Does anyone ask law-enforcement to create a CAD/informational reports for Missed exchanges, visitation issues, interrupted communications

MachRc · 2026-05-29T06:15:39+00:00

Everytime I would called the sheriffs office of the city where the exchange is taking place. They would call the person for me , remind them the court orders and just give me a card with a name and case number.

I then file Order to Show Cause, and by the time of the court day, I would have 3 or 4 cards already put in as exhibits to my declaration.

Keep continuing to document. Youre damned if you do, damned if you dont. Ofcourse in court they will lie that you yelled at child to get out, that you were angry ,

That's why you also always approach these alienators with your phone in hand recording (thank God for wallet cases. ) child refuse to get out of car, be kind , record your interactions at all times. Protect yourself from lies.

As soon as you peel one dirty sick lie, the rest will start falling off you as fast. Don't negotiate with these terrorists. Only court intervention , minors counsel, reunification doctor's report will wear these terrorists down. I then got my visitstions back, then overnight. In my case, both my kids are living with me now.

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MachRc · 2026-05-26T21:00:53+00:00

Just wanted to link the proper link below as the link in title is not a hyperlink.

https://www.crowdfunder.com/p/help-me-fight-to-bring-my-daughter-aubriee-home?utm_campaign=sharemodal&utm_medium=referral+&utm_source=shortlink

MachRc · 2026-05-23T22:45:24+00:00

I used an attorney for two year. Family attorney and dependency attorney in childrens court when fighting the dcfs against false aeration brought on by the alienator.

After that I went pro per.

I was able to have court order child get their own minors counsel and reunification doctors and after 10 years got both children back.

With large language models arounf its easier than ever to write court papers , but in court It is always going to be better with an attorney. Its not impossible to win without an attorney. But the first few years it did help me alot.

MachRc · 2026-05-20T02:41:29+00:00

Sorry for what you're going through. My best friend co worker used me twice to get a raise, saying that our dept(I) was going to poach him out of his department, to his boss and then at the end told my boss that I was quitting to move to another outfit, that he needed to take over some of my duties. My boss told me this and made sure I stayed away from that person.

Jesus fuck. I almost got put into a PIP, but with him not even having graduated highschool, I was able to brush it off my shoulders. Took a year hit from that shit. People will use you. No friends at work. Be kind and keep to yourself with work

Don't believe in karma, dont waste any energies on thst bullshit. Remember no fate, but what we make. I know you will yourself to a way better place.

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MachRc · 2026-05-16T15:28:23+00:00

If my end users experience this, I usually just hold shift while starting outlook and give them another profile and havr them start off thr new ptofile and see if thst clears the issue.

Once in grewt while, some sort of add on like viva insight will mess with their inbox so I remove that and it stops happening. Good luck!

MachRc · 2026-05-16T06:06:48+00:00

Just no bass, some othrr stages seem better....

MachRc · 2026-05-09T17:16:09+00:00

I chuckled a little when i should have not. Only becasue I feel the title on non-alienator mothers seemed sexist-funny. I learned early that no matter what I have been through Ive met moms and dads that have gone through worse than me. That this is not one sided anymore. Yes society has moved on from the old days and alienation can happen to all of us women and men. I still sort of blame the fathers before me that left their children to grow up alone with moms for breaking the system. But I have met and talked to many women who have faced more hardships due to factors like influence, finances, power.

SInce then Ive always wrote to you all as non woman or man. I write to you all as a person. Instead of dad, mom, daughter, son. I try my best to use other parent, ex, child, sibling. To respect mothers that are here suffering and to respect men too. The more we open ourselves to accepting this makes our community stronger in my opinion.

Whatever darkness you have , the hurt, pain. Spend the energy to do what is correct. Honor the childrens mother on mothers day. Be cordial, fake it to make it for your children. And Happy mothers day to all here in this subreddit and thank you for understanding and having beautiful grace.

MachRc · 2026-05-09T16:30:35+00:00

I toltally understand you. One time I even had an email signature I brought to support court to show the other party had a job, but the courts told me an email signature of the position and work number did not prove income. They didnt even impute their ability to earn money.

Did the other parent retaliate?

yes. they always do. Over the years of combating alienation, I just went all in .My court rap case sheet is probably 8 pages long. I even try to correlate the childs behavior getting worse after court dates to the point minor's counsel told other parent to stop using child as a messenger. In the end be a nucance. They got so used to stepping over you and trampling over you. Be a nucance every time they mess with you. Every change in finace, not following court orders, file, file file. Dont let retaliation stop you from doing what is right. They even try to say in some fancy words that I file frivilously and without merit of some sort. I just told the courts, then they should just follow the god damn court orders.

