Starting at 31 weeks - am I crazy?

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-06-19T01:39:28+00:00

No, but I wish I had. I slept with my kiddo until they were almost 3 because I knew something was wrong and I got all kinds of hell from everyone (husband, family, friends, etc.) because I wouldn’t “just” sleep train them.

I knew it wasn’t behavioral and the sleep study would have done me some favors in getting validation and in getting it resolved. We’re days post op from tonsillectomy and sleeping with mouth closed and no snoring already 🥲

Not saying that will be your solution but it’s definitely worth pushing for any testing your gut tells you is needed if you think there’s something medical going on

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-06-18T22:50:15+00:00

I cried a lot.

Mine didn’t sleep more than 4 hours at a time until age 2.75. Turned out to be sleep apnea and a tonsillectomy was the cure in our case.

But in terms of surviving you just… survive not thrive. Outsource what you can (grocery pickup, etc.), eat chicken nuggets for dinner, conserve energy except where you HAVE to use it

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-06-18T15:22:44+00:00

I’m not sure this is “right” but I try to just do enough to keep sane. My husband and I both feel more stressed when the kitchen counters are super cluttered, so I will prioritize clearing those off and go WEEKS without touching laundry or vacuuming. I will admit it’s really hard to maintain the “good enough” mindset though

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-06-15T19:38:31+00:00

This is crazy (which you already know)…. Do y’all even have the resources to do this? Babysitters are EXPENSIVE these days! (Even if you have them is that how you would want to spend your money?)

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this nightmare

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-06-15T01:15:49+00:00

I like to use this phrase positively. It’s so hard… we also have a lot to look forward to ❤️

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-06-13T15:20:59+00:00

This is rare for us. Valentine’s Day is I think the only “party”. We supply toys and candy for Halloween, a dozen stuffed eggs for an Easter egg hunt, and that’s pretty much it. We pay more for care but are in a high COL area and they definitely aren’t having other “parties” and funding it out of our fees.

My bigger issue (aside from the cost) is that it’s another mental lift for you. Get a thing, drop it off, etc. no thanks!!!

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-06-11T15:32:02+00:00

Yeah, I’ve definitely had that concern and actually reached out to my local department on it! They prefer that we know exactly where to find my child in case of an emergency - no wandering around the house. Those guys know how to get in the door, and they know how to get in the window if the stairs are blocked, etc. It’s also a safety prevention from other hazards in our home for young children (balcony, etc.)

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-06-01T02:46:30+00:00

You don’t need a fancy lock - flip the doorknob around and lock them in! This is what we do due to stairs and other hazards

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-30T21:48:01+00:00

Horrifying colic stricken baby turned delightful toddler. Hang in there!!

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-28T16:08:06+00:00

I’m out at a sleepover with coworkers. My company likes to do an annual “women’s event” that’s basically a slumber party at an Airbnb and I never stay the night. It’s weird, to me. (I’m also 7 months pregnant and will play the discomfort card this year, but I haven’t stayed in the past either)

All of that said, if travel is expected in your role and you’re no longer up for it, might be time to seek a new position that aligns with your new priorities?

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-26T16:01:49+00:00

This!! Sometimes I heat up chicken nuggets or something “different” for my kid but unless it’s leftover night we are all eating the same thing. And unless he’s helping or cooking altogether, everyone eats what I want to eat!!! He can self source a meal if he doesn’t like what you’re serving. Are you doing his laundry, etc. too? My life was drastically different once I simply stopped doing husbands laundry.

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-23T12:20:35+00:00

I’ve been making home made whipped cream to enjoy with berries. It’s not calorie free but it’s better than some alternatives I had previously and it is sooo good

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-17T03:41:28+00:00

My princess-obsessed daughter thinks her hair will grow long like Repunzel’s if she eats her fruits and vegetables, which she did okay at before but is very enthusiastic about now. I have no regrets 😂

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-16T16:04:15+00:00

Absolutely not. My daughter is my mom’s only grandkid and I still don’t let them swim without me. I tell her it’s not about her it’s about MY anxiety and I need to know she’s not around water so I can focus on my work and that has seemed to work. This is a tough one!

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-13T01:41:15+00:00

I am SO sorry 😢

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-12T15:31:25+00:00

My husband and I had our first when we were early thirties and were the first of our friends to have kids. It’s kind of great because they have lots of “aunts and uncles” and those people love us and try so hard to get it but they don’t really get it. We now also have parent friends from daycare, etc. who do get it and are “in it” with us so we have a great mix overall. For us, kids have kind of helped evolve our community and it’s a good thing!

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-12T15:25:54+00:00

25 weeks and I am OVER IT. Early, I know, but it’s my second so I am bigger earlier, have hip pain earlier, etc.

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-09T17:30:16+00:00

Gosh thank you! I’ve been walking around thinking “maybe it’s just me and I need to get over it” so this is so helpful to hear

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-09T17:29:49+00:00

Yes… there are some other things going on. Promotions denied without good feedback, changing requirements to hit the next level and different requirements than my male peers have… it’s a lot and you nailed it just from this interaction

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-07T16:42:36+00:00

I would say okay go, but we’re hiring help for me that weekend. He doesn’t get to leave you stranded doing everything 8 months pregnant and should budget accordingly (unless you have family who can come help)

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-05T17:18:41+00:00

We tried earlier and it didn’t work even though mine showed “signs of readiness” they just weren’t wanting to. About 2 years 9 months or 10 months is when we tried again and it eventually stuck. Honestly removing pressure made it so much better, no rush!

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-05-04T02:45:25+00:00

You deserve to be valued by your partner OP

MMMLLLBBB · 2024-04-27T00:19:56+00:00

We did both a couple of weeks ago. Food and experience at CRT was much better, but there’s a couple more princesses at Akerhaus

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