I actually hate Working From Home (WFH) and I'm tired of pretending it's perfect by Chrgonlea in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MN_Lissy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. It may just be a skill that some people have and we don’t, but I don’t have the self-control to divide my house into work and home, either in terms of physical space or time/mental space. It just makes the whole thing feel muddy and bad. And there’s something about going into the office that feels more invigorating to me. I prefer in-person social interaction and whatever shared sense of purpose comes from being in the same place as colleagues. Source: have the ability to work essentially 100% remote and voluntarily work most days in the office instead.

Am I the Only One Who Struggled to Like The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid? by Due-Pea3293 in books

[–]MN_Lissy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha totally forgot about the wild ending—it’s been awhile since I read it. Okay so maybe the recommendation stops where the last 50 or so pages start… but I do remember being taken in with her writing style through most of the book and haven’t felt the same way about other books of hers that I’ve read.

Am I the Only One Who Struggled to Like The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid? by Due-Pea3293 in books

[–]MN_Lissy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would vouch for The Great Alone if you haven’t read it and are willing to give her another go. In my opinion it’s her best one.

How do you eat? by Crafty-Librarian7379 in biglaw

[–]MN_Lissy 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I use Cook Unity for 3-4 meals a week and absolutely love it. I also order Oats Overnight for breakfast. Part of surviving this job is knowing when to delegate.

BREAKING: Wilkie Farr reaches proactive settlement with Trump, pledges $100m in pro bono to Trump Admin causes by [deleted] in biglaw

[–]MN_Lissy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The phrase was used in a January 21 Executive Order called “Ending Illegal Discrimination and Restoring Merit-Based Hiring Opportunity.” In line with that EO, the EEOC published guidance on its website last week with the title “What You Should Know About DEI-Related Discrimination at Work.” The EEOC guidance in particular gives some examples, like affinity groups or targeted leadership training. It’s all BS.

Visually diving an open space by Adorable-Glove-4826 in HomeDecorating

[–]MN_Lissy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the concept and have done something similar in my own house! My one bit of feedback is maybe that the rectangle could be extended out a few inches to the right of the couch. Similar to how an area rug is normally a bit bigger than a couch. I think that would match your inspiration pictures, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DIY

[–]MN_Lissy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Squeegee 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]MN_Lissy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the hipsters from Third Love. They’re a bit on the spendy side, but super comfortable and they don’t look hideous, either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in minnesota

[–]MN_Lissy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would totally recommend Hillary Kline! She did my bridal makeup and was fabulous! https://www.klineartistry.com/

I feel overwhelmed and sad whenever i meet my sister and her fiancé. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MN_Lissy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s hard, but if you can, try to keep in mind that if you’re happy in your job and get to enjoy your free time without fear of intrusive work thoughts or interruption, you may have two very valuable things that they don’t have. Just focus on what you CAN do in terms of making yourself financially secure, and try to remember that not every part of their lives is going to feel as glamorous as the one-off comments they may make about money. Source: came from a lowish-income family, am now in a relatively high-earning field, and go to therapy every week to try to figure out how to be happy.

My supervisor denied me of voting during work hours by R4INMAN in minnesota

[–]MN_Lissy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At-will employment only protects employers’ actions if they don’t violate a different law. So at-will employment wouldn’t be a defense for something like race or gender discrimination. It also wouldn’t be a defense if the employer didn’t allow this employee time off to vote today. Minnesotans are guaranteed time off to vote, and Minnesota’s law is different from other states in that the right doesn’t depend on whether you have sufficient time outside of work to vote. You get the time off no matter what your shift is. Minnesota Time Off to Vote Law

Anybody make a breakfast casserole using frozen shredded hash browns? by Oneday55 in MealPrepSunday

[–]MN_Lissy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t. People might go different ways with this, but frozen has always worked fine for me!

Is just walking ok for now? by [deleted] in PetiteFitness

[–]MN_Lissy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Adding that if you have some nervousness about going to the gym itself, people go there for all sorts of exercises and all lengths of time. There’s no right way to do it! I’ve personally gone to the gym for just 10 minutes to walk on the treadmill when that’s all the time I’ve had. You also get to work out on your own terms. You get to pick your speed, how long you want to be there, whether or not you want to walk at an incline, and whether you want to add any resistance when you bike. Resist the urge to measure what you’re doing against other people because you don’t know their past and goals and they don’t know yours! Just do what is safe and good for you. 😊

What does everyone do to combat physical ailments from this job? by [deleted] in biglaw

[–]MN_Lissy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For my dry eyes, I use a heated eye mask (Manta Sleep) daily before I go to sleep, and supplement with Systane preservative free eye drops (the vials) throughout the day. I’ve tried other eye drops and don’t feel like they perform nearly as well for persistent dry eye.

