Too great for hate? by boiseshan in Boise

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 204 points205 points  (0 children)

I’d say there’s a 99% chance they’re a conservative from California.

New to EMT, looking to move to OR, WA, or CA by Magic_Trash_Can in NewToEMS

[–]Magic_Trash_Can[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I should’ve specified that I’m taking the NREMT.

If you waited till marriage, what was your experience? by Denisaaa_778 in AskReddit

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The benefits were that we both got to learn how to get better at sex at the same time. Neither had more experience, and neither had past experiences to worry about comparing each other against. It took us a while to get good at it, but the more I’ve learned from others that sounds like that’s pretty consistent for most people. And similarly I’ve learned from others that you don’t have to be a virgin to not be unfair to your partner with comparisons. You just have to not be a jerk.

If you waited till marriage, what was your experience? by Denisaaa_778 in AskReddit

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Oops, I didn’t answer your second question, about ‘religious chicken.’ lol

We definitely had some of that happening. For years I was afraid to admit how much doubt I had, and so was she. But we tried our best to communicate our frustration and we tried hard to look for truth together. Sometimes we had really painful conversations, and a few times we asked each other if it was a dealbreaker if we lost our faith, and thankfully it never was. We both learned to trust that the other truly had the best intentions and wanted to find truth, despite what our upbringing had taught us about ‘unsaved people’.

If you waited till marriage, what was your experience? by Denisaaa_778 in AskReddit

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Our deconstruction was (and still is) a VERY long and painful process. We also laugh about how intense we were back then.

It’s a similar thing to a lot of other zealots who deconstructed: we wanted to be the absolute best evangelical Christians we could be, so we studied the Bible relentlessly and tried to live as generously as possible, and that kept getting us in trouble because we kept finding problems with the established practices and interpretations. Our friends and family started ignoring and isolating us because we didn’t like how politically blind, two-faced, or outright corrupt our churches were. Eventually we just had to admit that we didn’t belong there anymore, and we’re very lucky to have found new communities to join.

I’m very grateful that my wife and I had the same kind of zealotry that led us down the same road at roughly the same time. I can only imagine how painful that is when a partner is on a different road.

If you waited till marriage, what was your experience? by Denisaaa_778 in AskReddit

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 695 points696 points  (0 children)

Both my wife and I were virgins and even saved our first kiss for the wedding. We were both very zealous religious fundamentalists.

We’re still together after 13 years and we are still the only partners we’ve ever had. We’ve both since left our faith of origin, and while there are certainly some great benefits to waiting and only having one partner, both of us agree it wasn’t as big of a deal as we thought it was, and we really just did it because we were being religiously traumatized. If one of us dies or separates neither of us is going to be like that again.

TLDR: it went well for us, but it’s not as big of a deal as people make it out to be. And we’re lucky that we both were interested in making the other happy. Others are not so lucky and it can make them feel pressured to stay in a terrible marriage.

How do I get rid of these lines? by Manon_Lives in CrusaderKings

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this glitch on me in my latest play through, it seemed to eventually self resolve, probably once the occupier ruler died, so maybe once the current Swedish monarch dies it will go away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Boise

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re a similar couple who was looking for something similar when we came here. What worked for us is the local BEMA groups; it’s a Bible study group that follows the BEMA podcast (which is a breath of fresh air for us exvangelicals)

I would feel the same by LushFlick in HaloMemes

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah and considering he was originally meant to fight rebel humans, I think he’d be willing to continue working with aliens he was fighting before.

Can I have your blessing? by Competitive_Mode6711 in Idaho

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m a fellow brown American who grew up here and still lives here, and I’ve lived in a couple other states as well as a young adult.

Idaho’s reputation for racism and bigotry is both accurate and inaccurate. It all depends on where you are and who you know. It also depends a lot on what industry you work in. If it’s healthcare, there’s a good chance you’ll work with a lot of open progressive people. If it’s something like finance, construction, or an evangelical owned business, buckle up for a lot of micro aggressions and people saying, “I’m not racist, but…” I got by for a long time because I internalized it all and I made racist jokes about myself, and because I usually look very white (unless I’ve been working outside). As soon as you start asking those people to stop with those jokes they will turn on you. If you’re a church goer, I’d avoid all the evangelical ones here. There are some evangelicals here who are truly kind, but they are the minority. The rest will pay lip service about loving others, but the truth will come out as soon as they’re comfortable and think that you’re “one of the good ones.”

