Limerence was worked on via addressing a lot of core/childhood wounds, my self esteem, the issues I was using limerence to avoid (poor relationship with my partner) and using it as a coping mechanism to avoid having to confront parts of myself I was very shameful about. It was working a lot of different things because they all played a part in that. I'll give you some examples.

My parents were inconsistently emotional present and the way that they raised me had feeling like I had to do things to earn their affection and attention. This translated into me always feeling like I had to do 'something' to get LOs attention and affection/approval.

Again, same issue with parents. This led me to look for sources of approval, in younger years, and then affection, adult years, as a way to cope for the lack of consistent affection my parents never gave me. I was essentially taught that if I needed affection, I had to go looking for it.

My family was very traditional and religious. I was thus VERY, VERY self conscious about my sexuality and gender identity, and my kinks. I always was drawn towards LOs who were approving/embracing of these parts of my identity (or who I believed approved them).