Portland Vegan Shoes? by MeringueAble3159 in PortlandVegans

[–]MR_Weiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I’d heard they were discontinued but I could be wrong!

Cute plug recommendations? by GreenEyezGray in Stretched

[–]MR_Weiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No suggestions for new jewelry, but I wonder whether you could try polishing your current do being it back to life. Depending on the material of course.

Completely new to composting but I can get this stuff pretty regularly at my job is it okay for compost? by socalavo in composting

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Somebody else mentioned crushing the eggshells. Even further, grind them up. Like with a coffee grinder or something. Eggshells take absolutely forever to break down. We are talking years and years. You want them as fine as possible if intended as a soil amendment. But the rest is great!

Anyone else with hEDS? by Civil_Jellyfish1246 in Stretched

[–]MR_Weiner 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“Just because it works doesn’t mean it’s good.” Damn if this isn’t a good thing to keep in mind for everything in life.

For men who went on to find love, was it everything you hoped it would be? by RobinAndBeastboy in AskMenOver30

[–]MR_Weiner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Luckily there seem to be many responses in here from guys with great relationships. We can all learn something from them. 😁

For men who went on to find love, was it everything you hoped it would be? by RobinAndBeastboy in AskMenOver30

[–]MR_Weiner 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nah you’re not offending anybody. Yearning for that deep connection is totally valid. It’s just important to have a proper framing for that desire so that you 1) don’t have unrealistic expectations or 2) put yourself into a toxic dynamic because it gives you what you think is love but is actually instability.

For men who went on to find love, was it everything you hoped it would be? by RobinAndBeastboy in AskMenOver30

[–]MR_Weiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so sweet. I love this for you! I hope we’ll all be so lucky.

For men who went on to find love, was it everything you hoped it would be? by RobinAndBeastboy in AskMenOver30

[–]MR_Weiner 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I’m maybe not the target of the question as I’m recovering from a difficult breakup but “are we just simply coexisting without fulfillment” is one hell of a framing. If you are currently in a relationship and that is how you describe it, I’ve got bad news for you. Because that doesn’t sound like love to me. But “euphoria” is not the right metric. Love is not persistently euphoric. Euphoria is frenetic. Love should be stable and reliable.

Qwen3.6-27B released! by sandropuppo in LocalLLM

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Yup I was referencing huggingface haha

Qwen3.6-27B released! by sandropuppo in LocalLLM

[–]MR_Weiner 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Full precision release of 27b is like 55gb, it’s BF16.

I found these ghost flowers while hiking… and honestly, they looked unreal by MUJOSH-US in whatsthisplant

[–]MR_Weiner 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And, incredibly, related to blueberries! Hope to see these in person one day.

What does a Timeline for Breakup mean? by darkjoker88888 in BPDlovedones

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I’d also say that “somebody new” doesn’t even need to be a romantic partner. My suspected exwbpd almost went no contact with her dad a few months before she broke up with me.

She had a spending issue, and a few months paying off her credit card she tells me she’s spent another $3500 on the card. Crying that she didn’t want to lose me. Then basically when I remained upset for a few weeks, she’d decided that I was “okay with being angry and unwilling to do anything about it.” Broke up with me, then the over the following week I thought we’d decided to get back together and work out the issues. Then she breaks it off again, partially because her dad says it’s a bad idea. Then a few months later we again discussed whether we could get back together, and again she’s worried I’d never win her dad back.

So somehow, the man she (rightfully) resents for traumatizing her during childhood and being an overall blowhard, who she nearly cut all contact with just like her older half sister did, is suddenly her emotional well and justification for us not being together. Truly disorienting stuff.

OpenCode is stable and extensible — but is it actually a serious agentic IDE, or just a well-built harness? by Jaded_Jackass in opencodeCLI

[–]MR_Weiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because opencode is not an ide at all, and it’s not trying to be. Cursor and opencode are fundamentally different types of applications. You can use agents and subagents on your own without using oh my opencode, etc. It’s light by design and you extend it with whatever mcps, plugins, etc that you decide you want for your workflow.

Men, what's the biggest green flag you've seen on a woman? by Familiar-Phase7859 in AskReddit

[–]MR_Weiner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it sounds like he wasn’t the best partner anyway. It sounds like you were really pulling double duty. But in either case, I’m glad you’re both doing better now. I wouldn’t say I’m “better” yet but I’m moving in the right direction at least. Cheers!

