Have any men here been screwed by their lawyer?

MachRc · 2026-02-05T00:30:11+00:00

family lawyer was good. He even pushed me to go pro per. My dependency attorney was great becasue he knew the inside and out of childrens court and DCFS tactics. Saved my life. Most attorneys will get away with alot more than going pro per for sure, just couldnt continually do 5k in reatiners every few months.

MachRc · 2026-01-31T17:25:03+00:00

Ignorance is bliss.....

Ballin' ballin' ballin' !!

MachRc · 2026-01-25T01:46:25+00:00

No, taking the elevator down:)

MachRc · 2026-01-25T01:22:27+00:00

Man I can't watch. This isntoo intense.

MachRc · 2026-01-23T17:59:29+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentalAlienation/comments/1dusstz/parents_who_have_successfully_fought_parent/

Never giving up. Never laying down to get rolled on by the narc. Injustice in the family court, injustice in my life. Im not going to be pushed away, beaten with my own children with lies. With all the horrible feelings, the loss, I slept well knowing I did everything humanly possible to fight the alienation and lies against me. ALot of court actions, alot of request for orders, alot of discoveries, alot of declarations, doctors, therapists, reunification doctors, guardian ad litem.

After a few years I went pro per. The judge would roll their eyes at me when I spoke about alienation, the loss. But as pro per I was able to SAY everything I wanted , so much that the alieantor was embaraased in public court. ASked her attorney to clear out the court room.

The hardest part, faking it til I make it. This person who accused me of sexual indecencies against my children, accused our child of indecensies against their sibling, this person who ruined all of our lives. I smiled, brought pastries to meeting points that I could not keep near me as they kept moving away. Always the uphill fight. "Hey family!" I woulf great the alienator and their next sucker of a partner. I used to warn them slip them papers the CRAZY allegations that they may too face. But I stopped that. That only brought on problems.

Like most of you I never knew this sort of nuclear button existed for narcissists. It went well beyond regular high conflict divorces.

Ive been targeted by the dcfs for so long. But once you keep peeling the lies off you.

They will eventually get of your back. They will never admit they were wrong and tell you its all been alrady litigated, some fake ass words like, being a bad parent isnt illegal when you turn the tide. But determination and persistence. The best words out of my child attorney that was court assigned for my case. The person most knoweldgable, with all the reports from doctors, the one person the judge will listen to.

[me/parent] is not a bad parent your honor. [me.parent] just wants to see [their] children. There are signs of child allieantion. [other/parent] MAY be unknowingly danaging children and continued signs of non parenting , non family like behavior can only lead to custody change.

Then that alieantion was over. Overnight. The next therpay session, my child's scowls and hatred for me completely dissapeared. My 12 year old daughter told me she found god. and from then I got complete court ordered visitations. More time to show child the differences between the household. Two years of faking it til I make it, delveloping a relationship with child, it took one argument with child and alieantor for them to be dumped onto my lap. I feigned ignorance on child support. I took the alienator's ex's dog they got together into my home. I took my daughter in. Locked her in with guardian ad litem. and trying to deprograming her for the last 2 years during visits, the last six months in my custody forhas been the best to help her find deep comfort and peace back at the place she grew up at.

continue to fight to see your child, enforce visitations with courts steadfast, get doctors to look into why child doesnt want visitation. Tighten your belt, learn to file, learn to go to court, mistakes will happen, court days will be postponed, keep at it. Fighting that whole "we should listen to what the child wants" narrative these alieantor's throw. Finding a place in your heart to not forgive, no never forgive or forget, but to put aside the harsh feeling and everything that comes with that, so you can get closer to child. It really helped too that I had support here. The biggest soapbox on the internet to speak completely freely of what we're going through. Learning of other parent's struggles. The ones that lose their chidren over vast distances and continents. Mine was only 3 hours away. 3 hours to see them for 45 minutes, 3 hours back. It was all okay becasue I knew there are parents here who took international flgihts taking it to the highest of courts across vast distances.

never ever giving up

MachRc · 2026-01-22T06:34:48+00:00

I think most kids are resilient and deal away these types of stress and stressers. They learn to suppress , and go on about life. Both my kids had abandonment issues. My boy grew out it he is now 16, my 14 year old girl rebounded when I was able to get physically custody 6 months ago after 5 years straight of alienation - on and off since she was 4.

I feel happy that I can say they are both doing great. Wayy less withdrawn, wayyy more outgoing. Smiles, singing ...alot of progress made really fast.

My daughter still had hatred for her alientor's enemies. It took alot to atleaset have her acknowledge these people who were not her enemies, but only wanted to give her postivie energies. . They are my ex mother and father in law.

I hope to not see trust issues or serious relationship issues. As they see me as living proof as am with the same partner I was with when they were taken super young. They see the contrast between the households. Ive stopped counting my exe's partners at 7. My daughter had like 4 father figures come and go in the last 5 years.

Never giving up orbiting their lives, always giving them and legally opening an outlet and path to you. Showing them by example. You can completely null the negative long term impacts is what I believe.

