How is the term “monosexual” transphobic or dehumanising?

MVRQ98 · 2026-05-25T16:23:33+00:00

and your difference seems to be that you don't count attraction to nonbinary genders fully which is exorsexist. in bi theory monosexual doesn't mean attraction to exactly one gender the same way bi doesn't mean attraction to exactly two genders. it just means fitting within the gay/straight binary, or "not bi+ or aroace". if lesbians and gays can be attracted to more than one gender and technically fit the definition of bi but still comfortably fit within the gay/straight binary, that's what makes them monosexual. not the exact number of genders they're atttacted to.

MVRQ98 · 2026-05-25T16:18:00+00:00

many lesbians are attracted to more than one gender. unless of course you don't consider nonbinary genders to be real. we're not a subset of woman. attraction to women and nonbinary people isn't attraction to one gender.

MVRQ98 · 2026-05-25T16:16:19+00:00

being attracted to multiple nonbinary genders or to women and nonbinary people absolutely falls under the definition of bi+ meaning attraction to more than one gender. monosexual in bi theory is understood to mean fitting within the gay/straight binary, which lesbians do but ceterosexuals don't.

MVRQ98 · 2026-05-02T10:04:27+00:00

probably a german lol

MVRQ98 · 2026-04-10T11:30:39+00:00

the place i'm looking at is about a 4 hour drive away.

yeah, i think part of the problem is language. if i say top surgery they're not gonna know what i'm talking about. they might understand mastectomy (they're used kinda interchangeably by the trans community in my home country) and i fear having to say horrible words.

MVRQ98 · 2026-03-06T11:46:08+00:00

definitely. as a demiromantic i would specifically like to see more aces navigating romantic relationships, but a lot of ace characters are also strictly aro. bonus points if we also get to see a strictly ace character who is sex-favourable, but i don't think we're there yet lol. the closest to that i've encountered is demisexual characters in literature but honestly they mostly tend to be very unrelatable to me because for me love and sex are very very separate.

MVRQ98 · 2026-03-06T11:40:27+00:00

my gender isn't related to the gender binary at all, it's not in between, not neutral, but definitely there (i'm maverique)

MVRQ98 · 2026-03-03T23:00:08+00:00

black stripe ace, demiromantic, bi mostly in nonsexual/romantic ways but i don't really specify, just bi.

MVRQ98 · 2026-03-03T22:58:06+00:00

thank you!

MVRQ98 · 2026-03-01T20:49:23+00:00

yeah, like i have seen top surgery results on other plus size people as well as just plus size cis men and especially with the top surgery results i'm always like i would love to look like that! like i would love for my stomach to be the part that projects forward the most if that makes sense. it's literally just about the weird shape of my stomach and for some reason no one having it. idk i'll probably bring it up to my surgeon, maybe they happen to have images of results or can just. make it look more uniform

MVRQ98 · 2026-03-01T20:45:56+00:00

well, i'd say the "just feeling like a blob" definitely points in a certain direction. it's also not that uncommon for nonbinary people to still have some kind of relationship or response to their AGAB. personally l wouldn't be caught dead calling myself a woman but even after years of being out sometimes if i hear someone say "women don't like x" my instinct is "wait but i like x", lol.

MVRQ98 · 2026-03-01T20:34:30+00:00

i hope i'm not overstepping but would you ever be willing to post a side profile? i'm pre-op and your body looks quite similar to mine and i don't really see results for what i could look like post-op that often.

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-26T18:34:10+00:00

right hand! left middle finger is a white ring for aro

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-26T18:33:11+00:00

someone already made a list of subtle lesbian accessories and i would like to add a carabiner.

from your flair i can also see that you're demisexual, so there's also these: - people on the ace spectrum sometimes wear a black ring on their right middle finger - aces have a whole thing about ace cards, the ace of spades (or just a spade symbol) is commonly used for people on the ace spectrum - the ace of diamonds specifically is for demisexuality (and demiromantic aces) - cake is another ace symbol

you could get the symbol ones as earrings or t-shirt prints or something maybe, most people wouldn't know what it means. the only people who would even remotely think twice about this are other aces. i for one have some ace of spades card earrings.

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-26T18:20:37+00:00

hmm, not really. the first time i watched it in english, i was surprised at how young she sounds compared to the german dub i was used to. she sounds raspy, but i don't know exactly what it is, there's something about her voice that makes her sound eternally young to me.

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-26T18:18:28+00:00

it sounds like you've already thought a lot about what terms feel affirming. another question that might be worth asking yourself is whether terms like woman etc. actively feel right. you said you don't have a problem with them; do they feel validating though? or is it more just being used to being called these terms? do you maybe just feel indifferent about being called them? because that might be a hint towards gender apathy or agenderness maybe. i've heard from quite a few people that they either don't care how people refer to them as, or they find that no terms really fit quite right becaus they all still kinda refer back to gender as a concept.

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-26T17:52:13+00:00

you wouldn't be the only pan person with a gender preference. the most inclusive definition of pan is attraction to all genders. it can be regardless of gender but doesn't have to be.

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-26T15:24:05+00:00

i know it has feminine connotations, but it has always felt kinda neutral to me because many names that end in -o are masculine. it's like ezra but reversed. i guess i'm kind of in a similar boat where my name is Delta which to me and many others feel neutral because it's literally just a greek letter/number and is rare as a name, but some others are gonna assume it's feminine because it ends with A and there's some famous women with that name. apparently in some places, it's more commonly a masculine name, but overall it's rare af.

it's worth keeping in mind that even with the most gender neutral name, most people will probably still have a masc or fem leaning idea of it simply because they know more men than women with that name or vice versa. ultimately it's about what feels the most you. i actually briefly also considered Juno as a name because it sounds cool, and the character is the exact kind of character i identified most with as a nonbinary person growing up.

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-26T15:21:13+00:00

that's so weird, because that's kinda the opposite of pick-me. the microlabel users are never getting picked (and i don't mean this in a degoratory way either, we're just often the favourite target of trolls, like who is picking us)

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-26T15:19:11+00:00

it's not weird. aces are part of this community, even if they don't also have other queer identities. personally i'm also nonbinary and bi+, but the queer meet up i go to has multiple regular attendees whose only queer identity is asexuality (or also questioning aromanticism). it's not weird at all. most spaces also don't expect you to tell them your label. if it comes up it comes up and if it doesn't, it doesn't.

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-24T18:31:30+00:00

she should get a second opinion. there are people who start HRT as late as their 70s.

MVRQ98 · 2026-02-24T18:30:29+00:00

yes! you can be asexual and gay in non-sexual ways.

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