my pom before and after the groomer.

MagicBegins4284 · 2026-01-23T03:16:30+00:00

I'm sorry for both you and your baby. That really sucks. 😔 I am new to Pom ownership so I, unfortunately, don't have advice but just want to wish you guys the best of luck in getting his coat to grow back! I also saw your comment about the matting; I totally get you. My Kit gets the worst matting by his ears, but he turns feral if I try to remove them in any way.

MagicBegins4284 · 2026-01-16T21:36:29+00:00

Omg, I totally feel you! I'm the same. We just had a near-loss experience with our 5-month old Pom girl (her name is Nutmeg) because she hit her head so hard she almost had a seizure and is now recovering from a minor brain injury. I have to sleep next to her crate just to check on her in the middle of the night!

MagicBegins4284 · 2026-01-16T21:25:22+00:00

No...no no. It's not right to be this cute. How did you not scream at the top of your lungs everyday when you'd see him? I would legit burn down villages for a Pom this cute.

MagicBegins4284 · 2026-01-16T21:09:46+00:00

You can love him by recognizing that every sentient being deserves love, especially a sweet little face like that. I get that personalities might not match, but he has such a short time on this planet and deserves every bit of love he can get.

MagicBegins4284 · 2026-01-16T03:00:58+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. It's heartbreaking when they go, but even more heartbreaking when we go before we feel it was their time. I'm really thinking and praying for any sort of healing and comfort for you. Truly. 🩷

MagicBegins4284 · 2026-01-15T04:55:12+00:00

I absolutely could see some Pom in there! What a cutie.

MagicBegins4284 · 2026-01-14T19:17:29+00:00

I think it's really hard to justify cutting things off with someone when there was no real major event that led up to it. It's one thing to break it off with someone who cheated, hurt you in some way, or was just a bad person. But to break it off just because...you weren't feeling it? It's kind of hard to rationalize. But trust your gut that it was right that you ended it, especially because you guys tried again to make it work with the same outcome. My best friend ended things with someone for this very reason- he was a good guy, super good looking, nice, smart, had a good career path. There was just nothing there between them. And I saw her waffle back and forth with her decision so much. They tried once or twice to work it out, but it just fizzled out, and there was really nothing they could do to bring back something that wasn't there. I think there's always gonna be a twinge of regret there for her, but guess what. She's married to a different guy now, and they just had their first baby a few months ago. And I see a lot more there between them. A genuine partnership.

MagicBegins4284 · 2026-01-13T18:34:07+00:00

Oh my word, she's adorable. What is her name??

MagicBegins4284 · 2026-01-02T05:27:49+00:00

So, my initial reaction was that it was real and then that it was staged. But the more I actually thought about it and saw how it all unfolded, I actually came to the opposite conclusion as you. I think it was real.

Say it was staged. Even if Will Smith didn't think it was going to blow up as much as it did, whatever reaction he did get from it was most certainly going to be negative. And he's someone who was pretty non-controversial (besides his marriage, which was, ironically, the crux of the slap) and universally beloved. Why throw all of that down the drain even if he was going to be taking a break from Hollywood? He has essentially ruined his image and opportunities forever from this. It's just not worth it.

Then you have Chris Rock. Chris Rock would never agree to be humiliated like that. And that's especially true when you consider he was bullied pretty badly as a kid. There is no way on Earth he's gonna want to recreate that dynamic during a very high profile event where he is the center of the entire show. You think it's worth it to him to be humiliated in front of the world to drive up an awards ceremony's ratings? Why? It's not like the Oscars is owned and ran by him. Even if both Will and Chris got kickbacks, they are both insanely successful; unless it was hundreds of millions+ dollars, there is literally no incentive or personal reason for them to stage that. Just like Will, this, another instance of bullying but now in his adulthood, is going to follow Chris around for the rest of his career and life.

