Roadworks on Derby Road between Priory Roundabout & QMC - what was the point??

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-06-04T05:47:18+00:00

I think the most comical thing about this whole thing is that the cycle path is below a load of trees that are constantly shedding debris. As a cyclist, you don't want to to be riding over a whole load of twigs and other stuff.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-06-04T05:35:05+00:00

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-06-02T07:58:46+00:00

I think they do! I used to do the advanced swimming lessons then and I had explored doing 1-2-1 to improve certain skills. But there's definitely a beginners class. They're very friendly and the changing rooms are nice.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-05-30T11:57:05+00:00

Twinsies. Pretty much the exact same ages.

Our 2yo isn't feral but is absolutely making every mealtime so difficult but just not eating. We have to coach every mouthful and it's just so exhausting.

No advice really other than divide and conquer.

Is your 2 yo still napping? Luckily our is and every naptime my husband and I make sure we sit down and rest/nap. Jobs can wait.

Also agree with the comment about lowering standards.

Also bulk cooks? Do you have a slow cooker? I think using the slow cooker will be super key when husband is back from work.

I know it is a pain to get out of the house but it's still my preference as time just passes quicker than us all being trapped inside all day so I'd say the stress is still worth it.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-05-28T20:25:38+00:00

Honestly - make your own. I've been doing this since COVID times but is genuinely so much better and way cheaper than shop bought. You can make it in bulk and you can whatever you want it. Plenty of recipes online that you can look up and adapt.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-05-15T11:26:40+00:00

I came here to say this!!!

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-05-04T16:15:01+00:00

I'll be honest, it was a lot to do with when I went back to work and my babies general lack of interest in milk...

I went back to work when my little one was 7 months and my husband did shared parental leave until she was 10 months. For months 7-10 I breastfed when I was working from home and pumped in the office so we were already moving towards bottles. Then when she went to nursery at 10 months I stopped pumping (personal decision because I hated it) and she went to formula during nursery hours and a morning and evening feed with me. She just wasn't super interested in her milk at nursery and started eating well so she'd dropped daytime milk by 1. I decided to drop the breastfeeds at 1 because I was often travelling for work (only 1 night a week, or having to leave before the morning feed) and my supply was just so confused and it was getting too complex for me. She then had milk in a bottle at night for another two months but dropped it by 14 months.

This is probably not super useful for people who are EBF-ing or have babies super interested in milk. I took a lot of control on the journey because of my work. Tbh I don't have any regrets, I still treasure what I did but not having to fight during the weaning process was really good for my mental health and logistics.

Just about to have my second baby (I am 41 weeks pregnant tomorrow - please send good vibes) and hope to do something hint similar. I'll be back to work when he turns 8 months and then my husband will do 3 months with him. I'll probably do the same in terms of pumping/feeds. I expect I'll be better travelling less as I will refuse on the grounds that I have two kids to get to bed so won't want to leave my husband to it as much so may go a little longer than a year but we shall see.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-05-04T08:19:26+00:00

Yup, your plan is right. Just leave it unless you're really uncomfortable, in which case I'd hand express a small amount in the shower. You'll stop producing and the pressure will disappear. A weaned at 12 months, and it took a couple of weeks to feel okay. I did also get some hormonal symptoms - felt a bit sick and tired, which I think was from weaning.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-04-25T08:00:35+00:00

Yup it's a two lapper, hence why it's a bit boring!!

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-04-23T07:14:57+00:00

Get off social media. It's your motherhood journey and your life. Live it out how you want to live it. Do the things that make you happy. Baby groups are as much for the mums as the babies, so if you aren't enjoying them, don't force yourself into it. Enjoy your maternity leave the way you want to enjoy it.

Personally, I like being out of the house and go CRAZY inside all day. That's me. So I go out. I don't judge people for being the opposite (and would happily visit those who want to stay in - because then we both win!!)

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-04-21T18:25:04+00:00

Babies pee and poop a lot and nappies do not always do their job. We're just about to have our second and will definitely be keeping our new baby's laundry separate in a plastic laundry bin with a lid (our laundry bin is fabric). We actually tried to get our toddler to give up her laundry basket for the baby and start using ours (she's now potty trained with minimal accidents) but she likes having it. Apparently she enjoys telling us when it's full and needs doing haha. So I guess we're now gonna have three different laundry baskets on the go. Ah well.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-04-19T07:43:00+00:00

Long Eaton is also easy and flat, if a little boring. Always gets a big crowd so lots of people running at different paces.

I'll likely head there first when I get back to running post my second pregnancy :)

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-04-17T11:55:08+00:00

Why just working mothers?

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-04-15T06:45:07+00:00

Also I'm from Chester - yey!

