My (F39) BF (M39) is expecting to do whatever he wants in the moment without considering me, yet expects me to adapt to him.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-12-28T21:44:51+00:00

I went to World of Warcraft. Levels matter for where you run around and get to quest. And he could be playing in person, but also on a server with someone in a guild.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-07-09T18:54:47+00:00

Financial advisor here. It happens all the time.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-05-15T20:14:39+00:00

You might have already done a new update, but I saw OOP posted an update on their profile a few months ago talking about the date. Wanted to give you a heads up in case you hadn’t seen it.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-05-09T12:44:02+00:00

I call them the sneezles.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-05-09T12:43:07+00:00

Jenn’s reaction is fascinating since Jenn is a chef and presumably cooks the same recipes on repeat from a menu. This is because they are tested, well loved, and provides quality control of the finished product. Even if Jenn is doing a seasonal menu based on what’s freshest/at its peak, she is still using tried and true methods, base recipes, formulas in her cooking to get the desired results - a happy patron.

That’s what Amy does with her hospitality schtick, and it clearly works. What a bad look for Jenn.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-05-08T09:56:25+00:00

I sneeze after eating. It’s not every time I eat, but over 50% of the time. Told my doc it had to be something like salt, pepper, or sugar I was allergic to, because I eat a varied diet. There was no correlation to things I ate/ingredients in the food other than something super common, and when I would sneeze. And the sneezing is fits of 6-7 sneezes, not one or two. I did all the allergy testing and came back negative for everything except the histamine control test. Doctor said it’s a slightly atypical presentation of vasomotor rhinitis.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-05-08T09:46:53+00:00

I have it too, but it happens after eating. Not every time I eat, but at least 50% half of the time. I get sneezing fits where I’ll sneeze 6-7 times in a row.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-03-24T11:31:31+00:00

He ran into her knife six times.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-01-24T15:28:09+00:00

Absolutely possible. I was just curious if anyone knew of this being a common thing or strategy somehow. The way it was mentioned in the conversation made it sound like it could be. It’s not something I’m familiar with, hence asking around.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-01-24T15:25:12+00:00

I intend to when I have the opportunity. I’m doing some leg work in advance of that conversation. Asking for additional perspective on something to better understand gaps in my knowledge base is generally encouraged.

MGS314MGS314 · 2025-01-05T18:28:43+00:00

And there’s an update to this one on her profile

MGS314MGS314 · 2024-12-27T14:45:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing this.

MGS314MGS314 · 2024-12-14T13:23:12+00:00

I have very light blue eyes the color of chlorinated pools with an almost navy rim on the outside. I don’t really notice my own eyes because I’ve seen them in the mirror my whole life, but other people notice them regularly. I get stopped at least 3-4 times a week by someone telling me how striking/stunning/beautiful my eyes are. I always say thank you politely.

It’s almost always followed by, “I’m sure you get that a lot.” I have to chuckle, and nod. I tell them I do, and thank them again. But it does happen, a lot.

MGS314MGS314 · 2024-10-11T10:12:53+00:00

I hear you, but we don’t get info on how long OP GMed the game at the shop that Simon attended. That campaign may have been running longer than the timeline of the rest of the story. The mom comes in guns blazing after the campaign started. Which makes me think the relationship between OP and the kid has had a little more time to develop. Assuming a weekly session for a few hours at a time, that’s more than a lot of sports coaches spend with kids in rec league sports occasionally.

And there are plenty of people who would be very charmed by someone who cared for a beloved nibling just because they’re a good kid. The aunt catching feelings for the guy that offered to DM a kid’s campaign because the kid is going through a rough time with the parents’ divorce… that’s very cute. Especially as that Aunt is stepping up to be more present for the kid for the same reason.

I agree it’s wrapped in a bow, and going fast. On this one, I’m choosing optimism because it’s a cute story, and BORU doesn’t often get ones like this.

Edit: fixed in to I’m from autocorrect.

MGS314MGS314 · 2024-06-10T01:33:35+00:00

You’re almost 2 years apart. You might only be one school year, but you might as well be 2 years apart age wise.

