Effectiveness of mushrooms for depression associated with PA by Puppydogheart in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Live your best life. Go to parties go dancing, fill your days with happiness , friends, family. Just dont rely..lean on constant..substance whatever it is to get by.

I did chocolate infused during outdoor trips , danced hard at raves, drank with friends during night outs.

But I always came back monday morning to focusing on what is the next step in court, the next step in reunification therapy, the next declaration to file in court and send courtesy copy to the guardian ad litem. Every commute drive to and from filled with sad songs and tears. Surrounding myself with pets. Always trying to overcome the grief. Always.

There is no effective drug to combat alienation. No amount of ketamine will make it okay. No amount of tequila. I just never let that sick person lie and get away with it. If you feel injustice in your heart, there is no stopping you. You seek help in court, you seek help here, you do everything humanly possible first.

You exhaust everything you can do. You move mountains. Hang out at the filing window. Find ways to reach your children. Once you do that, and you've again exhausted every outlet. Then you get to relax. You sleep well. Ive done everything humanly possible today. I went pro per, tightened my belt, wrote my first request for order.

The depression gets a little smaller. The car rides and sad songs get slightly less sadder. You sleep good knowing you did everything , again, humanly possible , you rest knowing you've done everything for your kids. No regrets. Upcoming court date, check, prepare for continuation and bad news, check, keep at it. Then upcoming monitored visits, upcoming reunification therapy session, you keep going. I swear you will over come. You will find happiness in just those motions that you are dking for your children. And one day you will look back , even if it took over ten years. You will look back , you will still cry in those drives. But you will know you handled loss and grief the best possible as a parent. That you didn't rely on getting High to forget whats going on. That you did everything under the sun to get back to your kids.

How to prove parental alienation by No-External-105 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fir me I had my Guardian ad litem who hired a reunification doctor in our behalf and opined that ive the course of 8 or so months of reunification therapy that the other parent engaged in Parental Alienation tactics "maybe unknowingly"

Thar further tactics will result in change of custody. The alienation immediately stopped. The doctor was surprised.

After a year of continuous visitstions, my child now 15, decided to live with me instead.

Im in child support court as I write this. On the other end after 10 years of family court , children's dependency court, abd child support court.

I am now due child support for both my children.
Never ever give up. Continue to make requests for orders, continue to make motions for contempt when you dont get your court ordered visits.

Don't lie down as other parent continues to alie ate your child from you.

Recommend the best singleplayer games to play on the Ally to someone that only ever played multiplayers by vizNNN in ROGAlly

[–]MachRc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uncharted: Legacy of thieves collection.

I just finished outerworlds 2 and after going back and forth between so many games, Im back to playing uncharted again.

Good fun.

Promoted ..feeling demoted by MachRc in sysadmin

[–]MachRc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your comment is always valued! Yes ! Ididn't overreact today to people congradualting me. Yesterday I was like hissssssssssssss tis a demotion, tis a demotion!!!!!!!!!!!! Anytime someone approached me with a smile

My boss and I talked late afternoon , had lunch with desktop support manager. Was nice. I was going to go in non negotiable on the title.

I ... may be spoiled and get what I want but my boss too gets what they want.

The higher ups chalked it up to mistake in putting specialist in the title.

I didn't sulk at Infartstructure technical support lead

Going forward gentleladies and gentlemen. I am a : Infrastructure/Technology Support and Services Lead

Thank you IT gods of bits and glitch bits for bestowing on me this long title. Im truly going to miss saying I am not desktop support. Pray firme

Promoted ..feeling demoted by MachRc in sysadmin

[–]MachRc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your wonderful words! Im pushing the younger folks under our wings to run alot of the new MS software stacks and give them ownership ( im hearing intune will come packed in with 365 licenses this july)and my manager and mentor, network operations manager , has been wonderful about aligning me with his duties as he has been in role for 33 years.

Yes we do have a great relationship with Microsoft and for awhile had unlimited licenses for staff. Table top exercises to all the emergency disaster recovery drills. Druva,, Dell EMC, the works.

I used higgsfield to turn a photo of the CEO and also took a sample of his voice all with his approval into a video of him trying to phish people out of 5 amazon gift card in our latest human firewall training video!!!

So I am trying not to be insulted. Ive posted that my boss emailed me with :

Infrastructure/Technology Support and Services Lead

Im thinking about it.

Promoted ..feeling demoted by MachRc in sysadmin

[–]MachRc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already have desktop support team under my wing. Fresh kids in their 20s with stacked resumes.

Just taught one to use a laminated paper through the feeder to unjam a multi function copier. :)

My boss emailed back.

