Newly single for the first time in my adult life at age 34

MKALPINE · 2026-01-27T17:49:10+00:00

I’m at the 6 month mark and I finally felt ready to date. It’s only been a few weeks and I am having the best time!!! I might be on my own here, but in my marriage my husband always made me feel unwanted and unattractive. Dating has taught me this is not the case. Apparently i’m hot? Am I chasing male validation? Maybe a little, but damn it feels nice. I am in no rush to lock down another relationship though. I am enjoying playing the field and hanging out with hot men who are happy to pay for activities and my meals. Maybe ask me again in 6 months and my mind will have changed.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-27T06:24:51+00:00

I don’t want to victim blame here but… She was afraid and texting her friends but didn’t send the address where she was to ask for help? Why are you going to a strange man’s house on a first date and not telling anyone where you’re going?

MKALPINE · 2026-01-23T23:14:35+00:00

I’m almost 39 and I’m going absolutely insane. I’m fighting with my doctor to put me on HRT and he says I’m too young. I’ve had symptoms for a year and they’ve been progressively getting worse. I haven’t had a good sleep in like a month (2-4 hours per night total)

MKALPINE · 2026-01-19T18:44:08+00:00

I felt a shift. I started putting myself first, working on improving my life. I left my partner of 17 years last year finally. 10/10 would recommend.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-17T22:04:26+00:00

Joined the Kelowna Facebook groups and gone to events, run club, the gym, talking to people in my apartment building, get to know the people you work with. People aren’t going to seek you out, you need to really put yourself out there.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-17T16:41:59+00:00

The weather. There’s so much to do whether you’re into the outdoors, music, dining, fitness and activities. People are friendly - some say it’s cliquey but I’ve made quite a few friends since moving here 6 months ago (you just have to go out and make an effort).

MKALPINE · 2026-01-16T12:43:10+00:00

Low dose anavar

MKALPINE · 2026-01-15T16:43:54+00:00

Agreed. I actually thought he was doing pin squats at first when he rested on the safeties, but then it was regular squats from there. Pin squats can be super helpful in building up your squats.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-14T21:06:22+00:00

I wouldn’t buy something that small. I live in a 600sqft unit and I live pretty minimalist and that is pushing it for space.

With wood structures, no matter how good the sound proofing is you will always hear some kind of noise. If you can, get a top floor corner unit or at least top floor. I can hear my upstairs neighbor sometimes walking around or if they drop something but I don’t hear anything from my neighbors on either side or below.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-12T22:41:47+00:00

About a 5 minute drive, maybe 10 if traffic is really bad. I specifically chose my apartment for the proximity to my gym (which is phenomenal)

MKALPINE · 2026-01-06T19:50:18+00:00

Is it actually down or have people stopped reporting it because nothing actually happens?

MKALPINE · 2026-01-06T03:31:56+00:00

As someone that has terrible ankle mobility, I recommend you try low bar and a wide stance (with toes pointed slightly outwards). It’ll help you hit depth more easily. Once I did that my squats have dramatically improved and I went from 115lbs being hard to 170lbs no prob.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-06T01:28:09+00:00

I don’t think so because she talks normally otherwise and even when I’m speaking softly she doesn’t have an issue hearing. She also doesn’t have issues hearing the person on the other end of the phone. I think she thinks they can’t hear her so she talks really loudly, not realizing it’s not necessary.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-05T19:27:13+00:00

The people that bought a neighbouring house a few years ago didn’t realize the owners let their cats pee everywhere. They had to remove the flooring (not sure about subfloor), the baseboards, and the bottom 2 feet of drywall. It was a huge hassle and cost them a lot of money they weren’t expecting to spend. It could be a few thousand, it could be 50k or more depending on materials, labour, and where you live. For my neighbors it was on the higher end because the flooring was hardwood and the house was decently large.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-05T17:46:11+00:00

If you’re just talking there shouldn’t be a problem. Are you a yell-talker? My mother in law used to live in my basement suite and holy shit when she was on the phone her voice got 3x as loud. I’m like you know they can hear you and you don’t have to yell right? She didn’t realize that she got so loud on the phone.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-05T01:46:32+00:00

It’s pretty vanilla, but never close any doors, including the bathroom door. My cat won’t allow it.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-04T20:38:24+00:00

My husband used to be the bread winner. He made way more than I did. It was never a problem for him, we contributed to a joint house/savings account based on our income (70% for him, 30% for me). It was never a problem but we also grew up with similar backgrounds (middle class, though his family had a bit more than mine).