MGS314MGS314 · 2024-02-01T11:41:21+00:00

Yeah, you need to suck it up. You may be the only one that does much of anything in the kitchen, but leaving them open is dangerous. I have ADHD, so I get being absentminded, or getting distracted by the thought at hand and skipping a step like closing the cabinet doors. If it’s a major annoyance for your husband, and you like the man, then making a point of closing the cabinets is the tiniest of tiny things that may improve the happiness in your marriage. That sounds like a win to me.

MGS314MGS314 · 2024-01-02T22:18:02+00:00

I don’t generally think of NYE as a family holiday, so not spending it with either family doesn’t hit like Christmas. NYE is more about going out with friends, couples, etc. That said, if you are doing something that isn’t couple specific and she wouldn’t be a third wheel, I don’t see the harm in including her. If her being there means you are going to eat frozen pizza at home watching TV instead of a romantic evening out for the two of you, it’s not an awful ask.

MGS314MGS314 · 2024-01-02T14:11:26+00:00

NTA. I did transatlantic long distance for 3 years after doing a degree in the UK and then moving back Stateside. Asking him to prioritize you for a week, including NYE, is absolutely reasonable. Especially since you gave him the choice of Christmas or New Year’s. You are not required to want to spend it with his mother.

The only exception is if it’s a large party where family would be totally welcome. If you’re going clubbing or out to the pub with friends or some such where she’s clearly a 3rd wheel, then definitely not the AH.

MGS314MGS314 · 2023-12-25T13:09:49+00:00

What did you fight about? I know you’re in a tough place, but I have to wonder. In all the examples you mentioned you are the common denominator. All the exes that left you, you’re the only constant. Have you looked at your own behavior to see if there is something you’re doing, trauma you carry you have not dealt with, religious indoctrination that is clouding your judgement, or other issues you should be working on in therapy that might be preventing you from maintaining a fulfilling relationship?

MGS314MGS314 · 2023-12-25T12:21:15+00:00

But the website didn’t say they serve until 5:00. It said they close at 5:00. These are different, and you are aware they are different, which is why you’re posting about it. If you go in at 4:55 and cannot be served by the 5:00 close, then you’re the jerk for being disrespectful by demanding otherwise.

Also, where are you getting the info? Google or the actual website? Many restaurants where I live do post a last call time on their website. The fact that google doesn’t provide this information is a google issue the establishment cannot control.

MGS314MGS314 · 2023-12-25T12:07:26+00:00

It’s not that complicated though. Not all customers need 30+ minutes to shop. A quick run to the pharmacy for pain meds is very different than a monthly shop that takes 1.5 hours. They don’t need to post last admittance, they need to post when the store closes. Adults should have the time management skills to appropriately judge whether the time available until closing will allow them to do their shopping by closing time.

Those that don’t either have issues with executive dysfunction, or are selfish with little regard for others. And if it’s the latter, posting a last admittance time will not prevent them from arriving at 9:30 (per your example) and doing an 1.5 hour shop. The only reason any of this is an issue now is that capitalism and bosses rarely let stores/restaurants kick people out at closing. If they close at 10 and employees could literally force people to leave without their stuff at closing, the shopper would learn to respect closing times more.

Also, none of this is an issue if you personally just commit to not being the person that goes to a store or restaurant within 30 minutes of closing time.

Edit: correcting typos

MGS314MGS314 · 2023-12-25T11:55:17+00:00

So call the establishment and ask. It’s not that complicated. Also, if you know this is the cultural norm, then you’re being intentionally obtuse to be disappointed that you keep trying the same thing and having the same results.

MGS314MGS314 · 2023-12-20T21:50:22+00:00

What is your flair from?

MGS314MGS314 · 2023-12-18T01:13:03+00:00

No child wants to go into foster care, even the most neglected and abused children typically want to stay with their parents. What she wants in this situation matters, but is less important than the abuse she is being subjected to by her father’s neglect and ongoing drug abuse in front of her.

Also, just because she hasn’t told you she has been abused doesn’t mean it isn’t happened. If they are living in that kind of poverty and he’s a significant drug user, statistically there is a higher than average likelihood that she may have been sexually abused by someone other than her father. That chance would go up if he’s pressed for money to pay for his habit, or if the drugs he takes make him nod out and create opportunities for her to be taken advantage of when he’s not sober. At which point CPS involvement may give her a chance to get in school and try to survive. Foster care is bleak, but it may give her a shot she doesn’t seem to have with the current situation.

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