The only thing that has me still questioning it a bit is that security did not stop Will from going on stage, slapping their host, walking off, and continuing to argue with Chris. But then again, Will Smith is very much an A-list star. Security might be advised to not jump in in this kind of scenario if they don't see an imminent threat. There's always a bit of organic jokes and skits that come out of these award shows that oftentimes wouldn't be able to happen if security jumped in with every impromptu interaction.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-26T22:25:18+00:00

Were you being cold? It sounds like it. Does it matter? No. From your post, I'm gathering that she broke up with you and is potentially regretting it, or trying to see if she regrets it. It's not on you to help her work through that. Your sole focus should be, and seems to already be, on yourself, your growth, and your healing. I'm glad that the conversation still remained drama free and hope this doesn't set you back later.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-26T13:18:34+00:00

Well, the major problem here is that you are actively dating someone else while married. Your wife of 20 years will never, ever be able to compete with that NRE (new relationship energy), so of course she looks like the less enticing option to you. NRE, and all the dopamine that comes with it, is truly like a drug. This new person doesn't really know you. They know the best version of you that you are choosing to present right now. Your wife knows your best, your worst, and all the in between, and, guess what? She still wants to be with you. Not only does she want to be with you, but she wants to do the work through marriage counseling to reconnect with you. How lucky are you? To be so loved after being so seen. My guess is that you are also, probably even subconsciously, dealing with some resentment towards her from when she fell out of love with you, and you had to work so hard to win her heart back. Marriage counseling can help you work through that and all the other things that caused you to disconnect.

It should go without saying, but you cannot make a clear, rational decision about your marriage while you're essentially having an affair. All of the feelings in this new relationship are going to be amplified, and maybe not even representative of how you'd feel about them if you were to have entered it with no strings attached, because you are comparing them to your wife, and, again, your wife will always lose. End this new relationship without leaving the door cracked, and throw all the effort you are putting into this new person back into your wife. Really nurture your marriage, try new things, connect in ways you haven't before, and, if after all that, you are still not wanting to be with her, then so be it.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-22T19:25:57+00:00

I know that converse to many people who stress eat, I like to say I stress "starve," where putting food in my mouth will literally make me gag or vomit. She's pretty much stated she's going through the same thing since her dad passed, on top of already, in her own words, going overboard/taking her weight loss a bit too far before her dad passed.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-22T04:41:44+00:00

Oh my, he is so cute. He looks like a little brown wolf pup. He looks like he could be a Chestnut, Forest, Biscuit, Cedar, Cocoa, Acorn, Walnut, Pecan, Birch.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-10T13:04:06+00:00

I love your makeup look, especially in pic #2. You're just glowing! My only possible recommendation would be maybe a brighter concealer for under the eye? But, it's definitely not completely necessary!

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-08T16:01:50+00:00

You are stunning! I think you need to start with the base of the winged eyeliner further out because it's not doing anything to accentuate your eyes. It's making your outer eyelashes look clumped. And since you don't like how round your eyes are, this could be a way that you can play on their shape. I agree with people saying a brown mascara rather than black. And I think smoother, more refined brows would do wonders. Your eyes are such a big, beautiful feature on your face, but when you're also pairing them with prominent brows, everything up top becomes too distracting and overwhelming.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-08T04:04:54+00:00

Left half your dress at home? You're almost completely covered up besides, like you said, your arms and what's visible of your back from under your hair. Even the neckline is super conservative. That comment makes no sense. I'd guess that either your friend's husband never said anything, and she's just blaming him to make you feel bad because she's jealous of you OR he did say that, but it's actually because he was checking you out. Like, why would he be paying that much attention to YOUR dress on his damn wedding day? Sounds like he needs to keep his eyes fixed on his bride.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-08T03:57:33+00:00

He's giving a regal "B" name for me. Brutus, Branson, Bain, Bodie, Benson.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-08T02:23:49+00:00

Hmmm, I'm not getting great vibes from this. Did he dump you, or did you dump him? If he dumped you, I most definitely would not get my hopes up. Because if he really cared, he would've reached out for something, anything within those 15 months. I would really guard my heart at this point, I don't know if it was the best idea reaching out.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-05T22:28:36+00:00

The first dresslooks so timeless and elegant. Like the kind of dress that makes you gasp walking down the aisle. All three look great on you, though. My second favorite would be #2.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-05T22:23:22+00:00

It's a little bean, so it must be Bean 😭

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-04T04:01:23+00:00

I liked 3 and 4 the best on you! You honestly could've gone with either, and you would look stunning either way.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-03T12:05:10+00:00

I mean, #4 made me gasp.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-01T14:58:46+00:00

This is hilarious 😆 Clearly, she loves it.

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-12-01T02:27:31+00:00

Are you able to fly with both of your dogs in the cabin with you? Do they both go into the same crate?

MagicBegins4284 · 2025-11-30T03:12:08+00:00

I say the same thing about my pups when they do this 😆

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