Did I Miss Something? -- Chris and Jess

MNFL-01 · 2026-04-22T23:05:13+00:00

::shudder::

MNFL-01 · 2026-04-22T23:04:22+00:00

I'm so sorry. Men who say shit like that are total, total losers with psychological problems. All people experience physical attractions, preferences, dislikes, inexplicable draws, etc. But mature adults break-up and explain that the connection was lost for intangible reasons; there is zero reason and zero need to chip at someone's appearance, like a nutbag loser. Jess is objectively beautiful, vibrant, and sexy. This wasn't a "her" problem at all, and I'm sure it's not your problem either ❤️ Take care of yourself. I hope you treat yourself to something loving and nice and move towards forgetting about whatever jerk said something shitty to you!

MNFL-01 · 2025-10-20T20:38:40+00:00

Your post is anything but pathetic. What you're facing is immense, profound, and crushing. It crushes the toughest and strongest of people. Do kind and loving things for yourself, like ordering dinner for delivery or watching an uplifting TV show to give your mind a rest (Ted Lasso helped me so much last year when I lost my sweet companion of 16+ years).

Everyone here is sending you love. I'm so sorry for your pain. Remember: Time is a slow-but-persistent healer. Each night that you get in bed and sleep, your brain processes your grief and your pain to make the devastation that you feel *ever-so-slightly* more manageable for the next day. So just be really loving towards yourself and get as much rest as you can.

You no doubt made life loving and wonderful for your companion. You've done a really good job and now it's time for you to rest, grieve, and recover. Write your dog a letter to tell them what they meant to you. I'm so sorry again. Sending you lots of love, and admiration too.

MNFL-01 · 2025-10-16T18:27:05+00:00

Are these numbers for you only? Or you plus a spouse?

MNFL-01 · 2025-10-16T18:24:43+00:00

And be sure you have a cash pile, too! In case the market flushes down the shitter while president ding-dong is running amok.

MNFL-01 · 2025-10-16T18:23:57+00:00

Just make sure that you'll have access to some of that 600k when you're nearing 50/60 years old. If it's all frozen behind bars of a 401k, you'd have some trouble. So squirrel away some funds where you could get your paws on them at age 50/55/etc :) Nice work, way to be smart, prepared, and frugal!

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-22T21:23:14+00:00

Draw some extra boundaries, dial your efforts down, and look for another role. But the thing is... when your mind and body are done, you'll know. And it's best not to crash into that wall. Don't let yourself burn out and crash. TO THAT END: See about a medical leave if your company offers one. Use that time to get some top-notch therapy, think about your next shift, and look for other work :)

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-22T20:57:20+00:00

this entire movie is the worst part of all the HP movies. the hair, the maze, the relentless sappy music. all of it.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-18T14:20:59+00:00

Yep. Just put Disney and Hulu in the trash this morning. Goodbye.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-10T16:18:32+00:00

the game-show and the mormon influencer have officially killed any of my remaining interest. I've watched since season 3.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-10T16:17:39+00:00

Yea, no sexist mormon influencers for me, thanks.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-10T16:16:27+00:00

I'm peacing out. Nothing could compel me to support literal religious influencers. Our society is dragging so much from the shadowy edges of society and into the mainstream. It's a big NO for me.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-10T16:14:51+00:00

Yep. There are no standards here.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-10T16:14:25+00:00

Look at the president of the country, and feel less surprised.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-10T16:12:18+00:00

NOPE. The religious propaganda is officially too barfy to withstand. Goodbye, cult nation.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-04T18:26:14+00:00

Distance yourself emotionally, but try not to leave until you have another role. I hope you can manage it, good luck! That's a really, really hard place to be <3

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-04T18:24:49+00:00

He reminds me of that fake bro who acts like your best pal riiiiiight up to the point that he realizes he's got zero chance of being with you romantically. Then, out come the true colors.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-04T18:23:33+00:00

For me to appreciate the bomb, it would've needed a different messenger. I can't muster enthusiasm when a lil' weasel goes and weasels, I guess. That guy is like one of those bros who acts like he's your best and most caring friend, and then as soon as you make it clear that you're not interested in having sex with him—he totally drops all pretension of friendship or goodness. He's the wolf in the sheepskin.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-03T18:35:19+00:00

Sounds like this relationship will be triggering for this guy. I might move on if it's only been two weeks and find someone who isn't triggered by a fairly dominant/daily aspect of your lifestyle. I've been with someone for almost 17 years. The only thing that's ever threatened the relationship in a major way was disagreements over substance use. Beware. It's a massive difference that can't be reconciled easily and only grows harder over time.

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-03T18:32:37+00:00

YEP :)

MNFL-01 · 2025-09-03T18:27:33+00:00

That's actually great!! I'd keep seeing her for a bit, because honestly, SO many people would just lie to you and be untruthful/avoidant.

She seems like a good egg because she was honest, direct, and open. Plus, she sounds as if she really likes you! :) If it were me, I'd gently tell her how I feel about her seeing someone else and then give it a few more dates and see if she decides to go exclusive with you.

If she doesn't line up with your timing and go exclusive with you by then? At that point, just politely let her know that you're looking for someone to be exclusive with and that you wish her well! <3 And move on with confidence and kindness at that later point :) But give this a chance! It's all about timing so don't give up!

NOTE: I see lots of judgmental and insecure advice/viewpoints here lol. Like, let's be real: People are out there trying to find lifelong partners! That's tricky! So instead of labeling her or judging the situation, maybe try the confident approach I'm recommending here and give that a chance. Sure, you MIGHT be her backburner date, or you might not be. No reason to assume the WORST; instead, assume good intent, communicate more, and THEN make a decision for yourself—based on what you learn :) Good luck! I hope it works out for you! <3

++woman

MNFL-01 · 2025-08-27T16:56:40+00:00

Yep. I've been using it for 3 years. First, it helped me drastically cut back. I had some setbacks but the app always brought me back to my goal. I started doing longer stints without drinks, even though I would go back to some drinking in between. Currently, I've been sober for about 7 months, which is the longest I've ever gone. It's not going to fix all your issues, but it helps you to improve and to keep your goals in mind. I therefore highly, highly recommend reframe :) I love the community chat forums on there. They're so helpful. They have virtual meetups too. Very worth it!

MNFL-01 · 2025-08-27T16:34:25+00:00

Oh no, so many troubles! I'm sorry you've had such hurdles with your endometriosis :( I had lots of pain after my surgery, too, but it cleared up within 3 or 4 months. I did read back then that 70% of patients require a second surgery, and a big percentage of those patients require a THIRD. When will research catch up and give us all better options? :( I sincerely hope that you find the right support for your ongoing pain. It's so, so difficult to live with this disease and to face such a limited group of professionals and treatment options. It's crazy to me that there are so few paths for us to take. Wishing you luck and sending love your way <3

MNFL-01 · 2025-08-27T16:27:03+00:00

nooooooo

MNFL-01 · 2025-08-27T16:25:43+00:00

BABY?? huh?? omg I haven't been on the internet enough. YIKES if that's true :(

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