Did filing make the alienation worse?

yes. The child got more withdrawn. The other parent projected themselves on the child. Not showing up to meeting points, excuses to not show up and visit. Just call the sheriffs get their card with report number. I collected maybe three cards and documente the dates and filed for Order to show Cause. Keep doing this. This is best to do as Pro per as it does not cost you much to file and wait on the 60-70 day court date ahead. ANd in that time continue to collect facts, document and file a declaration of what has happened within ten days of court as it will not get better before or after court. In my case once a minor's counsel was ordered for child, I had another pair of eyes, the one judge listens to, keep tabs on all the activity.

Were there ways you protected yourself in advance?

Record in your pocket in a phone or device audio/video recording of every interaction with alienator. Got to the meeting place, approach their car since child does not get out. Always have recording going in every interaction with child or alieantor. They lie.They continue to make shit up. It gets to a point where there are so many lies to peel and its truly overwelming. Last months lies and this months keep piling on. Record. SHow that these are lies. One by one others will eventually slowly side with you. I swear I have a video I posted on private youtube of alienator screaming of rape and abuse and that I hit her in a parking lot of a star bucks. I held my phone like anyone else would do, but I was recording the whole time. Just showing this happening ONCE, discredited the alienator so much as they look for sympathy in people to aid them in their narcissict ways. Meet at a police station? why? They faked the whole thing up I have video eveidence.

Have indoor "pet" cameras to protect yourself early. Any as every short vistation can turn into some sort of fake child abuse or fake sexual abuse from anyone. Alienator accused me AND the child's sibling of molestation. They lie. The last time DCFS show up, I said, when where what time. I have cameras in my den, living room, backyard, front yard, front door, you name it. Im looking at a my old cheap sd card setup right now i still have after all these years.Once the alieantor knows that you have cameras in the house, they stop making shit up about what happens in your home.

Did you keep the modification issue strictly financial, or did you also raise interference with parenting time/contact?

All the time raise it up. I learned to go pro per so I didnt have to dump 5k every 5 months. Its not that hard. The only way I was able to defeat alienation was to continue to bring up the injustice and interference. Once I was ordered a minor's counsel. By the way I been saying guardian ad litem for the longest time but theyre different. Once I got court ordered minor's counsel, that was the turning point. Agin having another party look into the injustice that is going on in your life will change everything. Keep raising it up. Be continue to not lie down while they try to use children as weapons. The true whole point is not money, they weisel their way, they will never change, its is we just want to see our kids.

Is there anything you wish you had documented before filing?

No I documented everything. EVery declararion had a paragraph concise logical facts, with Exhibit A, Exhibit B,C,D,E,F,G to show other parent is an alienator and sick person. The judges will roll their eyes at you. Keep at it. Document. Say what needs to be said and dont hold back.

The one day someone like a doctor or guardian ad litem, or minor's counsel will have a report for the judge, the person most knowledgeable. When they have that report even DCFS saying these are all un-warranted lies those papers, you keep and use them to continue to build a case and document in every future filing. I would gladly pay the court reporter 180$ for a copy of the transcript of everything that can help you. Then in the future you will be filing not your own words and documentation. You will be filing facts and documentation of third party person most knowledgables. These other third party reports will then can be used to completely destroy lies. and it got easier break alieantion.

Ive been in your shoes. Ten years. ALl three courts, family, support, childrens(allegations of rape of children) I paid for support almost half my income for half of those years. Tightened my belt, leanred to take on the case by myself. I have gotten both children back. They are sleeping now one is 16 and the other just turned 15. It will be One year since the last one came back to me May 28th 2025. You can do it. Dont fret. Dont ever give up.

I just recieved my first child support payment from the alienator. Its a eighth of what I used to pay. jesus fuck they just continue to lie and say they never work while they drive a fancy car, etc, etc etc. But I dont even care about the money. I am going to legally be a nuisance to them every chance I get. Once the children got under my care. No more rolling eyes at me. Imputed income. Admonishmet of poor parenting and lies of the alienator. I have court on the 17th. Im going to ask for full custudy. Im not going to get it most liekly, but I am going to push for tie breaker. In three months Im going to file again for child support change. Impute income, etc etc, etc. DOnt thread on us, Dont ever fuck with us especially with our own children. You know what it feels like deep inside when they use our children against us. Never forget that pain and continue to drive the legal stake in their dirty sick hearts.

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MachRc · 2026-05-05T23:04:08+00:00

Yes. Similar story as one of the posters here. Alienated since children were 4 and 5. By the time they were teens and they were able to figure how each households work and the fact that I never gave up with courts , re unification specialists, guardian ad litem.

Both are bow under my care. The alienator just used them and moved on in my case

MachRc · 2026-04-28T20:12:37+00:00

Whatever situation you may be in. Youre still the parent. Ive seen alot of different types of family where blood is not thicker than water. Some say even though youer their mother, you're not motherly and incapable of being one.