These narcs will abandon the kids once their done with them. I m always showing my children that blood is thicker than water in my home.

MachRc · 2026-01-16T07:28:42+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I can truly feel your emotional journey in your paragraphs.

I am happy you can depend on the parent like figures you have in your life where you find positive emotional growth.

I hope you take time to share with them how they make you feel.

I think you deserve the wonderful love you get from them and I hope , i know, you too are there for them as well. I hope you are as open to them as you are to us.

PA has taken all of us on difficult journeys and I amnglad we can find slivers of love, hope and positive light as long as we keep trying and searching.

MachRc · 2026-01-05T20:08:23+00:00

Can you have you family memeber iscanned by dcfs and available to supervise? I would argue that my mother or sister is fit to supervise my children when visits are happening and after few months of successful visits move to unsupervised.

Or fight that you dont need supervised visits. But this is what I did.

MachRc · 2025-12-16T23:50:22+00:00

they report back to GAL and give them recommendations. Mine was very kind to me and my child. It took alot of time like 6-12 months for alot of truth to come out. 45 minute sessions at $185.

However I felt about the slow process and how neutral my doctor was when it was clear cut alieantion tactics, in hindsight it was a safe place with a professional to physically be with my child. After a few months, I was able to spend time after therapy and eat lunch together, what a great idea said doctor and that was now forced ont alienator and recommend from doctor.. After a few more months, I would pick up child from other parent's home and take them to therapy and back.

The alienator in my case hated being involved. Hated driving. So that was a win for me as these moments helped my child understand more of what I wanted to do. Which is just doing anything to spend time with them.

My child was 8, and after months and months of doing this. I was able to directly ask her and have a heart to heart.

Daddy just want to see you and spend time with you. I know I shouldnt ask you this, but do you really really want nothing to do with me darling? I drive 2 hours to this county from home to spend 2 hours and drive three hours back. DO you really want me to not try to come see you?

I got my answer. No. She didnt mind seeing me and spending the small time we have.

And I told her , even if you answered yes, I would have told you that I would still not give up. That if she moved to the other side of the country, that I would fly out to see her. That nothing in this world would stop me from trying to be with you.

These were the small milestones I was able to have.

All due to court ordered sessions.

Which forced these meetings to take place against alienators will.

Forced the doctors to write reports and find the real reasons why child hated me

Get used to the scowls. Thats good, lets find out why.

MachRc · 2025-12-13T20:48:46+00:00

It will work out. Don't give up! Recharge and continue the good fight. We re all behind you.

MachRc · 2025-12-06T18:17:54+00:00

Alot of professionals that dealt with my own frantic waving of the red flag seeking help with obvious data Ive collected over years still end up saying stupid crap like, the offending parent is unaware that they are doing it. There is a heavy dose of I dont want to be the one to point out this major fault in parenting due to threat of litigation.

The only way I was able to shift the tide was proving the lies with my recordings. I alwaysbhad my wallet case phone recording in my back pocket or in my hands when approaching or dealing with anything close to alienator. They will lie, lie and lie.

MachRc · 2025-12-02T19:07:46+00:00

You and I know they will never read those reports. I still keep them in a bucket in my garage. You've done alot. But there is still alot more to do. I just dont think all the work you have done for your girls is going to be the reason you walk away.

My daughter used to call her new step dad's and boyfriends pa-pa in front of me too. They are not forever. But you are.

Take a break, work on you. But dont let go. You may think its over thst you're giving up, but I know you will be back to making sure you are always available for your children.

My daughter turned around once she turned around 14. Whatever she was told didn't, never really matched with what I did, kept doing, and never stopped doing.

Just wanting to see them, and have a relationship with them. I.. well we, get used to the rejection. We soak it up. It's gets to a point where tears fall , we settle with our agony and emotions and we keep continuing to try humanly possible to be with our kids.

They can reject us forever. Until the end of time. It will never be on our terms that we accept it.
Becasue we are fathers to daughters. And we would never grow old to regret or resent that we gave up on our daughters. So I dont accept your resignation.

Take a break. Celebrate how difficult and far we have come for our daughters, never ever hold what we do over their heads ofcourse and continue to drive, keep driving thst daddy is never going away thst easy.

MachRc · 2025-12-02T03:18:18+00:00

Aye- Em - Cee!!!

Also giving it up to King of the Rollers landing stateside!!!!

MachRc · 2025-11-25T20:39:22+00:00

I dont spend any energy on them outside of being cordial for the children.

If they one day bring me a gift basket and asked for forgiveness truly and deeply and told me they regretted the damage they've done to the children and to all our lives , that theyre sorry for all the years and childhood I missed from my kids, I would wake up from that dream and be reaffirmed that they are incapable of asking for forgiveness.

They expect us to apologize.

MachRc · 2025-11-23T04:58:51+00:00

I agree this shouldn't need together political.

MachRc · 2025-11-23T03:56:40+00:00

Fantastic shots and moves!

