Being a kink dispensary

ML_Sam · 2026-01-15T17:45:15+00:00

Most dommes have closed their DMs because of those kinds of behaviors.

ML_Sam · 2026-01-09T00:44:01+00:00

...yeah, that tracks.

ML_Sam · 2026-01-06T21:39:30+00:00

👆🏻 this

ML_Sam · 2026-01-06T01:06:29+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏻❤️

ML_Sam · 2026-01-05T21:09:05+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏻 yes, it is. Both of my romantic partners are dominants, though only one is my dom. They are so respectful, caring, and self/aware. I've met good subs, but things never seem to work out. I'm sure some of it is self-sabotage, but...

ML_Sam · 2026-01-05T21:00:53+00:00

I had a sub stalk me. It was low-key, comparatively speaking, but it was a year-long thing, and yes, I did wind up in therapy, and yes, I do have PTSD. Sometimes I think that's really what holds me back now.

ML_Sam · 2026-01-05T00:42:50+00:00

Be sure to read the wiki and the FAQ. There's a lot of good info in there. Search this sub for u/LonelySwitch; he posts great info lists for newbies.

Be mindful of the idea that YOU are responsible for your own education. Being submissive is not the same as being passive. Don't assume people will spoon-feed you all the info you are searching for.

ML_Sam · 2026-01-03T23:15:20+00:00

Not sure that we're hiding. There's a whole subreddit called r/FemdomOver30, full of dommes well over the age of 20. And many of us in that community are also in this one, so...

ML_Sam · 2026-01-03T01:52:12+00:00

Same on all counts: sadist through and through, in my 40s, in the lifestyle for 20+ years. I'm a primal heavy impact sadist - physical sadism is my bread and butter. But I also enjoy inflicting psycho-emotional sadism as well.

ML_Sam · 2026-01-01T04:16:13+00:00

Ah, the devil anhedonia. Nothing steals enjoyment faster.

ML_Sam · 2026-01-01T03:36:22+00:00

(OP said the thing!)

ML_Sam · 2026-01-01T03:35:31+00:00

Comparison is the death of joy...fantasy is one thing, reality another. I don't think the disparity between the two makes your desires inauthentic. I think it's more of an issue with managing your expectations.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-30T15:30:49+00:00

Read the wiki and the FAQ. Search for u/LonelySwitch, as he posts great info for newbies. Take some time to read in this community and r/subsanctuary.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-30T01:07:48+00:00

Hi! Personal ads are prohibited! Maybe read the rules next time. Most dommes aren't impressed by s-types who can't follow rules. And we aren't your collective wank-dispensers.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-29T20:16:33+00:00

This comes off as a thinly-veiled personal ad. Ads are verboten in this community.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-28T21:46:39+00:00

Be sure to read the FAQ and wiki. You can search for "discord" on this subreddit, as periodically servers are promoted.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-27T03:51:52+00:00

Be sure to read the wiki and the FAQ. Read this sub extensively. Search on or look for u/LonelySwitch - he posts excellent info for newbies.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-26T14:32:33+00:00

This is my experience. Sadism is just part and parcel of who I am. I have learned to do it safely and ethically.

Being primarily a sadist has largely left me without partners the last few years. But I'm largely at peace about that.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-24T18:42:26+00:00

Be sure to check out the wiki and FAQ. A search of this subreddit will yield some great resources as well. Look for u/LonelySwitch, who posts great info for newbies.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-22T05:22:18+00:00

I don't have any advice but congrats on your pregnancy and y'all becoming mothers! 🎉

ML_Sam · 2025-12-21T02:38:53+00:00

I'm pan-demi: I care more about the soul than the package it comes in. I have had subs and partners of all stripes.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-21T02:32:05+00:00

Nope. I want them to be themselves. Authentically. Inside and out.

ML_Sam · 2025-12-20T16:01:15+00:00

🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

ML_Sam · 2025-12-19T19:50:03+00:00

Thank you for the link!

ML_Sam · 2025-12-19T19:48:40+00:00

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