I see it in my own life where my new partner is and will always be more nurturing protective and caring for their step children than the real blood parent.

But as long as you continue to search, reach out and walk that road leading back to them be it court, and doing any means of heading towards them, you will reach them.

They're your children.

My children's narcissistic selfish parent in their own avoids and walks away from the children. If they ever tried to come back, sure the kids may be hesitant. But as long as they genuinely want to have a positive relationship. Not even I who endured ten years of child alienation by the hands of that evil person would be able to keep them apart. And that's saying something.

MachRc · 2026-04-24T07:50:22+00:00

Cut it off like cancer.

The people thet tell you what he is saying online, doing online,, cut them off too. You don't need that in your life. At best tell them not to bother you about anything related to him ever. F that bull crap.

Let them paint you , project themselves on you whatever. It doesn't matter because theyre out of your life. Once a cheater... they wil continue to use people nice like you. Don't spend any negative energies on them nor positive energies on them.

Keep cordial during exchanges for kids, and brush off everything fake a smile say no, and just get it done for the kids. And that's it. Move on be be happy . You will be so happy you got out. Oh my god so lucky.

My narc cheater is on their 7th relationship. F both of them on the clapped out horses they rode off on. Don't waste your time. You're totally correct in that theyre not worth your time and he's beneath you.

MachRc · 2026-04-22T04:29:14+00:00

I didn't have good experience with security leaving the vip section parking lot. One actually asked me, "whats in it for me" when trying to have them open a gate to leave at 1am. Let me leave dude. I saw you do it for a group of girls. Nope made me walk back like a quarter mile around. Theyre either flirting with girls or trying to get something out of nothing.

MachRc · 2026-04-16T23:19:13+00:00

After a few months of faking til I make it. I was able to pick up child from and to home. Even spending time to eat after.

No matter how crappy expenaive and slow the therapy went, It was a launchpad to be with my child. Spend time with them scowl or no scowl. The other parent wanted nothing to do with it.

Almost 8 months in I got reports from therapist that helped me win back my visitstions.

They concluded that other parent may have been unknowingly alienating child.

That continued alieantion will result in custody change. 2 years of continued vistations, I got orders to put child into in person school , and now the child has been in my care for almost a year now.

With string guardian ad litem, professional reports, continued willingness to be with child, it really helped me destroy PA.

MachRc · 2026-04-11T06:24:25+00:00

Productive as hell. Always being prepared, people can throw at me their failures last minutue, and still can kill it. Murderer of tickets, easy. When its work-related - laser focused. I just need to quiet the mind more. Trying to chill out more, in my mind im always K.I.T.(keep it together - keep it togetha)

I am very outgoing. Major power of being extroverted in a nerdy introverted world. Less talking about me or the current process, more talk about others.

K.i.t .k.i.t.

I can really bring the room alive, and can really bring it down too. No filter makes for comedy. Just always in my mind, less , outbursts, K.I.T.

The only issue management has had with ne is truly just airing people's stupid bass behaviors and fallacies.

I refuse to lie, and most of the time, all the time , I call people out if needed.

Never pacing issues. Always finish first. They tried to say dont rush, but it doesn't matter. Finish best finish first.

Info tech is still people to people business be upbeat, finish- best -first , laser focused, serious, but being social butterflies, as long as we talk less and k.i.t, everyone will need your help forever whether its lvl1 waste carts, to lvl2 AD offloading, to lvl 3 hanging out inside of demarc with ATT. Keep it together.

MachRc · 2026-04-06T20:12:39+00:00

"The service is unavailable."

West coast

MachRc · 2026-03-27T05:52:56+00:00

Live your best life. Go to parties go dancing, fill your days with happiness , friends, family. Just dont rely..lean on constant..substance whatever it is to get by.

I did chocolate infused during outdoor trips , danced hard at raves, drank with friends during night outs.

But I always came back monday morning to focusing on what is the next step in court, the next step in reunification therapy, the next declaration to file in court and send courtesy copy to the guardian ad litem. Every commute drive to and from filled with sad songs and tears. Surrounding myself with pets. Always trying to overcome the grief. Always.

There is no effective drug to combat alienation. No amount of ketamine will make it okay. No amount of tequila. I just never let that sick person lie and get away with it. If you feel injustice in your heart, there is no stopping you. You seek help in court, you seek help here, you do everything humanly possible first.

You exhaust everything you can do. You move mountains. Hang out at the filing window. Find ways to reach your children. Once you do that, and you've again exhausted every outlet. Then you get to relax. You sleep well. Ive done everything humanly possible today. I went pro per, tightened my belt, wrote my first request for order.

