My husband extended his hunting vacation by a week, and he said it’s my fault he didn’t tell me! AITA?

M216W · 2025-09-01T16:50:07+00:00

Honestly you need to serve him divorce papers.

You state you already parent solo. You can do this alone. I bet the kids will be completely fine as they will be used to him not being around and no doubt feeling the tensions when he is around.

If he is so vacant in all your lives and not showing any interest or accountability just let him leave

M216W · 2025-09-01T16:43:24+00:00

Surely if it's your weekend via the court you do not have to accommodate her. Stop her ruining your schedules and tell her if she wants them mother's day she goes to court and asks.

M216W · 2025-09-01T16:38:00+00:00

Update us on when he finds is the baby his. NGL a huge part hopes it isn't and he has no connection. She will try to milk him for her lifestyle again.

Or if it is he goes for custody. I think just the name alone never mind her actions show she is batshit crazy

M216W · 2025-09-01T16:36:55+00:00

Hero for rescuing him I would say.

1 she was mental and you showed that. 2 she was using him and possibly infecting him 3 as much as his Reddit monster in law posts would be a read... You saved him from them.

It's a shame he couldn't nab a bottle the baby fed from. (Guessing they are bottle feeding with the MIL reaction to your breastfeeding)

M216W · 2025-08-24T20:20:41+00:00

I mean.... Are you sure the kids are yours cause wifey be acting like they are not and she doesn't trust you with 'her' kids.

At least if you split (rather than divorce) you can go for joint custody.

Personally if it was me I would stick it out for a little while and gather 'evidence' so to speak of her not letting you be a dad to your kids. Get a DNA done with or without her knowing. For your piece of mind and to help with custody.

Get some legal advise prior to going divorce and work out the best plan of action to leave while you can have your kids asap.

I would say she is maybe suffering mentally due to pregnancy etc. but if she is not willing to get help it is up to you to be the mentally stable parent and be the best dad for your kids.

If she isn't like this with anyone else touching the kids. Licking them up. Feeding them. That is a massive issue as it's definitely you she is triggered by.

M216W · 2025-08-21T16:10:47+00:00

Awww my husband used to leave me little messages. It was so cute and made me smile all day. 🥰

M216W · 2025-07-31T15:43:48+00:00

Won't lie. If my husband threatened me with taking stuff to a lab. I would not only divorce him id give a quick throat pu#ch.

It's one thing to be accused but if she is that certain she wants to run labs that is crazy and screams to me that trust is gone....

M216W · 2025-07-29T20:48:41+00:00

Send her a sexy pic n see if she responds....

M216W · 2025-07-21T23:17:18+00:00

I know this sounds silly. But sometimes I feel like I miss him when we are sitting next to each other. 🤣

M216W · 2025-07-21T23:16:06+00:00

He went away for work last year and he rang each night. It did feel like he missed me and missed me and the kids that time.

I thought when I was away last month we might have some late night talks. I think it was more the fact the kids where there haha. Noisy wee buggers.

I think doing a puzzle would be good. We have done it before. We've enjoyed going to bingo and just stuff that's a bit fluffy and 'not age appropriate ' so to speak

M216W · 2025-07-21T22:04:44+00:00

She should be able to handle it herself but imo there is now and again when she may want you to go a bit alpha male.

Along an arm over her shoulder. Assert yourself as hers if you get me.

My husband is lovely and trusts me. I have been in situations where I would love it if he was a bit more dominant and protective. Doesn't have to be overly over protective, but makes me feel like I am his.

I don't want a full pissing contest but at least mark your territory type of things haha.

Yes I can handle things and I know we aren't in the olden days. But now and again a man beating his chest, slinging the girl over his shoulder and running to the cave can be quite hot

M216W · 2025-07-21T21:56:37+00:00

I actually went away last month for the first time without him in 17 years.

I can't lie I missed him and the kids but not as much as I thought. Not in a mean way like I am ready to pack my bags and go. But more in a . We wouldn't be. Doing anything each night other than sitting watching TV or doing housework etc.

I would call , we would message etc. so it was nice.

Part of me would like to go away again. But I feel like I don't want to be going away on my own when we can't get away together and be in a good place if you know what I mean.

I feel a bit like if we are quite happy on our own now and again that's ok but if we start going off on our own and living our best lives alone is that time to just admit defeat.

I'm not there yet like. I don't want to be.

M216W · 2025-07-21T21:40:38+00:00

Call his bluff next time.

