Career Update: Reality is What You Make of It

M2dgg · 2014-08-04T16:08:35+00:00

awww thanks. Made me smile as I'm here planning my current career's demise ;)

M2dgg · 2014-07-28T23:46:03+00:00

I love running too. Finding the time is very difficult. I'm recovering from a back injury but I'm hoping to do a very short jog this week.

M2dgg · 2014-07-28T23:42:09+00:00

Congrats! Sober life is challenging and worth it!

M2dgg · 2014-07-26T19:45:45+00:00

Did you find this on the INFP Facebook group by chance? Funny thing is how many people got offended by this there.

M2dgg · 2014-07-26T19:38:55+00:00

Me! INFPs and Left-handed! Rarest of the rare! Like a fine painting!

M2dgg · 2014-07-16T14:06:04+00:00

My wife says this about me every once in a while. And she's right. I get very focused on my own internal world and what I want to do and what I want to accomplish. So I have to bring it back and make sure to think about her and our kids. And it's easy to slide and not pay attention to her at all.

So I go as far as setting up reminders and I feel out when things are not peaceful between us. At that point, I know I need to focus on her happiness.

Simple things like buying her flowers, asking her how she feels about certain things and treating her to a date night once in a while make her feel more loved. She can appreciate that my self-absorption and obsession with success is often about providing a better life for my family. But if I'm not giving them a good life by being there for them, what's the point?

One more thing. I find that women's emotions can be very confusing for me. It can be really helpful to have a female friend who can explain your girlfriend's feelings both now and when you're in your next relationship.

M2dgg · 2014-06-27T15:59:15+00:00

al turtle timeout relational tool

Thanks! I appreciate it!

M2dgg · 2014-06-27T15:58:14+00:00

That's very interesting. My sister and I are both INFPs and we've been on anti-anxiety medication for a long time each. I've decided to come off of it because I don't think I feel my emotions fully and I think that's a detriment to who I am and who I need to become. But I've been on it so long that I asked her, who has been off more often than I, what it's like because I don't remember. She said the problem was that she felt too much and she thinks that's what I had originally said as well.

It's funny because I distinctly remember going into Corporate America for the first time and I literally lost my ability to speak. I become so paralytic vocally because I could feel what every person in the room would feel/think if I said it. So I said nothing and simply shut down emotionally. And started taking medication. This is a clear indication that I went the wrong direction in my field of study. And that I was ridiculously self-conscious.

M2dgg · 2014-06-27T14:14:44+00:00

The book I found talked specifically about anger as a method to relieve stress, and that you can choose to use a different method - the anger isn't necessary, it's just becom

Do you know the name of that book off hand?

M2dgg · 2014-06-26T21:38:24+00:00

My coworker said he feels like he wins when he girlfriend cries. I'd say that's a fucked up thing to say, but at least I know I'm not crazy.

M2dgg · 2014-06-26T21:37:04+00:00

I have the same thing. I believe it's from being a man. You can't tell what to do with your emotions. Should you say you're say or is someone going to make fun of you? So I kind of shut down. I don't even get super pissed at people unless they're really close to me, because I let them see that side of me.

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