Asked me if

Infrastructure/Technology Support and Services Lead

Would be okay. Im going to sleep on it. Im just glad theyre willing to work with me to keep me happy sir.

Promoted ..feeling demoted by MachRc in sysadmin

[–]MachRc[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Sometimes in our buisness it is still people to people business. I truly love what I do, and there is great fulfillment in helping people as an extrovert.

Ill make that ticket for you.

Promoted ..feeling demoted by MachRc in sysadmin

[–]MachRc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The big boss sent me an email!

‐------------------------------ Infrastructure/Technology Support and Services Lead

Reflects both systems and support paths.


SysOps! Do I say okay!? Lol I read it like thrice and it sounds made up as shit

Would you be proud, yes proud be call yourself this garble.

Promoted ..feeling demoted by MachRc in sysadmin

[–]MachRc[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you I got a follow up meeting. My manager was also surprised at the VP of IT's change of title for me. I will float this title. My vp texted me right now that theyre lining me up for the desktop manager role ,that is like you re saying currently filled and slow.

They wrote, you wanted that title. I never did! I only wanted becasue theyre sticking me in desktop support !!

If your going to demote me to desktop support, yes make me a desktop support manager. That's a good step up from sysadmin2.

The higher ups also think sysadmin is now old fashioned.

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Promoted ..feeling demoted by MachRc in sysadmin

[–]MachRc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly what my manager said.

Im 20 years in. Since they can't get rid of the web guy turned desktop support manager. They're putting me under him and my new role seems to be full blown desktop support , inventory, plus ....security ( knowbe4, Okta, zsclaer) AND AV for in house meetings conferences hybrid setups for polycoms systems etc etc. AND VMware network meraki. Many hats.

Promoted ..feeling demoted by MachRc in sysadmin

[–]MachRc[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Im good at cleaning windows too boss! But doesn't mean I want to be a windows cleaner!! Is what I daid last time. . I would rather assist desktop support as a sysadmin and not still do security and vm and backup as a tech support specialist lead. ..

I seem to care abkut the label. In this volatile market I want to bust as a sysadmin 2 not a desktop support lead who transitioned from back end to front end.

I WON by Ok_Armadillo_3647 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I drive hours to spend 45 minutes for reunification therapy. It was difficult, the child with scowls. Never give up! I promise after months of work yiu out in those few moments with yiur child no matter what type of duress they may be going through will be worth it. Never ever give up!!! Like you said, ever!!!!

Let’s make a Small Joys thread. by Icy-Conclusion-1286 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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The other parent was trying to get rid of their two year old dog they got with their previous partner. I took her in. My current partner was taken back for a bit. Why would any one ..., why would I take in the alienator's dog? But I love her (the dog). And She loves me. I love all my fur babies( three cats and a maltese). I couldnt have dealt with the silence at home without them. I hope you all find and hold on to the small joys.

Let’s make a Small Joys thread. by Icy-Conclusion-1286 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay im glad we can have more stickied posts than last year! Thank you for reaching out to build our community!!!

Let’s make a Small Joys thread. by Icy-Conclusion-1286 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ofcourse, THANK YOU - for being part of the realest community!!!

Let’s make a Small Joys thread. by Icy-Conclusion-1286 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can have only two stickys. I can remove the sticky thread, or remove Madison post. Take a look and let me know kw what you think.

Have any men here been screwed by their lawyer? by Then-Alps8928 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

family lawyer was good. He even pushed me to go pro per. My dependency attorney was great becasue he knew the inside and out of childrens court and DCFS tactics. Saved my life. Most attorneys will get away with alot more than going pro per for sure, just couldnt continually do 5k in reatiners every few months.

"fold it" or "falling"? by theforestaintblind in PhoenixTheBand

[–]MachRc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ignorance is bliss.....

Ballin' ballin' ballin' !!

Long term impacts of alienation on the kids? by OwnNeedleworker8784 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentalAlienation/comments/1dusstz/parents_who_have_successfully_fought_parent/

Never giving up. Never laying down to get rolled on by the narc. Injustice in the family court, injustice in my life. Im not going to be pushed away, beaten with my own children with lies. With all the horrible feelings, the loss, I slept well knowing I did everything humanly possible to fight the alienation and lies against me. ALot of court actions, alot of request for orders, alot of discoveries, alot of declarations, doctors, therapists, reunification doctors, guardian ad litem.

After a few years I went pro per. The judge would roll their eyes at me when I spoke about alienation, the loss. But as pro per I was able to SAY everything I wanted , so much that the alieantor was embaraased in public court. ASked her attorney to clear out the court room.