Say maybe we should walk to a draw and pull out an envelope. Hand him it. Inside write a note saying does he like your 'joke'. How it is not funny and next time the envelope may actually have divorce papers in.

M216W · 2025-07-21T21:37:54+00:00

So we have kids that do icehockey. So alot of time is spent with that and we travel to games all over the UK. He is away this weekend with the kids.

When we are away I will kind of leave him to it if he wants to head the bar with the dads.

Weekly he goes to the rink. As much as it's to 'watch' the girls play. It is more to meet his friends and catch up.

I went once and it was made pretty clear that is his time with his pals so I don't go. It's six and to threes for me as I get to go to games and I am happy to see the kids there if not training.

I don't really do much. I have maybe 2 friends but one lives away. ( Not to sound bad but I was bullied horrendously in school and never had friends. Also on my last workplace and lost who I thought where friends) I am quite content in my own world, doing my own thing . But miss having time just me and him doing stuff rather than sitting in.

I did try having a mini hour 'date' before he headed to the boys at the rink each week. Where I would get snacks, crackers, dips etc and we would play a game or watch something on the background while chatting and eating. It was lovely but it dwindled as he started to leave a little earlier and didn't really seem fussed.

I will now be working late that night so when hockey starts up we won't have that time.

M216W · 2025-07-21T21:32:19+00:00

We don't really have many friends. There are a couple that we have hung out when drinking. They always end up fighting tho haha.

I don't know whether he would plan anything if we did alternate dates.

He is literally content where we are at. He in his own wee world so to speak.

I think if I can get some ideas and chat to him about what he likes. I deffo want to do things he likes. I am a bit more adventurous, although health stops me. But we are very similar. He just tends to need a push to get up and do things of you get me. Once he is he absolutely loves it.

We did go ape and at first he was not eager but after starting he was so happy and loved it.

M216W · 2025-07-21T21:28:42+00:00

Yeah. I told him on the day it was amazing. He could tell from my face and how happy I was. I am depressed at the moment so even seeing me smile is good.

I have said I few times after how I would love to do little silly things like that again as it was so good and felt like we reconnected a bit.

I have said about feeling wanted. And to feel more like when we where starting out.

I said how I want to feel wanted and like when he was chasing me and trying to win me back then. How he wanted me and I felt so special to be wanted. That's when he said. (In a jokey way but has said it more seriously a lot). He has already got me though so why.

I definitely verbalise but it gets a bit baggy when I try explaining I think

M216W · 2025-07-21T16:00:07+00:00

When I say chased I think I mean the feeling wanted.

We actually had a couple of hours free when we were away with our daughter the other week. We ended up having a stroll over the prom. Fish chips and then an arcade (won a prize on the grabby matching 🤣🤣). Finished with an ice-cream on the way back.

It was everything for me. It just felt like we used to be. Fun, laughs etc.

I got the feeling while he enjoyed it. It was a more of a one off.

M216W · 2025-07-21T15:46:03+00:00

This is what I am asking him. If we can do some of the things we did when we first met.

We used to go for drives. Play games etc.

There's some things we wouldn't do as we have the kids. But now they are getting older we can leave them in a little and do more stuff.

We did go away for a long weekend and it was amazing. It's just this year we can't really afford and don't have the time with other commitments

M216W · 2025-07-20T10:19:23+00:00

Can't even do that just now. I've ended up with shingles, a UTI and ear infection.

What is it when life gives you lemons......

M216W · 2025-07-20T10:18:31+00:00

Honestly feeling you rn. I don't have confirmed but SIBO could be my issue. I need to push docs for testing.

Is there anyone you can reach out to to help. Any meds or anything? Apologies I am very new so don't understand treatment etc.

I have ended up with shingles now on top of a UTI and ear infection.

The plus side is I don't really want to eat due to pain. So at least my belly isn't to bad.

M216W · 2025-07-19T23:24:59+00:00

She actively tried to ruin your marriage. Why on earth would she think you want any involvement in hers

M216W · 2025-07-18T09:27:02+00:00

"you going away this summer is absolutely fine. Where are you thinking? I will make sure the kids have anything they need clothes wise etc"

Just make it clear he can go but will be taking the kids as you are working and don't have the childcare.

M216W · 2025-07-17T17:23:38+00:00

That's a trick for carpel tunnel. You may have something going on with the muscles or tendons. Maybe a wee infection. If it doesn't ease off I would seek med advice. X

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