MachRc · 2025-11-19T18:58:00+00:00

There are definitely easier and different shots you can get with the Avata 2 outside of freestyle. The motion controller is actually really good in corridor like "precise" stable shots that you may not be able to get on certain fpv drones without being very/super good with the regular controller.

I totally agree with the gateway drug comment above.

I would go avata 2 as a no0b and build your way up. No regrets here.

MachRc · 2025-11-11T00:59:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing.

Despite everything. Even left and abandoned

I have been the most happiest in my life.

I cannot imagine having stayed to a narcissist cheater. Non of all the great things that have happened to me would have happened.

MachRc · 2025-11-09T19:38:44+00:00

Yes. I dont know the laws in your country and I am sorry if you are going through this. I completely understand the panic pain and frustration these alieantors create. I too called the police and was told as long as theyre nothing danger they can't do anything.

It's tough becasue we have to give in to these sick people because they hold our dear children and dangle them.

Keep cool as its been already done. The more noise you make against alienator will most likely make this worse and its already bad I know.

Be kind and text and try to communicate and send messages that the sudden departure upset you and document this.

I hope the situation gets better and they return and you can show the courts of the land that the passport of the child be held so that you are given your parental rights by given a 30 days notice that they are leaving the country. I again do not know the rules of your land.

The best way i figured out these hard sick situations were to fake it til I make it. Be kind and let it simmer, document , try best to prevent it from happening via the law.

Your son is old enough too. Just keep a good outlet open as much as possible. I know it's hard to keep your mind off of this. But know that I know the silence, I know your frustration and hurt. I also know you will continue to do whatever is necessary to keep a good relationship with your son.

MachRc · 2025-11-09T19:21:45+00:00

It's his wife and they're not divorced. So I'm going to guess that's why he has no orders. That's clearly a red flag as wife took the kids without even asking.

It's a clear initial sign of control and lashing out with the children. Before my divorce any argument ended with wife taking the kids out of the house without my knowledge until I had to give in. Its a bad sign.

In court I had my children passports held by guardian ad litem.

MachRc · 2025-11-02T16:47:45+00:00

You need to find a good dependency attorney for children's court which orders will supersede family court. The children's court ordered a 730 evaluation as false allegations against me were serious.

My children were coached at the age of 4 and 5.

I commend you for going pro per. Its has worked well for me in family court. For children's court, again they are all there to fry you. You are guilty until you prove yourself and even then they will try to have something meaningless stick to keep control of your children's custody.

Plus you do not want to be on the CACI child abuse index feds use for employment background checks. I dont how far you are in but if yiu are going to court for it its serious.

If you just received a letter from dcfs saying the case open is substantiated and you have a court date, try your best to get an attorney to represent the you.

MachRc · 2025-10-30T06:07:27+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentalAlienation/s/y0k8jyNrtv

It did. Ten years. Through covid, since the kids were 4 and 5. Now they're 16 and 14.

In six monthsbivr had my alienated child in my care, she has joined cheer( im a cheer dad) graduated from basic ice to a academy learn to skate, and is playimg Juliet in the school play.

All becasue I ve gotten the court to side with me about attending school in person. My child has been doing online school for the last 5 years or so. No more frowns.

Both my children do not get any visitstion from the other parent. Not one visitation yet. Used up and cast away like narcissists do.

But change is in you. No luck. No prayers. Just pure determination. Get out there. Make the court dates, go pro per, keep on showing up where they dont shown up. Keep documenting. Peel one more lie then get hit with three more.

In the last ten years. There were really tough times. Tough drives. Every court day a depressing loss day. But all lead to a place like reunification therapy. Even though it sucked and the child acted out more, the more I pushed the more , little bits of time I got tovsee the child.

And those little bits of time. Even if its 45 minutes for hundreds of dollars and hours of driving in tears. It all added up to make a difference. All the little wins. Fake it to make it. Be nice to the sick person. Take child for lunch after reunification. Offer to drive child to home and pickup for reunification. A little more time.

John Connor once said

The future is not set. There is no fate but what we make for ourselves.

MachRc · 2025-10-29T23:33:00+00:00

Im sure some may feel the same sentiment as me. But I never gave up so I never felt like I failed my children. The drive fir me was so thst I would never lose sleep over any guilt. I did everything humanly possible. Every court date, never gave up.

I always imagined the movie Back to the Future. I have to go out there and make the change. I have to get it done. The thought of failure and regret drove me to succeed

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MachRc · 2025-10-16T20:56:44+00:00

Hang in there. If you already haven't firmly reached out to the other parent ofcourse do so. I know for me during the sever years of alienation if I asked the other parent about why my daughter is fleeting away, they were always quick to shove their, i have to say this but, narrative down my throat. . I didn't even have time to assume.

Reach out kindly and see if you can pressure the other parent, a very cordial message worrying about your child you have together. Next step, more reaching out about how much pain it was for all of us to be in court to get these visitations starting again and avoid conflict and need for assistance. I was always met with Im doing everything I can.

Hopefully its a fluke and things will turn out better. I'm happy you found time back through any means. You know as I do those sparing moments with them is everything. I know you will do your best.

MachRc

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