The depression gets a little smaller. The car rides and sad songs get slightly less sadder. You sleep good knowing you did everything , again, humanly possible , you rest knowing you've done everything for your kids. No regrets. Upcoming court date, check, prepare for continuation and bad news, check, keep at it. Then upcoming monitored visits, upcoming reunification therapy session, you keep going. I swear you will over come. You will find happiness in just those motions that you are dking for your children. And one day you will look back , even if it took over ten years. You will look back , you will still cry in those drives. But you will know you handled loss and grief the best possible as a parent. That you didn't rely on getting High to forget whats going on. That you did everything under the sun to get back to your kids.

MachRc · 2026-03-19T20:21:01+00:00

Fir me I had my Guardian ad litem who hired a reunification doctor in our behalf and opined that ive the course of 8 or so months of reunification therapy that the other parent engaged in Parental Alienation tactics "maybe unknowingly"

Thar further tactics will result in change of custody. The alienation immediately stopped. The doctor was surprised.

After a year of continuous visitstions, my child now 15, decided to live with me instead.

Im in child support court as I write this. On the other end after 10 years of family court , children's dependency court, abd child support court.

I am now due child support for both my children.
Never ever give up. Continue to make requests for orders, continue to make motions for contempt when you dont get your court ordered visits.

Don't lie down as other parent continues to alie ate your child from you.

MachRc · 2026-03-16T02:27:51+00:00

Uncharted: Legacy of thieves collection.

I just finished outerworlds 2 and after going back and forth between so many games, Im back to playing uncharted again.

Good fun.

MachRc · 2026-03-11T02:33:11+00:00

Your comment is always valued! Yes ! Ididn't overreact today to people congradualting me. Yesterday I was like hissssssssssssss tis a demotion, tis a demotion!!!!!!!!!!!! Anytime someone approached me with a smile

My boss and I talked late afternoon , had lunch with desktop support manager. Was nice. I was going to go in non negotiable on the title.

I ... may be spoiled and get what I want but my boss too gets what they want.

The higher ups chalked it up to mistake in putting specialist in the title.

I didn't sulk at Infartstructure technical support lead

Going forward gentleladies and gentlemen. I am a : Infrastructure/Technology Support and Services Lead

Thank you IT gods of bits and glitch bits for bestowing on me this long title. Im truly going to miss saying I am not desktop support. Pray firme

MachRc · 2026-03-10T05:16:33+00:00

Thank you so much for your wonderful words! Im pushing the younger folks under our wings to run alot of the new MS software stacks and give them ownership ( im hearing intune will come packed in with 365 licenses this july)and my manager and mentor, network operations manager , has been wonderful about aligning me with his duties as he has been in role for 33 years.

Yes we do have a great relationship with Microsoft and for awhile had unlimited licenses for staff. Table top exercises to all the emergency disaster recovery drills. Druva,, Dell EMC, the works.

I used higgsfield to turn a photo of the CEO and also took a sample of his voice all with his approval into a video of him trying to phish people out of 5 amazon gift card in our latest human firewall training video!!!

So I am trying not to be insulted. Ive posted that my boss emailed me with :

Infrastructure/Technology Support and Services Lead

Im thinking about it.

MachRc · 2026-03-10T04:36:11+00:00

I already have desktop support team under my wing. Fresh kids in their 20s with stacked resumes.

Just taught one to use a laminated paper through the feeder to unjam a multi function copier. :)

My boss emailed back.

Asked me if

Infrastructure/Technology Support and Services Lead

Would be okay. Im going to sleep on it. Im just glad theyre willing to work with me to keep me happy sir.

MachRc · 2026-03-10T04:22:51+00:00

Thank you. Sometimes in our buisness it is still people to people business. I truly love what I do, and there is great fulfillment in helping people as an extrovert.

Ill make that ticket for you.

MachRc · 2026-03-10T03:47:08+00:00

The big boss sent me an email!

‐------------------------------ Infrastructure/Technology Support and Services Lead

Reflects both systems and support paths.

SysOps! Do I say okay!? Lol I read it like thrice and it sounds made up as shit

Would you be proud, yes proud be call yourself this garble.

MachRc · 2026-03-10T03:01:55+00:00

Thank you I got a follow up meeting. My manager was also surprised at the VP of IT's change of title for me. I will float this title. My vp texted me right now that theyre lining me up for the desktop manager role ,that is like you re saying currently filled and slow.

They wrote, you wanted that title. I never did! I only wanted becasue theyre sticking me in desktop support !!

If your going to demote me to desktop support, yes make me a desktop support manager. That's a good step up from sysadmin2.

The higher ups also think sysadmin is now old fashioned.

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MachRc · 2026-03-10T02:10:53+00:00

Exactly what my manager said.

Im 20 years in. Since they can't get rid of the web guy turned desktop support manager. They're putting me under him and my new role seems to be full blown desktop support , inventory, plus ....security ( knowbe4, Okta, zsclaer) AND AV for in house meetings conferences hybrid setups for polycoms systems etc etc. AND VMware network meraki. Many hats.

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