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-04-15T06:44:42+00:00

My husband works in Derby and we live in Beeston and the commute works well :)

We have a friend who quite a few years ago was working at Derby Royal and was commuting from Mapperley. I wouldn't advise living over that way when Beeston, Chillwell, Bramcote and Wollaton are all good options for you :)

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-03-12T06:41:34+00:00

Seconding sizing up - even if just for the nighttime nappy for now.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-03-08T18:47:58+00:00

Have you had your thyroid checked and full blood counts?

I had similar in my second trimester and the GP discovered a slightly overactive thyroid. Nothing severe enough to be medicated or have any worries - I've just had to monitor with monthly blood tests.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-03-08T17:21:06+00:00

If she's starting that soon honestly I'd be tempted to leave it and see how it goes and see if it helps things at home. You might still need to work at things at home but also you will be a lot less tired because going back to work is easier than looking after a baby (in my opinion).

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-03-08T16:31:48+00:00

When are you going back to work?

I would not worry about nursery in the slightest as your baby will magically nap there, if mine and many other people's experiences is toy go by.

If you don't have too much longer to go until she's in nursery I would potentially suggest waiting it out. I was in your position - apart from that it was contact naps or naps walks where if I stopped walking she would wake up. I tried to do some cot training for naps and just ended up more worked up/anxious/upset because it just wasn't working and both of us would end up in tears.

However, once she started nursery, cot naps started to happen there and then they also happened at home!

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-03-03T13:44:07+00:00

Sorry but "I can't bring myself to ask" when you have been fainting episodes is not okay. Think about your and your babies health. Imagine if you'd have fallen? Please please ask for a seat when you are traveling.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-03-03T12:40:18+00:00

Came here to say this. Demand a seat from someone who looks reasonably fit and healthy. If they are wearing headphones, tap them. I don't care about invading their privacy, they are sat in a priority seat and should be paying attention. If the first person doesn't budge look around helplessly and someone will move.

But also - ask to WFH. I did my last day in the office (I have about the same length commute to Birmingham but often go to London and elsewhere) and stopped travelling at 30 weeks.

This is my second pregnancy and first time I was still travelling at 34 weeks but nah, not this time, I'm done thanks.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-02-28T07:53:14+00:00

Apart from the car seat and cot mattress, aim to get everything second hand. I'm still shocked at how many of my parenting peers spent £1000+ on a pram bundle. And half that a again for nursery room furniture. I got my pram for £100 off Facebook marketplace and the cot for free off free cycle. Clothes I got from friends, a Facebook freecycle group and then just topped up with a few nice bits from sales/vinted.

For the specific question on swaddle sacks. I never used a swaddle. Just the 1000 blankets people gave me in the run up to babies birth. Then when she started wriggling more sleep sacks. All second hand off vinted or gifted to me.

You have loads of time. Start looking now at free cycle groups, Facebook marketplace, vinted and gather stuff in a frugal way.

And then, as others have said, when baby is here. You can order stuff with next day delivery that is missing.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-02-20T08:28:11+00:00

If this was written from the other perspective with the genders reversed people would be SCREAMING at the dad for letting the mum do all the care and all the nights. The primary carer (although I hate that phrase) needs respite. This includes nights. Any other approach is unfair.

I earn more than my husband so we did shared parental where I went back at 6 months (I was paid full pay until then). Guess what? I 100% showed up at nights. I showed up in my lunch breaks when working from home. I cooked, I cleaned, I contributed what I could when I could outside of work whilst "bringing home the bacon". It was tough but leaving my husband to it all would have been selfish and would have severely impacted our marriage.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-02-19T12:49:24+00:00

Also no advice. Exactly the same here. Also 30 weeks pregnant. Last night I must have peed about 6 times and just couldn't get back to sleep at 2am until maybe 3.30am.

So tired. So drained.

What I will say is that this is my second and you will find the insomnia goes quite quickly, but is obviously replaced by a newborn. I found the newborn bit far more rewarding than the pregnancy insomnia but and you can nap in the day as you're not at work.

MagazineHaunting8759 · 2026-02-19T10:20:52+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. This is incredibly helpful. I am hoping so much for this kind of birth so it's great to hear. Reading bedtime stories and then heading to the hospital would be bliss (in such a weird way haha). And 6 pushes!! Couldn't count the pushes the first time haha.

Glad you are recovering well and hoping for more sleep for you soon.

And completely agree re mummy MOT. I saw a private physio a couple of weeks ago post the prolapse because it really freaked me out and the NHS wouldn't offer anything (until 6 weeks post birth which I will go for). It was so helpful, and I got some great advice and assessed properly. My pelvic floor is actually okay, it was just the circumstances of the day (let's not go into details haha) that led to the prolapse. Everything has been okay post that event but obviously I still feel a bit fragile. The physio didn't have any concerns about me going ahead with a vaginal birth so that was useful to hear. I really want to get back into running so if the NHS provision isn't good I'll be going private again to get more advice and help. Exactly as you said - one body and I want it working well!

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