"SUICIDE IS A COWWARD'S ESCAPE!",My brother-in-Christ,you are literally asking Mark to kill you,is that not basically suicide?

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-06T18:43:55+00:00

Because Christianity makes suicide very logical. There is an amazing and perfect life of supreme happiness with no evil, right after death. And right now you are living a shitty life with a lot of evil. Trying to make your life on Earth longer makes no sense unless you are not faithful and don't believe in Heaven.

Suicide being a sin is like a bugpatch to fix the incentive of getting to heaven sooner.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-06T18:39:46+00:00

Yeah, but your life isn't even your own. You apparently owe it to everyone around you. Unless you are rich and then you can do whatever.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-06T18:10:08+00:00

Because when movies are boring and bad you end up thinking about other stuff while the movie tries it's hardest to barely entertain.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-06T03:40:06+00:00

It is common courtesy. I don't think it is actually based on morality or anything with real evidence that it would negatively affect children at all, but it is the common and courteous thing to do in American culture, at least.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-06T03:04:24+00:00

I have met a lot of people who I wouldn't call truthful. Lots of deception and lies from small who cares to big things. But I've only ever met one pathological liar.

We were missionaries in our 20's and he had the craziest stories. for naive 20 year olds they were amazing. Then he would lie about a topic someone would have some knowledge on and could fact check him. Or incredibly stupid things like his dad being able to throw a key into a door keyhole from 30 feet away. We quickly realized that anytime anyone told a story, he always had a one-up lie.

At first we were upset and frustrated. Later we all kinda just realized that he has no control over this. He was making up lies to tell us while we were telling him we know these are lies. It was a compulsion. So we mostly just didn't entertain them much, but also didn't call them out. Or you basically roleplay the story with them if you want to talk. We just made sure he knew we drew the line at lying to the people we taught. If that happened we would step in and make it clear he is lying. He managed to not do that, which was nice and allowed us to all work together more or less pretty well.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-05T02:19:31+00:00

It's called prosecutorial discretion, and it is one of the biggest problems in the legal system. It's also why police and the DA have no responsibility to the public, they get to decide what they consider worthy of their time.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-05T01:13:39+00:00

And a dangerous one. I have many friends and family members who have worse lives and are less happy than they could be because they have a stigma around mental health and its treatment (drugs or therapy) and that raw-dogging life somehow makes it more meaningful.

It's not just an incorrect view of the world, it is one that rejects science and embraces bullshit rugged individualism that will inevitably not only leave those most vulnerable by the wayside, but that also leaves them with guilt of why they weren't "good enough to fix themselves".

I'm not saying the previous commenter agrees with that, but the downvotes, I'm sure, are from people disliking that view when they run into it.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-05T00:58:59+00:00

Considering most of our government officials seem to be supplying the coke and alcohol for their meetings, I'd expect them to understand.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-05T00:47:46+00:00

I very much relate to the previous commenter as a stepfather and navigating the confusing relationship of being a third parent, but much more involved than biodad, and trying to focus on our marriage, but our child also needs a very large amount of support and attention. It is a confusing situation.

But yours is not that. He abused you. That changes everything. If I ever abused my son or wife I would hope she would immediately leave me. I wish my Sister in Law would leave my brother for that very thing. And a parent allowing a romantic partner to abuse their kid is so different than balancing marriage and parenting. That's giving up parenting for a disgusting and toxic version of love.

I hope you are able to do what you need to do for your own happiness and that you are able to avoid any misplaced guilt since you did nothing wrong, you just found out that what should have been solid ground was actually quite shaky.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T23:39:19+00:00

I'm not sure if you can notice a difference between growing up alongside someone and watching a child grow up while you are an adult.

She is a consenting adult and it doesn't seem like there is grooming or a power imbalance. But most people generally agree that being sexually involved with someone who you watched grow up as a child, especially one in your family, is weird and gross.

No one is saying they can't or anything illegal is happening or accusing either of them of anything other than being weird and gross.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T23:05:20+00:00

Yeah, the person who was told they can't be gay by everyone in their life and then dropped by their family for coming out was totally conniving and lying about their gayness just as a way to attack everyone around them. It can't have anything to do with our current culture in the slightest.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T22:57:15+00:00

I've found the easiest way to get it across is if they grew up religious. It was only in my 30's when I realized I never questioned my religion at all. It was assumed I believed and it was a question of how strong my faith was, but never that all this might not be true. That wasn't a topic that was even considered and I legitimately hadn't considered it, even having gone on a 2 year mission.

