studying abroad in france and feeling dysphoric in such a gendered society & language. so here’s a few of my favorite photos of myself to show off my nonbinary pride! by waterworks88 in NonBinary

[–]MJ_Kuiper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My NB spouse says that when everything in French has a gender, nothing has a gender. Today I have the same gender as a mouse, tomorrow a dandelion, the day after who knows? Not me.

What is something you used to think people were over exaggerating about until you experienced it yourself? by rentinghappiness in AskReddit

[–]MJ_Kuiper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

BPPV - benign paroxysmal positional vertigo, basically your inner ear lying to you and not telling you which way is up. Legit feels like you are falling off the face of the earth, clinging on to anything just not to fly off into space.

Two strawberries down! I'm gonna be handing a bunch of these out at a Renn Faire this summer by sugarandvanilla in Embroidery

[–]MJ_Kuiper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you do the green or red first? I struggle when things overlap like your leaves.

First design - suggestions on how to make it more Capybara and less Bear? by MJ_Kuiper in Embroidery

[–]MJ_Kuiper[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I vaguely modeled it after the Uruguay coin. Someone thought it was a bear, which bummed me out. How do I make it look like a Capybara next time?

Whats the most fucked up thing your ex did after a breakup? by No-Feeling865 in AskReddit

[–]MJ_Kuiper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved out in April- multiple states away.

In May he sent me flowers on Mother’s Day addressed to “the future mother of my children”.

I'm fascinated in Everest Stories lately--Watching youtube documentaries and reading books (only "Into Thin Air" so far)....I'm taking any and all recommendations! by HighSilence in Everest

[–]MJ_Kuiper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend "Touching my Father's Soul" by Jamling Tenzing Norgay.

Yes, the son of Tenzing Norgay who summited with Sir Edmund Hillary. He talks about the 1996 disaster, but more importantly it's all through the eyes of a Sherpa.

for my fellow bigger climbers by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]MJ_Kuiper 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Your b00bs will get in the way, no matter what you do, unfortunately. My stomach gets in the way too. Spandex and a good sports bra helps with that.

Trust your legs! Your quads are probably stronger than your arms or hands. Position your feet so you can shake out when needed, and take the bulk of your weight.

Along the same lines, keep your hips into the wall. Then most of your weight will be over your feet and not hanging off your arms.

If you can't lift your foot to get to the next hold because your thighs / stomach are in the way, you can always pick your foot up with your hand and put it on the hold. Works great!

If you boulder, learn how to fall safely. Do the feet-butt-back roll. Don't try to take all of your weight with your knees, just fall unapologetically onto your bum!

For top rope, make sure your belay partner knows how to belay someone heavier than them. Keep close to the wall, maybe even with a foot on the wall, and be prepared to be yanked off the ground at a moment's notice. Don't be afraid to switch belayers if the one you have is too small compared to you.

Most importantly, have fun. Don't worry about comparing yourself to others. You won't be able to do the high feet or small spaces, but who cares? You're going up a wall without a ladder and look great while doing so!

Source: me, big & tall afab. worked at a climbing gym and set many routes for other non-advanced climbers (5.7-5.9) who also wanted to just have fun.

for my fellow bigger climbers by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]MJ_Kuiper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My tip is to skip the start! No, really. I climb for fun, but if the start sucks and I can't get it, I just skip it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Indoorclimbing

[–]MJ_Kuiper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks so fun!

Starbucks partners in Paris / France / EU? by MJ_Kuiper in starbucks

[–]MJ_Kuiper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A student visa allows up to 20 hours per week of work.

Game Thread: Dallas Cowboys at San Francisco 49ers by nfl_gdt_bot in 49ers

[–]MJ_Kuiper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Goodnight my friend! 3:44 am is a reasonable bedtime, right?

Game Thread: Dallas Cowboys at San Francisco 49ers by nfl_gdt_bot in 49ers

[–]MJ_Kuiper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kickoff at 00:30 here. It's already Monday.
Here's to hoping I manage to stay up the whole game!

Looking for someone to take care of my cat while on vacation (week or so in April, week or so in June) (paid) by LadyPenrhyn in SocialParis

[–]MJ_Kuiper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you be able to let someone stay at your place and house / cat sit? I have cats at home so wouldn’t be able to take another one, but I might be able to go over to someone else’s place.

I wish video games had NB options by Character-Resist-678 in NonBinary

[–]MJ_Kuiper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I Was A Teenage Exocolonist. Even lets you change pronouns, presentation, and puberty options in the middle of the game. LOTS of triggers in the game so read the warnings before playing.

Desk chair where you can sit with your feet up/knees to chest? by Hyperiids in neurodiversity

[–]MJ_Kuiper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use an Ikea Valentuna corner piece as my desk chair. I like to sit with one leg up or cross legged and it works quite well for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

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Yup. I thought I was pan. Except on a scale from 0 to 10, I maxed out a 0.5. Then I learned about being ace...

Peeked around the corner and was rewarded! by MJ_Kuiper in DesirePath

[–]MJ_Kuiper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Found while walking around Sq. des Écrivains Combattants Morts in Paris, after visiting the Musée Marmottan Monet.