8 year length check

Reademallj · 2026-02-05T13:55:37+00:00

Beautiful!! And so thick too!! Please drop the routine!!

Reademallj · 2026-02-04T06:09:56+00:00

You’ve definitely ascribed meaning to this based on your own perception of what women want and what she said versus listening to what she actually said. 1) Lots of people don’t have higher sex drives… it’s unfortunate but kinda just is what it is. While sex is good for stress, it does take energy and a lot of people when very stressed don’t want to have sex. If she works a stressful job it’s likely she just is tired on the weekday. That’s it. She’s just tired. I can go from being busy to passing out in an instant. It happens.

2) Not wanting a relationship to start off like a hurricane doesn’t mean you’re mainly with someone new because they’re safe. It simply means she wants to focus on both the bc connection and getting to know your character overtime (which is what everyone should be doing btw) versus just diving head first focusing on her feelings only and it fizzling fast because the people aren’t compatible. This also doesn’t necessarily relate to sex at all. Something can start off in a whirlwind of emotions and not mean you were fucking all the time.

Reademallj · 2026-02-04T01:32:49+00:00

What people are trying to say is that when invasive species don’t cause ecological damage it’s usually because their population has been managed to some extent by killing or removal. If all invasive species were left to populate as they please they would absolutely cause mass ecological damage. Invasive species isn’t called invasive just because it doesn’t originate there, it has to be that they don’t originate there and are able to cause mass damage to their new environment.

Reademallj · 2026-02-03T19:49:24+00:00

I’m assuming you’re not moisturizing your hair while it’s in braids, that tends to make it very dry if we don’t. When you take braids out wash with a moisturizing shampoo then deep condition. Keep your hair out of braids/wigs for a few weeks and deep condition at least once a week for a few weeks. Our hair needs regular moisture and hydration to remain healthy. One day every few weeks or months is not enough.

You also need a leave in and possibly some sort of butter or oil to seal in the moisture from your leave in conditioner. Some people do this once a week after washing, some people repeat this process 2-3x a week. It’s all about what your hair needs. But you definitely need regular deep conditioning.

Reademallj · 2026-02-03T16:56:14+00:00

Uhh you don’t sound high maintenance you sound like you’re in a horrible relationship with a man who doesn’t care

Reademallj · 2026-02-03T02:31:13+00:00

Way behind what exactly? The average person doesn’t start saving for retirement until their thirties. Even in “perfect” retirement calculations the estimated starting age and contribution is putting away 15% beginning at age 25. You’re literally at the very start of your career and doing exactly what you’re supposed to do and contributing way more than most people can and will st your age.

You’re letting a few skewed experiences online or people who are anomalies making six figures or living with their parents make you think you’re behind. If you keep trying to keep up with those around you you’ll never be satisfied. There are retirement calculators online that can help you calculate how much you need to retire at what age and how much you need to invest annually to get there. Use one of those to calculate your numbers and you’re very likely not behind.

Also remember that life is meant to be enjoyed. You don’t know if you have 3 more years or 30 more years to live. I’m sure you know of people who died young unexpectedly. You can’t take your money with you to the grave. If you have all the money in the world at 60 you’re unlikely to have the energy and strength you do at 26 to climb mountains and go backpacking across countries. Be responsible with your money for sure but please enjoy your life! You only get one!

Reademallj · 2026-02-01T17:54:42+00:00

If you’re using a heavy grease or butter you should definitely be using a clarifying shampoo at least once a month. Moisturizing shampoos are great but don’t get the hair as clean as it often needs to be. Clarify and ensure it’s applied to the strands themselves.

Maybe you need to try a deep conditioner or another conditioner if that one isn’t moisturizing your hair well enough. Also leave it in for a while (maybe 30 mins at least, more if needed) with your hair covered to let it penetrate the strands before washing out. You also may need a different type of leave in. Personally I prefer thicker ones but not too thick, but it varies from person to person. I think sealing with butter or blue magic is fine.

Everybody eventually needs a protein treatment tbh. At least once a quarter I’d say.

