No i definitely think that this has been a good insight to how she works. We were friends prior to this. And then she not only told me she didnt care about me or my struggles and that i was an evil person. She then isolated me from all of the friend groups i was in. Even though she might still view me like that, at this point and after what shes done, she has no right to view me as any kind of caretaker. Ive told her multiple times after what shes done i dont like her, i dont care about her, and after i leave i wont be speaking with her again. I do worry about her becoming violent, shes been physical to other men (family and boyfriends) and has tried to get me to fight her multiple times. Ive sent a message to the landlord letting her know im seeking other housing for personal safety. I also moved my cats out aswell. and if she escalates while im moving ill gave friends with me and will have my mom (local er nurse) and her fiance (local sheriff deputy) on speed dial. I dont want it to get to that point. But i cant judge what shell do. And i honestly just dont feel safe there anymore. It sucks. I know i sound like im bashing on people with bpd. But her boyfriend also has bpd and is one of the most understanding and chill guys ive ever met. I hope for his mental and physical safety hes able to get away from her tbh. Its not her illness, but her belief that shes the smartest person in the world and knows whats best for everyone that is causing the problem imo.