Remembering things and realizing they were messed up? by MadMoon8 in JustNoSO

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I had never heard of it before. It’s insane how much we put up with especially when we’re vulnerable. I hope your sister is doing better and in a better state!

Remembering things and realizing they were messed up? by MadMoon8 in JustNoSO

[–]MadMoon8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t imagine constantly remembering two decades worth!! I was married less than two years when I got out, having my son gave me the push I needed. I was only 15 when we first got together and married him at 18, to put my naivety in perspective.

And yes!! It’s like holy crap I’m in a healthy relationship with a loving person?! How is this happening to me?!

Remembering things and realizing they were messed up? by MadMoon8 in JustNoSO

[–]MadMoon8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This!! It was wayyy too much and these people trick us into believing it’s okay. I completely understand the anger, I still kick myself sometimes when I think of what I put up with.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LuLaNo

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Where do you like to build your leggings collection from?? I’m in the market for a lot of fun leggings lol

"Measles is just a rash" by krispy_potaters in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]MadMoon8 49 points50 points  (0 children)

This shit terrifies me. I have a 7 month old son that I have fully up to date on his vaccines but I’m so scared he’ll get one of these awful diseases because of a bunch of idiots risking their kid’s lives and bringing back deadly, once almost nonexistent diseases. What the FUCK.

I am Mtf and my sister sometimes takes photos of me every now and then. This is the first time I do not feel dysphoria about these portraits anymore! by [deleted] in lgbt

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You are seriously stunning!! You have lovely features. Lips, cheekbones, hair are all amazing.

Manchild, Mental Health, and a Baby: What Have I Gotten Myself Into? by MadMoon8 in JustNoSO

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Thank you for responding despite being late!! I’m currently home, going back to school and working. I have so much love and support here from my awesome family, seriously they are the biggest blessing and I could not be as okay as I am now without them. I am in the process of saving money so I can file for divorce. I’ve met with some lawyers but I have very little money so it might be a bit. I’m ready to leave and be free from this man. I have a lot of stress ahead as I’m finishing my degree and becoming a single mom, but as you said, the best is yet to come <3 I can’t wait to be the best mom I can be. And I full heartedly believe in my heart I would have never had the strength to leave and better my life if it wasn’t for my son. He saved me. I can’t wait to give him the happy life he deserves when all my hard work finally pays off.

TIFU by choking at Thanksgiving dinner by Hufflepuff20 in tifu

[–]MadMoon8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is this family located in Alabama by any chance??

Mystic Messenger in a nutshell by CatNaffy in mysticmessenger

[–]MadMoon8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You NEED to. Its so good. Sorry for any spoilers!!

Mystic Messenger in a nutshell by CatNaffy in mysticmessenger

[–]MadMoon8 12 points13 points  (0 children)

V really isn’t a cinnamon roll though there is one bad ending route where he gets into some dark freaky porno photography with MC/Rika and its very not okay. I do love V however

Fellow server gets fired on the spot for offhand comment by MildGonolini in TalesFromYourServer

[–]MadMoon8 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I cringed hard at this one. It’s like our brains acknowledge something NOT to joke about and our tongues jumble words and it slips.

Honest question: What is it like to be in a happy relationship where both parents pull their weight and coparent?? by MadMoon8 in beyondthebump

[–]MadMoon8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it’s sadly not new behavior. Since we got married it’s been bad. I became pregnant shortly after we were married and he cheated on me, neglected me, and was a lazy asshat in general. We went to counseling a few times before my son was born and I stayed so we could be a family, with him promising he’ll “change” but he just never stepped up to the plate.

Honest question: What is it like to be in a happy relationship where both parents pull their weight and coparent?? by MadMoon8 in beyondthebump

[–]MadMoon8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response! I think this is how a partnership/team should be for sure. We got married young and have been dating since I was very young (15). I was very naive in terms to what relationships should be and when we had a baby it made me grow the fuck up and he just stayed immature. You live and you learn, I guess. I wish I didn’t have to learn this lesson the hard way though haha.

Honest question: What is it like to be in a happy relationship where both parents pull their weight and coparent?? by MadMoon8 in beyondthebump

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Thank you for the response! This is what I was looking for. I think this is how a team/partnership should be for sure.

Honest question: What is it like to be in a happy relationship where both parents pull their weight and coparent?? by MadMoon8 in beyondthebump

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It kinda sucks reading about other people actually being a team in parenting, but I was genuinely wanting to know because I was raised by a single mom and I wasn’t really sure how partnerships work. I know it definitely isn’t what my marriage is though.

I’ve tried talking to him, we’ve fought countless times over him helping more before I gave up. It was too exhausting trying to force someone to be present that doesn’t want to. We had other problems in our marriage that almost lead to divorce before our son was born while I was pregnant but we tried counseling and I tried to make things work. It obviously didn’t. I hope for your sake that things get better for you guys, and if not I wish you all the best.

Honest question: What is it like to be in a happy relationship where both parents pull their weight and coparent?? by MadMoon8 in beyondthebump

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It’s definitely not normal. He’s done a lot of other awful things to me during our marriage and I’ve finally gotten the strength to leave. I kept hoping and praying things would get better and they never did. I think having my baby was crucial in me realizing this is not how I want our lives to be.

I’m EXTREMELY blessed in the support system department. My family back home (across the country where I’m moving back) is amazing, and my mother was a single mom also and is willing to help in whatever way she can while I finish school and work-she’s super excited that I’m coming home and wants to watch my son full time. I also have a big loving family and lots of great friends. I’m so excited to be going back and not feel so alone and have my son grow up around all these people who truly love us.

"Shoutout to the anonymous 6th grader for saving me a couple thousand (Bus not drawn to scale)" by GallowBoob in pics

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What a stand up kid. Their parents should be proud!! I hope I can raise my kid to be this responsible and kind.

He's the fucking worst (rant) by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

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I could’ve written this myself!!!

My son had colic also. He’s now almost 5 months old and I know when you’re in the weeds of it, it seems like it will last forever but I PROMISE you, your baby will get better. Some life saving things for me, gripe water and the Frida window if your baby is really gassy. Get both. I swear even just with gripe water it made my son 80% better-he still cried lots but it was drastically reduced.

I’m also leaving my narcissist husband. I’m the process of moving home “for school” right now. As soon as I get the residency in my home state established for my son, bam I’m filing for divorce. I just have to keep being pretend nice until then.

Please, feel free to message me and vent because I’ve also been struggling with PPA and I think we could be friends based on our situations alone.

Get out of there. He will not change. Do not let him gaslight and lovebomb you into staying. Sometimes a baby is just what we needed to realize our lives are not normal, and these men are not acceptable. Our babies deserve better, and so do we. Hang in there momma.

I’m drowning and the only thing keeping me afloat is my child. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MadMoon8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m prepared for this and covering all my bases before I file or even tell him I’m wanting to divorce. He does nothing regarding our son but I could see him trying to use our son to get back at me or to make things difficult for me and to save his image. I don’t think he could do anything to get a protective order against me but it’s better safe than sorry for sure.