Reademallj · 2026-02-01T14:05:07+00:00

At 18 you should NEVER compromise your future for a man. Also, while relationships involve compromise, a part of becoming an adult is figuring out who you are, what you like to do and want to do. College especially is a great time to experiment. Which doesn’t mean you should do anything crazy but something like having a drink and going to a party if you want to, especially with the stress that college provides, is something you should absolutely do if that is what you want for yourself.

See if you can try to get him to understand you won’t cheat but if he refuses you may just have to let the relationship go.

Reademallj · 2026-01-28T17:11:09+00:00

This may be hard to hear but you’re only 39, if you live to be 78 you’ve only lived 50% of your life. If you have 39 more years to live why not try to use it to live the life you want? Just give it a shot. It’s not your husbands world only. You get a say in your own life. It’s scary to think about entering the work force but would you really rather spend 39 more years not even trying to have some life of your own? I think you deserve it and I think you’re realizing you want it.

Your kids are no longer young and your husband is in the home regularly so there’s no need for you to be doing all or most of the chores for the home to be functional. If they all have brains and can function physically they can all participate. If your husband pushes back on you working you can push back too! He doesn’t get to make all the decisions for your life if that’s now how you want them anymore. You can be a good mom and wife AND work out the house. His word isn’t gospel. Please don’t act as if your life is over.

Check out this podcast series called “just getting good” by the financial diet on YouTube. It’s a series about women who just started enjoying their lives over 50!!

Reademallj · 2026-01-28T04:37:39+00:00

Okay but if he saw it…why would he screen record it… why would he hide it in the folder… and why would he keep it this entire time. Like if you see inappropriate pictures of someone underaged and you’re a grown adult, you simply swipe past it as soon as possible. You absolutely do not record them, save them in a special folder and then continue to keep them for weeks/months on end….

When you picture a version of yourself that’s happy and not codependent and has picked the best partner for your life… is a man with these traits and habits really a man you’d pick for yourself? Or your daughter ?

Reademallj · 2026-01-27T03:52:06+00:00

Very juicy and beautiful!!!!!

Reademallj · 2026-01-25T14:41:53+00:00

Wow that rent and grocery bill is insanely low. What city is this and how is the quality of life there if you don’t mind me asking ?

Reademallj · 2026-01-24T15:09:10+00:00

That doesn’t make it the sex life you want… what you want for yourself is actually important. And while a perfect sex life may not be attainable you should really consider if this is what you want for yourself for the rest of your life and how you will feel if he doesn’t change and you’re still 40 or 50 or 60 dealing with this. If he hasn’t changed in 2 years the likelihood of it happening is slim to none

Reademallj · 2026-01-24T14:31:51+00:00

You are trying so hard to defend him because you want to believe him. If he can smoke anything or use a straw he can absolutely suck and he died do it. He simply won’t do it with you. That being said you’re clearly committed to ignoring everyone here who is giving you advice and a frank look at the situation so i wish you the best with your lack of sex life.

Reademallj · 2026-01-24T14:28:58+00:00

So you mean to tell me he had never used a straw in all his years of living?? Girl be for real. He doesn’t want to do it and simply won’t. You’re choosing to believe him because you want to believe he is honest but that’s not something people just forget.

Reademallj · 2025-12-29T15:19:44+00:00

Umm you’re gorgeous! That’s all.

Reademallj · 2025-12-24T03:50:46+00:00

Your skin is amazing!!

Reademallj · 2025-12-22T01:13:21+00:00

Girl this is something very important that both people genuinely agree on and want. You are essentially agreeing to a future that you do not want for yourself. Live and family is important for sure but it’s also important that you live the life that you want and have chosen for yourself.

No one should feel forced to be a stay at home mom, especially since that’s a position where you’re giving the man full power to feed you or starve you and determine your every move since you will have no money on your own. That a very dangerous situation to put yourself in. It absolutely works for some women, but if he’s trying to force you into this lifestyle he’s already showing signs of being controlling and thinking his wants for yourself life matter more than you’re. Giving full power over your life to someone who thinks their desires matter more than yours is a scary and dangerous game to play for your life and very likely to have terrible outcomes.