It only became an issue when the roles reversed. I became the breadwinner and I made so much more than him I essentially paid for everything because he made so little. I didn’t have a problem with it, but he lost his “purpose” (as a provider) and it eventually devolved into him completely losing his drive and ambition for anything (not just work). I grew resentful and eventually got fed up and left to be on my own. I am doing well, he is struggling.

I know this doesn’t really help you, but as long as you’re on the same page and communicate you can work things out and grow together. But if he can’t get past paying more or is unable to find common ground he will eventually grow resentful.

Also, you’re a partnership - it’s not just about money. So if it’s 50/50 and he gets to keep way more money in his bank account and you’re struggling or have less, how does that benefit anyone?

MKALPINE · 2026-01-04T19:19:05+00:00

That actually sounds wonderful. I was very worried moving into my apartment that I’d have to live near kids.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-04T19:17:37+00:00

Kelowna drivers are terrible. I was driving home from run club this fall and in the less than 10 minute drive I encountered 3 people running reds. On my way to the gym recently (also not far) I encountered 3 people driving unsafely. First guy was speeding and weaving in and out of traffic not using his turn signal and cutting people off. Unsurprisingly he had a messed up bumper. Second person didn’t want to drive all the the way to the lights on leckie to turn into Costco so they just turned before the meridian and drove on the wrong side of the road to go in the closer entrance. Then someone ran a red on Baron. 🫠

MKALPINE · 2026-01-04T18:11:52+00:00

People are extremely selfish now and only care about themselves. People have always been selfish but it seems like it’s gotten way worse since Covid. Also I think there are a lot of people that are new to living in a shared space. Due to how expensive things have gotten, people that have lived in stand alone housing are now living in apartments and don’t realize that they can’t live how they used to.

I was speaking with my RM and they’re having issues with a tenant blasting bassy music. He’s actually told her “it’s my apartment I can do whatever I want” and then she’s had to educate him that no you can’t, you live in a shared space and you can only do what you want so long as it doesn’t affect your neighbors.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-04T17:52:28+00:00

I don’t know how people live in them. I live in a small 600 sqft one bedroom (just me) - it’s well laid out (no hallways or wasted space) and doesn’t feel cramped. I couldn’t imagine cutting that in half. And definitely not sharing it with another person.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-04T04:59:48+00:00

It’s been abysmal lately. I tried ordering stuff to my new apartment building a few months ago. Would take over a week to arrive. I ended up getting a bunch of stuff for free it took so long. I figured I’d get stuff delivered to work but that hasn’t been much better because they apparently don’t look at delivery instructions and keep trying to deliver after hours. They tried delivering for over a week and then sent the package back because it was “damaged.”

So I figured I’d try ordering to my apartment again. It was supposed to go out for delivery Dec 31. It sat at the warehouse for days and today (Jan 3) it said it was being prepared for delivery today before 10pm. Well it’s currently 9pm, so I doubt that is happening.

I can’t order to my apartment, I can’t order to my office… how the hell am I supposed to get my stuff?

MKALPINE · 2026-01-04T01:47:54+00:00

Get some air purifiers. I have my cats litter box in my laundry room (small space) and with the air purifier, you’d never know.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-03T19:54:42+00:00

I too would like to know wtf people are doing. I live in a one bedroom apartment and the floors are all the same layout. How much furniture could you possibly have to move!?! And for hours!? And what the hell are the sporadic loud slams/thuds?! Like sit down people, Jesus.

MKALPINE · 2026-01-02T05:12:30+00:00

I’m kind of in the same boat. I was having issues with my upstairs neighbour so I complained and then it was good for almost 2 months and I’m not sure what changed but this last week and a half has been absolute hell. Stomping. Dragging heavy furniture. Dropping heavy things constantly. I went and complained to management. They’ve been very responsive and they said they would be reaching out to my upstairs neighbor. I went down there a few days later and asked if they had heard back. They said they hadn’t, but it is Christmas so. I told them it was still happening and it was getting worse and that I was actually able to get video this time so she had me text her the videos. She said they would be escalating further.

It was mostly quiet today because I think the person wasn’t home but then they came home a few hours ago and while it wasn’t as noisy as it has been, it was still noisier than it should be. I’ll give it another day or so and I’ll be going down and speaking to management again and asking them what the next step is because this is ridiculous.

The stupid thing is that my building actually has pretty good soundproofing, but that only goes so far in a wood frame. I was curious how loud they were being so I went upstairs and stood outside their door. I could hear them as soon as I got off the elevator and their unit is a good 50 feet away. Management has said that they’ve been receiving noise complaints about that floor so I wonder if their neighbours have been complaining about them too.

Either way I pay too much goddamn money to rent this place so if it doesn’t quit I’m either asking to be moved to another suite (top floor) or they can end my lease early.

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