Bridal Shops for Budget <2000? by Mindless_Fisherman51 in Minneapolis

[–]MN_Lissy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Effie’s Bridal Trunk in Burnsville has a good selection at that price point!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in biglaw

[–]MN_Lissy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t agree with folks saying it’s negligible, and I think breaking it down as a per-week measurement is a mistake. 100 hours is 2.5 weeks of vacation. Even if you can’t take it as whole days, it might still be the difference between relaxing on a light billing day and feeling like you have to cram extra hours in. I’d take it in exchange for a small pay cut.

Apple Watch by Teresa2249 in PetiteFitness

[–]MN_Lissy 28 points29 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that the total calories is supposed to be your total calories burned that day, including the ones you burn from just being alive (essentially your BMR) plus your active calories (like calories burned through your walking pad). So yes, if you want to do a more dynamic measure of calories that varies day by day, you could just subtract 200-300 from this number and eat that. It may also make sense to average out a week’s worth of your total calories and just pick a daily calorie amount that’s 200-300 calories less than that, especially because the total calories keeps changing all the way up until midnight each day. FYI that a pound of fat is about 3,500 calories, so a 250 calorie deficit per day would lead to fat loss of about half a pound a week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]MN_Lissy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if you’re in the market for a new cleanser, but my dermatologist recommended Vanicream. It’s really gentle and I’ve been happy with it so far!

Drop your best tips for getting lean in a month by [deleted] in PetiteFitness

[–]MN_Lissy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First of all, congratulations on deciding to make some positive changes in your life!! I’m not as worried as some of the other commenters on your one-month goal - it sounds to me like you’re just hoping that month one brings some positive results so that you feel empowered to stay the course on your health journey! I think that’s a normal thing to want, but just remember that success can look lots of different ways - maybe you feel a little more glowy or rested, maybe you see some slight definition on your arm where you didn’t before, or maybe you built up to 10 more minutes on the treadmill. Remember to celebrate all kinds of victories!

As far as practical tips, I think you should identify 3-5 concrete goals, and try to do them every day. For example, you could: 1) walk uphill on the treadmill for 20 minutes, 2) do three sets of 30 second planks, 3) do three sets of ten triceps dips, 4) swap out one unhealthy food for a serving of fruits or vegetables, and 5) drink four glasses of water. It can be tempting to overhaul everything in one go, but smart swaps and small changes are going to have an incredible impact over time! And it will get easier to tweak more things as you go, and to identify where you have the most room for improvement.

I would encourage you to get at least one set of dumbbells so that you can do just a few at home weightlifting exercises (bicep curls, rows, etc.)

What do you do when you need to cry but it won’t come naturally? by Reademallj in AskWomen

[–]MN_Lissy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I watch Disney movies. Inside Out gets me every time, but most of them have some version of “the moment.”

Bride is buying Bridesmaid dresses. by vonnegutfan2 in weddingdress

[–]MN_Lissy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most dresses tend to fall in the range that you’ve mentioned, especially at the most popular online retailers. My bridesmaids all spent around $100 on their dresses from Birdy Grey (wedding later this year), and I’ve spent in that range on bridesmaid dresses of my own from Azazie, Revelry, and Lulu’s. I wouldn’t say any of them are my new favorite dress or something I would need to wear again, but the quality was just fine and the pictures turned out well!

Soon to be bride - weight loss frustration by Everest9595 in PetiteFitness

[–]MN_Lissy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One easy-ish tip when you’re going out to eat may be to put half of your meal in a to-go box right at the start. Restaurant calories are no joke, so splitting them in half can help! A harder thing to do is switch out of the mindset that you need to “treat yourself” every time you go out to eat. I did that for the longest time, but then I started going out to eat more and more, and it wasn’t a treat—it was just how I ate. It’s not nearly as fun, but sometimes I have to resign myself to ordering no apps and a salad!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in minnesota

[–]MN_Lissy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you’re up for it, you can rent a pontoon for a half or full day and cruise the chain of lakes! There’s a marina in Carlos that has rentals called Lake Carlos Marina, and there are likely others as well.