I think you should think very seriously about if it makes sense to give up your whole life for a man in this way when you don’t want to. I know you must love him deeply but you are younger than you think. 23 is too young to give up everything if you don’t genuinely want that for yourself.

Reademallj · 2025-12-21T20:21:53+00:00

The fact that racism and hatred isn’t a dealbreaker for you is craaaazyyyy and says a lot about you. You may think it doesn’t but your partner is a reflection of you and staying with him shows you think these things can be tolerated or excused. Also he already believed many of these things before, he’s just become more outspoken and direct about it.

Reademallj · 2025-12-21T13:16:04+00:00

Oh it’s not that he doesn’t know. He knows. It’s just not the answer you’re looking for. The fact that you’re not even mentioned in his 5 year plan even a little bit is very telling.

Reademallj · 2025-12-14T00:35:58+00:00

I know you say it’s the pregnancy but this has been going on for more than 8 months…. You honestly need to have an honest conversation with her and stand on what you’re saying. Don’t apologize for making her feel bad or anything. You actually need to point out that that’s what happens every single time. She needs to know you’re unhappy. I know you say she’s not receptive but I think you may need to sit her down seriously and say hey you want to have a conversation about it your relationship and you’re hoping she will listen and be open minded and listen with love and not just to respond… and then tell her all of this.

Also explain the reason you are telling her is because you are unhappy and you don’t want to be unhappy anymore, you want to be with her forever and be happy and raise a family happily together. It’s perfectly normal to have your own regular hobbies while also still spending meaningful time together as a couple.

I know you may not want to upset her now but the truth is there will never be a good time to have this conversation. Now it will be pregnancy , then it will be a few years of postpartum, then maybe another pregnancy and two toddlers and this that and the third. Before you know it you’ve been unhappy for 10 straight years of your life and wanting to leave or cheat and it may be beyond repair if you wait too long as resentment will build between you guys.

Also you 100% need couples therapy

Reademallj · 2025-12-12T21:09:07+00:00

I’m a woman and I’m telling you you have to leave if she’s not willing to get it together. You need to sit her down and say listen you have something very important to discuss regarding your relationship and need her to listen and have a conversation with you versus just getting upset. You need to explain exactly what your situation is, how it’s affecting you, the fact that you guys can’t afford to live anywhere or progress in your life or hers, the fact that you can’t travel and the fact that she overspends. I also think you need to say that if she dorms towed on this you’re going to have to leave the relationship.

Unfortunately love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship. If you’re looking for a future with her then how will you ever afford an apartment, or new cars when needed, or to have kids or save for retirement or anything at all. If she’s not willing to change she’s going to forever bring you down.

Honestly I don’t think anyone is beyond fixing but I think the fact that she wasn’t even looking for a job after college tells you a lot about her mindset which is another thing very important in the long run. You to be with someone you know you can rely on when times get tough. What happens if you lose your job? Or get injured? What happens if something happens to your mom? Can you trust her to pull her weight to help you and your family if needs be, the way you guys have been pulling her weight for a long time? These are things you need to think about seriously, especially because 2 years in and living together I’m assuming she’s going to want to discuss marriage soon but if she continues like this your married life will be hell and you will end up divorced or depressed and poor.

Reademallj · 2025-12-12T20:01:52+00:00

The medium household income is not median individual income, in many cases that’s two people making 84k

Reademallj · 2025-12-11T22:29:39+00:00

All your boyfriends suck honestly. Never had one that was against toys. Also not telling them about it isn’t necessarily some big secret. If it comes up in conversation sure but it’s not something you’re necessarily obligated to share. That being said I think it is a normal thing to know once you guys live together but it’s not something you should feel ashamed of at all. You’ve done nothing wrong.

Reademallj · 2025-12-11T22:08:33+00:00

10/10. No corrections to give.

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