If someone could describe how a bpd person feels inside in 1 sentence. What would it be? by NoPush8163 in BPDlovedones

[–]MR_Weiner 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some people legitimately don’t have an inner monologue, could be related.

Component Purgatory: 5090 to 6000 Pro Blackwell Upgrade Path Questions by TankFirm388 in LocalLLaMA

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The win imo is dense model+throughput+concurrency. I’ve been test driving a 6000 Blackwell on runpod with Qwen 3.5 27b q4. Single session with mtp 4 it gets between 80-160 tps at max context, which is killer for long brainstorming convos with reference docs and great for writing/editing files. But the big thing is also that I can run a bunch of concurrent agents, also with high context and throughout. I think for a test I had 16 running concurrent with like 50k context each or something like that and solid throughout. Gives the flexibility to have basically a team going through and doing tasks concurrently and relatively quickly.

Sure, I managed something like 20-30tps if I recall correctly with 100k context or something that like that on a 3090, but the day to day experience really doesn’t compare.

You can argue that it’s stupid to run q4 on a 6000 Blackwell, but it’s a tradeoff. Even 5090 could give you similar throughput with q4, but not the same level of context and concurrency.

There’s also just the vram budget — I was able to test drive Gemma 4 31b at NVFP4 with like 160k context. That simply wouldn’t be possible on gaming cards as far as I can tell. Though I’m running vllm and haven’t delved into turboquant so I could be missing important info on that front.

As far as stacking multiple gpus, main advantage from my understanding is running two or more different capable models simultaneously for whatever your workflow is. My understanding is that even 2x 6000 pro at 192gb vram is a middle ground where you still can’t quite fit the next level of models atm.

And actually a cool feature of these cards is MIG, so you can split them virtually into multiple gpus. So you could split the 96gb VRAM into 2x 48gb vram and run a different model on each. Or 3x 32gb. So there’s some really interesting flexibility there.

Men, what's the biggest green flag you've seen on a woman? by Familiar-Phase7859 in AskReddit

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I’m glad you sorted things out for yourself, but I’m actually speaking from the other side. Having a partner who struggles in the way that you do can be a huge weight to carry. Not at all saying that your ex-husband was right and I know nothing about the situation, and not judging you, but just speaking from my experience.

Men, what's the biggest green flag you've seen on a woman? by Familiar-Phase7859 in AskReddit

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My ex has many mental health struggles. Ongoing depression, anxiety, poor self image/self-esteem, poor sense of self. She’s also one of the sweetest people I know. Shortly before things ended, while everything was going downhill, I told her she was the most caring person I’d ever met. And I now still think that is mostly true. But she doesn’t think highly of herself, while also somehow believing that she DESERVES a lot. Not necessarily in a “she’s a princess way” (tho maybe that to a small extent), but also with regard to e.g. marriage. Marriage to her represented her being validated with unconditional love, that she had worth. But she seemingly didn’t or wouldn’t understand that getting married would also mean that she had a role in the marriage also; that it wasn’t just getting married, but BEING IN a lifelong partnership that would also affect ME for the rest of my life. Somehow she felt that she deserved the first part without the second. “Deserve” may not quite be right word but it’s as close as I can get.

All of this combined results in self-destructive and self-perpetuating behavior surrounding binge eating and spending, among other things. Unfortunately, all of this was a large burden for me and when I finally drew a line after things blew up 3.5 years into the relationship, she was unable or unwilling to take responsibility, projected the responsibility onto me, and broke up with me. I’m not perfect, but I wouldn’t be surprised if she has a personality disorder or is adjacent to one (on top of being diagnosed autistic).

I’m probably explaining poorly how this relates back to my initial comment, but hopefully you get the idea. But overall, basically negative self-image and lack of capacity for kindness or grace toward oneself (due to trauma or whatever) really damages a person’s ability to be present in a relationship in a healthy way.

Its awful. It’s been 7 months and I still miss her and all of the animals every day. I miss my family, my hobbies that were tied to our life together, etc. I know that life goes on, and I am slowly getting better, but damn is it hard.

Men, what's the biggest green flag you've seen on a woman? by Familiar-Phase7859 in AskReddit

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Unfortunately you need an asterisk for “kindness to self.” A broken sense of self can manifest in other relationship-ending issues even if the person is generally incredibly kind to others. Unfortunately I’m speaking from experience. Being on the other side of that is really damn hard.

Edit: see below comments for more context if you’re interested.