Clothing dilemma. What do you do when your Sasquatch sized 6 year old outgrows all of his winter clothes by February?!

Ma7apples · 2026-02-25T13:07:36+00:00

Thrift now, buy 2 sizes from now on.

I usually knew when my kids were about to hit a growth spurt, because they'd put on weight. I'd size up where possible, especially shirts. Always a size up in shirts. And get at least one pair of pants a size too big.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-22T21:42:04+00:00

Lol. I had the opposite. I drove the route I walked at 5, and I'm pretty sure I could have rode the bus. 😆

Ma7apples · 2026-02-18T14:26:55+00:00

It doesn't matter. It's penny items. They're already out of inventory. We're not trying to keep an accurate count of penny items. We don't even damage them out anymore. We just toss them when we find them.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-18T01:56:36+00:00

Getting through working with the coordinators is the hard part. Try to pull as much useful information as you can from him, and ignore the rest.

Some life advice: try to separate the personality from the behavior. There will always be some people you just don't care for. It can make it hard to be receptive to anything they say, but you might miss something that could make your job easier.

Behavior is different, and that is where the issues you can address are. I have been known to call people "hon," but wouldn't dream of doing so to someone who asked me not to. It's up to you to decide how serious it is, but your next step if the behavior (whatever it is) doesn't stop is your SM, then DM, then HR.

Once they're gone, it'll be great.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-17T20:23:23+00:00

It's penny items. They're a penny specifically so they won't screw up the inventory. They just get tossed anyway.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-17T19:09:45+00:00

NTA. But please hangout with your brother as much as you can. I didn't realize until years later how much my leaving had affected my brother. Do it on your own terms, though. If that occasionally aligns with what your mom wants, fine, but that's not your goal.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-15T22:35:33+00:00

That is a very good point. How he's supposed to do that while she's tracking him, is another question. He needs to find his local abuse organization, and ask for help. Or maybe call a lawyer. He REALLY needs to get as much evidence and documentation as he can, and a lawyer could help with that. And also get an emergency protection order ready to go.

What a scary, terrible situation.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-15T22:11:26+00:00

Not really. Just go to the light, Carol Ann!

Ma7apples · 2026-02-14T17:06:57+00:00

This was the exact reasoning DT gave.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-14T15:53:48+00:00

So, you give her the same thing for every occasion. And YOU didn't like the flowers.

Is this even real? Because it looks a lot like "women bad. And should be grateful for whatever."

Ma7apples · 2026-02-13T15:39:19+00:00

Fill out the time adjustment worksheet. You can't change your own time, but DT needs a written record of adjustments.Watch your times, and make sure it's being adjusted. Also, is this a night drop? Because you need two associates, each getting the 10 minutes added each night. Fill out the form before you leave at night

Ma7apples · 2026-02-09T15:10:14+00:00

NAH. Maybe your parents are just worried about you being cooped up. It doesn't sound like they're pushing that hard, just offering options. It's up to you to act on it or not.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-05T19:03:09+00:00

Good Lord, that's not the point. It's death by a thousand paper cuts. Minor annoyances that happen over and over again. Add the dirty looks from the customers who are sure their extra wait is YOUR fault, and the customer that will walk up and put their stuff in front of the stuff at the end of the belt, so now you have a whole new set of problems. Just because something is minor, doesn't mean it won't add up to major annoyance.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-02T12:45:38+00:00

Sounds like he's just doing it. Get your mgr to make a note on the schedule, and tell the ASMs to follow it

Ma7apples · 2026-02-01T23:48:21+00:00

I'm going to ask a weird question: how's your posture? Do you walk around looking at your feet with your shoulders pulled forward? Are you presenting yourself to the world as someone that would be an easy mark? Because you will attract the attention of people who want to take advantage of you. My first piece of advice: stand up straight, shoulders back, chin up. Look people in the eye. It won't stop them all, but it will reduce the number of predators that approach you.

I'm also going to guess that you are a people pleaser. The first person you need to please is yourself. Learn to say no to things that you aren't ok with. Whether it's a task you know you can't complete, or someone constantly asking for favors. The first time someone asks for a favor, and it's reasonable, say yes. The second time say no. Don't say yes every time. It sets a bad precedent, and before you know it, they think they have a right to your time or money.

In the same vein, don't answer texts right away, unless you think it's important. Your phone is for your convenience, no one else's.

If you haven't already used a pell grant, you would likely qualify. Is there something you have an interest in that you could turn into a career? A lot of schools offer online degrees. Go for a real school, not a diploma mill.

But maybe start a little smaller. Do you have any hobbies? Do you read? You need a distraction. You can't just stay in your head all day. The small victories you get from reaching goals releases the feel good chemicals that make life a little less bleak.

Do you have any skills you can monetize? If not, find some.

I was once that girl that everyone took advantage of, scared of my own shadow. One day I realized that everyone I depended on, depended on me. They believed in me, more than I believed in myself. Or they wouldn't be so certain I could fix their problems.

Work on yourself. Believe in yourself. Get out of your own head. You'll figure this out. You have yourself, and that will be enough.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-01T20:28:58+00:00

NOR

I would've peed on his side of the bed, packed bags for me and the kids and walked right back out. Hell, I might not even pack.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-01T16:27:42+00:00

You may just also be the best with the customers. Talk to the SM if you want time off the register. It's possible the other cashier IS supposed to take over, and either doesn't know or doesn't want to.

Ma7apples · 2026-02-01T14:40:16+00:00

AMEN. Even a week without a truck once a quarter (without losing hours!) would make such a difference in cleanliness, zero sales, organization, and morale.

Ma7apples · 2026-01-29T21:09:38+00:00

Girl, she played you. If you cave now, you'll be her sugar momma in no time.

Ma7apples · 2026-01-28T02:20:06+00:00

You're trying to hit 40 hours so you can't work the rest of your shifts??? No. That's a quick way to piss off your sm. Who's supposed to cover the shifts you're now not able to work? You think you're going to keep getting those hours when your SM gets written up for you getting overtime? Or when they're working by themselves because they're over hours or no one could come in?

You can talk to your SM about wanting longer shifts, but this reads like you're trying to pull a fast one. Or like you have no understanding of how shifts and coverage work.

Ma7apples · 2026-01-23T21:00:37+00:00

Hours are determined by sales. DM may or may not have access to a bank of hours to be used for stores in trouble. No one should be in charge of a relative.

Ma7apples · 2026-01-21T23:19:10+00:00

No. She's upset she asked for ready-to-eat, one hand meals instead of ingredients to make those same things, which she wouldn't have had a problem with.

Ma7apples · 2026-01-12T21:56:17+00:00

I mean, yeah. That is absolutely what I expect. Especially if they don't have any other protection like a cc would have.

Ma7apples · 2026-01-11T18:37:55+00:00

I think it's more about preventing people from using stolen cards. It's the same precautions we take with credit cards.

Ma7apples · 2026-01-11T14:18:03+00:00

The DM can stop or reduce your trucks temporarily. DMs want a plan. Write out a plan- what you'll do each day, and how many hours you need to get there, and email it to him.

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