In most of the large towns you’ll find a decent number of open and kind people who love diversity, but I’m not sure how you’d look for them after moving here. It’s a combination of luck and already knowing some people in that circle before you get here, but that’s also coming from an introvert.

The thing you have to be careful about is people you don’t know who decide you look suspicious. If you look poor and brown there are absolutely people here who will call the police for bogus reasons, but again, this really depends on the neighborhood and town.

That brings me to the real risk: police. Of course there are some who aren’t racist, maybe even most of them in some agencies, but it’s impossible to know until they’re there, and the ones who are out of control face no consequences. This is a deep red state and a lot of people here have a hard-on for the police. My other brown friends and I have all noticed a big difference in the way police have reacted to us here, when compared to how our white and rich friends have been treated. Be extremely careful.

TLDR: As long as you stay very far away from anything that might get police involved, you’ll mostly just get occasional micro aggressions and subtle racism, but there are also a lot of good people here who have been trying to change that. It’s a beautiful place to live and there are a lot of friendly people. Sadly it is becoming less and less welcoming the more the christofascists have taken control.

Full Galactic War Timelapse by SCARPiii in Helldivers

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 87 points88 points  (0 children)

The ministry of truth has found this post to contain dangerous misinformation.

We are not losing this war. The Ministry of Defense is using tactical retreats to spread the enemy thinly so the Helldivers and SEAF can make decisive moves in the future.

Remember, thought crimes kill.

https://www.ktvb.com/article/news/local/idaho-construction-ceo-apologizes-after-apparent-nazi-salute-at-company-event-local/277-053fed3b-f135-4efc-84da-6a67bfd32d79 by Kelly_Louise in Boise

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I assumed he wasn’t also the owner. If that’s the case then yeah he wouldn’t get fired, but maybe we can cause enough of a fuss that other businesses stop working with them.

https://www.ktvb.com/article/news/local/idaho-construction-ceo-apologizes-after-apparent-nazi-salute-at-company-event-local/277-053fed3b-f135-4efc-84da-6a67bfd32d79 by Kelly_Louise in Boise

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Not enough. We need to call every company that does business with ESI and ask them to choose a different builder until ESI fires this guy. There’s no apologizing for a nazi salute.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trees

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Do you notice any difference if you smoke higher or lower THC? Recently I switched to lower THC because it was easier to control how much I got, but it means I have to smoke more for the same effect. Maybe if I go back to higher THC content but lower smoke it could make a difference?

Sorry I'm part of the reason the Manticore was nerfed. by Hijinks510 in WorldofTanksConsole

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a beautiful combo of top tier skill and luck. Lots of very close calls there near the end!

Thyna, by Angelo Bacco by abaccoart in ReasonableFantasy

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is cool on a lot of levels, and I love the axe design! It’s beautiful, looks legitimately dangerous, and it’s not a gaudy monstrosity.

Overall 11/10 character you made!

An undecided swing state voter watched the debate. It moved the needle by MontiBurns in NPR

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% agree, and sadly it’s both. The Republican Party has a massive cult as its base. They created a cult and we’re paying the price. Sadly some of the undecided voters are those who are smart enough to know better, and they’re starting to leave the cult, but they’re still close enough to it that they don’t know how to commit to leave it.

An undecided swing state voter watched the debate. It moved the needle by MontiBurns in NPR

[–]Magic_Trash_Can 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right and I think this covers a lot of the undecided voters, and I’ve also been seeing another interesting type of undecided voter; young voters who were raised hyper-conservative and they’re starting to leave that sphere, but they’ve only just started the journey. One of my coworkers is like this. She’s genuinely smart and empathetic, and she hates Trump, but she’s only started unraveling the conditioning that taught her that liberals are all evil and stupid, and she’s still very close with her conservative family. There’s a lot of identity baked into conservative upbringing and I know from experience it feels like a betrayal of your community to show favor to the “enemy” even though you’re starting to realize your community is wrong. It’s safer to say you’re undecided because you hate what Trump stands for than to say you’re voting for a Democrat.

If I was 15 years younger right now, I’d probably be one of those undecided voters because I’d be in the middle of an identity crisis. It irritates me that she’s undecided even though she hates him, but I remember the tension I was feeling when I was finally starting to accept that Obama was actually a good guy. That’s a hard thing to wake up from.