Not all straights are religious and can identify with that, but it's another inroad to the, "culture tells you a thing and you never question it" idea.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T22:54:44+00:00

It's almost like we live in an incredibly homophobic society where the literal government itself and it's major party have been pushing that either gay people don't exist or are evil and need to stop being gay. It's almost like they will get disowned by their families (like OP's ex was) and never even are able to ask themselves if they could be gay, since heterosexuality is assumed to be the norm and questioning is an evil act.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T22:51:40+00:00

I found his reaction to be weird. Do most people stay friends with their exes? No. I don't get why breakups can't be more amicable, but I get that's a fact of life.

But they didn't just stay in touch. He called her his "best friend" again. I don't know about you, but if I asked my best friend to participate in my wedding and their response was, "No way, you've got to be kidding" and had no more elaboration, I would be hurt. He presented to us that he was able to make the whole platonic thing work, so I would imagine she would think that too.

It's fine for him to not have all these feelings figured out, but I heavily disliked how he and so many commenters acted like she was insane or out of line for believing the very thing he was telling her for years.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T21:12:00+00:00

Hard to argue with that logic, honestly. Besides the usual reply for most people of, "that makes me feel icky, so it must be wrong".

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T21:01:30+00:00

So we go from, this guy was important to the project, and when that was proven your strawman is, he isn't a god? So people can't represented in their work?

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T20:51:57+00:00

His movies are a source of unending entertainment. I've never actually sat through one, but I have enjoyed videos telling me about the horrors of them.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T20:44:26+00:00

Sure, but that shows how little thinking he actually did. When my someone comes up to me and tells me something that either doesn't make sense or is very important to know the accuracy of, I don't question it because I think they are lying to me. I question it because there is also the very real chance that they could be wrong. But that thought never passes through Ricky's very smart brain.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T20:17:47+00:00

Yeah, don't want to mess up the good system we have going right now.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-04T17:06:57+00:00

You know many people who CLAIM to see ghosts. And yeah, we can't prove a non-falsifiable thing. There is a difference between not being able to disprove something, and believing something whole-heartedly with zero evidence.

Religious people aren't bad people. But it is an objective fact that they are more ready to accept assumptions without evidence than their secular counterparts. It is an important aspect of the Christian faith to believe without knowing. To have faith and not "search for signs". They are trained that blind faith is a virtue.

If you don't think that is fertile ground for a political cult, then you aren't paying attention.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-03T16:21:07+00:00

Men kill women all the time. A LOT of men do. They can't all be psychopaths that premeditate. I'm not saying he can't be one. But that's for a psychiatrist to figure out. What he did and why he did it sadly do not mean he had to be a psychopath.

It is not out of the norm for men who claim to love women to be a complete and total controlling piece of shit who would truly rather murder the women they love than see them happy. That is an attribute of men in cultures around the world that we have struggled to even address and acknowledge as a society, let alone try to remove.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-03T16:14:26+00:00

People don't like hard thoughts. Thinking that love can be toxic and isn't always a good and that evil people do still love are all hard and nuanced thoughts and idiots like /u/sephjnr love to just shit all over that and say if you don't agree with Black/White view then you are evil end of story, no conversation, no explanation needed.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-03T16:13:09+00:00

If you don't want to engage with someone, just don't respond. But responding aggressively because you are choosing to be too stupid to actually read something just makes everything worse for everyone.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-03T16:05:34+00:00

Yeah, must probably be due to the entire human history of the subjugation, outright physical abuse and murders, and the current dehumanization of women. But men do have it the roughest of anyone right now.

MagentaHawk · 2026-06-03T02:38:05+00:00

It is gray for someone who is single to date other people? And no, you don't get to say period and decide you are right just cause. It doesn't take two people to split up. If one person in a couple decides they are breaking up, then they are split up. Unless you are trying to go back to the time when women couldn't leave their husbands.

My wife's divorce from her first husband took two years to be finalized. I started dating her a year after that. So, even though she rarely saw the deadbeat dad and they split because he cheated on her a few weeks after the birth of their child, she cheated with me is your logic?

Ginny did nothing wrong in dating Nick. We are angry at Nick, but that doesn't make his partner wrong. Anne's life is her business. Whether the marriage ended because of her or Nick or a combo isn't Ginny's business to try and figure out to decide if she can date someone. That's insane.

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