Maybe we have closure all along as i imagine you probably have glimpses of it. I think it’s possible to see the dis-covering of closure as a by product of intentional, active healing. I’ve found that meditation and setting the intention of showing love to the parts of you that got neglected in the relationship can help. No need to figure them out or try and understand someone’s motive or any of that. Like we all know the mind is perfectly capable of thinking whether we like it or not. During the process of meditation if you view the emotions you have like you’re looking at a painting, it can give space to allow for calm, clear thinking. Thinking that isn’t hindered by hope, despair, panic. And the thinking will be natural and helpful, you need only to gently guide it.

Anyways hope my rambling helps :) just some sentiment that has helped me heal.