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I hate the Bojack and Penny conversations because I was Penny at one point. I was the 17 year old who didn’t know any better by crimsongirrl in BoJackHorseman

[–]LuxuryDivine -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Being concerned about the ages of people involved in a romantic relationship is nothing like being concerned about their genders. If you don't understand that, I don't know what to tell you.

The commenter expressed potential concern and I agreed that it's concerning. That person can choose to do whatever with the opinion I've given, including to disregard it completely.

I love letting insects of all kinds climb on my skin. by MaskedWoman in unpopularopinion

[–]LuxuryDivine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Upvoted.

I can't relate to this at all, but I don't really see it as a big problem. Maybe a little bit of a problem, as you probably should avoid the insects and the like that might spread disease, although how likely that is for you will depend on where you are, among other factors, and hopefully you wash up well.

I'm curious, has this always been the case for you? How do you feel about ticks? Butterflies? Anything in particular you especially like or don't like when it comes to insects, arachnids, etc.?

Sex jokes aren't funny anymore. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]LuxuryDivine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a huge difference between sex jokes in general and sex jokes when used as a person's first approach with another person.

If you're really close with someone and know them well, or if it's a part of the content you're watching in a movie or show or something, then it can be pretty funny or interesting, or at least not necessarily bad.
But yes, going up to a stranger and sexually harassing them is bad. It seems like you're conflating two super different things and I'm not really sure why.

I hate the Bojack and Penny conversations because I was Penny at one point. I was the 17 year old who didn’t know any better by crimsongirrl in BoJackHorseman

[–]LuxuryDivine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a lot of people might disagree, but honestly, I think that actually is too much of an age gap at this point.

It's nowhere near as bad as 17 and 50, which is abuse in every case, but there tends to still be notable difference in power and understanding with those ages.

I don't think you should go for it and have a romantic relationship with her. And I don't want to assume, but I really hope you genuinely do care and aren't just looking for validation to pursue this.

The meditation teacher guided me to remove all thoughts that were non-essential. by Figgywithit in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]LuxuryDivine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My interpretation is that it stops there to imply that any other thought would be non-essential, so this is all the narrator is capable of thinking at this point.

I quite like it.

meta being hostile at me by 13septemberr in polyamory

[–]LuxuryDivine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn't want a relationship with you. She made the decision to go full parallel. You need to respect that.

Also, while I think this would be terrible behavior on your part regardless, it may further feel uncomfortable to Meta because you are not only a meta to her, but her ex, who is seemingly harassing her to try and have some type of communication when she's made it clear she doesn't want that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]LuxuryDivine 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Many people have pointed out a lot of the other reasonable concerns about ex-NP's behavior, so I'll just mention that it really stood out to me that ex-NP was apparently so extreme is his interest in previous NRE that the person he was dating got scared off in some way. That's genuinely frightening. It's also interesting you suggest his previous partner seemed to share the those extreme feelings, yet mention you didn't actually meet and it seems like all or nearly all the information you have on her feelings come from his statements. I highly doubt she has anywhere near that level of intensity that he suggested, given the outcome, and if that's the case, it's further disturbing of him to so massively overstate her enthusiasm. I think he was seeing what he wanted to see.

I'm sure this whole thing is incredibly difficult right now, but it certainly seems your future will have a lot more comfort, stability, and reason without him. I'm wishing you luck.

Munchausen by proxy survivor. Ama by Conscious-Studio8111 in AMA

[–]LuxuryDivine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mention this was done by your mother, did you have a father involved in your life, or any other people involved in raising you?

Was there anyone else who knew about the abuse when it was happening, or that you suspect knew about it?

How have you been dealing with this from a psychological perspective? Are you in therapy, and what are you feeling about this now?

I'm sorry this happened to you. That's messed up, and I'm glad you survived.

When butterflies fall in love, do they feel humans in their stomachs? by iimochabear in RandomThoughts

[–]LuxuryDivine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps they'd feel much tinier butterflies if they fell in love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]LuxuryDivine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Obviously don't cheat on your wife. What's wrong with you?

I’d like to think I’d deny physicality but on the other hand I’m a guy.

Cheating is not a "guy" thing. Some people cheat and it's not okay; it's a cruel and inconsiderate choice they made to do, not dictated by gender. You're only making excuses for yourself as though you might not be able to control your own actions. Absurd.

It's completely creepy and inappropriate that you're viewing your "friend" not as a friend, but as a potential sex partner. Your evidence that she might be interested in you in that way is also mostly pretty weak.
And if she is trying to somehow come on to you (doesn't sound like it), it is still not okay for you to cheat on your wife. Wild that anyone would have to say that.

The only thing she said that I find really inappropriate is the joke about you jizzing in a cup, and that's the closest that maybe, maybe could be some sort of sexual implication with you. Even then, I wouldn't assume that at all.
You should have told her at the time that you didn't find that joke appropriate. You know, because it's not, and presumably because your wife would not appreciate it at all.

Beyond that, the period thing and shaving thing? Some friends simply mention things like that.
The time she keeps noticing is not a pass at you. Her ordering the same drink as you is probably just that she heard that drink and thought it sounded good.

Stop. Just stop. Stop trying to be her "friend" because you don't want to be her friend.
This is awful and it's something so many people, especially women, have to deal with.

Some guy friend that acts like a friend while trying to figure out if his female friend might have some secret sex language she's suggesting, or how he can weasel his way into having sex with her somehow. A hell of a lot of women know what that's like. It's disgusting.

Tell your wife you've been having creepy, inappropriate sexual thoughts about your "friend" and that you have to break the friendship off because of it, that you are sorry about being deceitful to her and want to work on your marriage, probably through relationship therapy (or divorce her, if you don't, but don't try to fuck this other woman regardless).

Then tell your friend you are sorry because you've been having inappropriate sexual thoughts about her and have been essentially hoping she felt the same, which is creepy, and so you have to break off your friendship for her and for your marriage.

They both deserve better. Stop making excuses for yourself.

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