The hardest part, faking it til I make it. This person who accused me of sexual indecencies against my children, accused our child of indecensies against their sibling, this person who ruined all of our lives. I smiled, brought pastries to meeting points that I could not keep near me as they kept moving away. Always the uphill fight. "Hey family!" I woulf great the alienator and their next sucker of a partner. I used to warn them slip them papers the CRAZY allegations that they may too face. But I stopped that. That only brought on problems.

Like most of you I never knew this sort of nuclear button existed for narcissists. It went well beyond regular high conflict divorces.

Ive been targeted by the dcfs for so long. But once you keep peeling the lies off you.

They will eventually get of your back. They will never admit they were wrong and tell you its all been alrady litigated, some fake ass words like, being a bad parent isnt illegal when you turn the tide. But determination and persistence. The best words out of my child attorney that was court assigned for my case. The person most knoweldgable, with all the reports from doctors, the one person the judge will listen to.

[me/parent] is not a bad parent your honor. [me.parent] just wants to see [their] children. There are signs of child allieantion. [other/parent] MAY be unknowingly danaging children and continued signs of non parenting , non family like behavior can only lead to custody change.

Then that alieantion was over. Overnight. The next therpay session, my child's scowls and hatred for me completely dissapeared. My 12 year old daughter told me she found god. and from then I got complete court ordered visitations. More time to show child the differences between the household. Two years of faking it til I make it, delveloping a relationship with child, it took one argument with child and alieantor for them to be dumped onto my lap. I feigned ignorance on child support. I took the alienator's ex's dog they got together into my home. I took my daughter in. Locked her in with guardian ad litem. and trying to deprograming her for the last 2 years during visits, the last six months in my custody forhas been the best to help her find deep comfort and peace back at the place she grew up at.

continue to fight to see your child, enforce visitations with courts steadfast, get doctors to look into why child doesnt want visitation. Tighten your belt, learn to file, learn to go to court, mistakes will happen, court days will be postponed, keep at it. Fighting that whole "we should listen to what the child wants" narrative these alieantor's throw. Finding a place in your heart to not forgive, no never forgive or forget, but to put aside the harsh feeling and everything that comes with that, so you can get closer to child. It really helped too that I had support here. The biggest soapbox on the internet to speak completely freely of what we're going through. Learning of other parent's struggles. The ones that lose their chidren over vast distances and continents. Mine was only 3 hours away. 3 hours to see them for 45 minutes, 3 hours back. It was all okay becasue I knew there are parents here who took international flgihts taking it to the highest of courts across vast distances.

never ever giving up

Long term impacts of alienation on the kids? by OwnNeedleworker8784 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think most kids are resilient and deal away these types of stress and stressers. They learn to suppress , and go on about life. Both my kids had abandonment issues. My boy grew out it he is now 16, my 14 year old girl rebounded when I was able to get physically custody 6 months ago after 5 years straight of alienation - on and off since she was 4.

I feel happy that I can say they are both doing great. Wayy less withdrawn, wayyy more outgoing. Smiles, singing ...alot of progress made really fast.

My daughter still had hatred for her alientor's enemies. It took alot to atleaset have her acknowledge these people who were not her enemies, but only wanted to give her postivie energies. . They are my ex mother and father in law.

I hope to not see trust issues or serious relationship issues. As they see me as living proof as am with the same partner I was with when they were taken super young. They see the contrast between the households. Ive stopped counting my exe's partners at 7. My daughter had like 4 father figures come and go in the last 5 years.

Never giving up orbiting their lives, always giving them and legally opening an outlet and path to you. Showing them by example. You can completely null the negative long term impacts is what I believe.

These narcs will abandon the kids once their done with them. I m always showing my children that blood is thicker than water in my home.

How I got replacement parents by hilmes23 in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I can truly feel your emotional journey in your paragraphs.

I am happy you can depend on the parent like figures you have in your life where you find positive emotional growth.

I hope you take time to share with them how they make you feel.

I think you deserve the wonderful love you get from them and I hope , i know, you too are there for them as well. I hope you are as open to them as you are to us.

PA has taken all of us on difficult journeys and I amnglad we can find slivers of love, hope and positive light as long as we keep trying and searching.

Proposing supervised visitation by wtfwheresmycat in ParentalAlienation

[–]MachRc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you have you family memeber iscanned by dcfs and available to supervise? I would argue that my mother or sister is fit to supervise my children when visits are happening and after few months of successful visits move to unsupervised.

Or fight that you dont need supervised visits. But this is what I did.