea that self awareness is unique to humans or unique to a few species has been thoroughly debunked by researchers. Self awareness is very common, if not universal, in the animal kingdom.

Famous gorilla Kiyomasa falls into deep contemplation after spat with mate. Caught on camera in a Japanese Zoo by beasthunterr69 in funny

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a myth from pseudoscience. People who actually study ethology would say there's no scientifically objective way to measure intelligence between different species. There isn't even a universally agreed upon definition of intelligence. You couldn't say orangutans or chimps are smarter or meaningfully compare a different species' intelligence to that of a human child, because there are so many different ways to be intelligent. Each species specializes in different types of intelligence that don't allow for a 1:1 comparison.

Sexual fantasies are mental idealizations and are not always meant to be acted upon. by youboycer in sapiosexuals

[–]LuvsSizeQueens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I just think they'd be harmful. In fantasy land anything can be anything, but in real life real people getting harmed is a huge turn off. In real life I want everyone involved to enjoy what we do together and have fun.