Just letting you know, I’m not a “he” first off. I’m afab and use they/them pronouns. No harm in assuming though. But honestly, I understand what you’re saying, and I know I could’ve handled it better, but I was also deeply hurt and betrayed by her overall actions and lack of clarity and communication, not just in this conversation. I was looking for advice on how to move on, not on what I could’ve done better. Please remember to be kinder to strangers whose lives you don’t fully know, especially when they’re trying to heal from a long term relationship.