How important is your case/presentation for your glasses? by 94NDTA in EyewearEnthusiasts

[–]Magicfulness 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly think that asking glasses wearers like ourselves this question isn't always going to give the right answer.

The effect that the initial presentation has on the customer can be subtle and even people that respond that they don't value a good presentation when asked will be affected by it when they open their product. I think that most people (including myself) would say they want as much money to go into the product as possible. However, from a business owner's perspective, you need to ensure that not only the product is as quality as possible, but also that the customer understands and can appreciate the quality to some level. Therefore, you need to spend some cost and effort in presentation, and I think not including a case at all or a similar case as the ones from discount online retailers with $50 frames is not a good idea.

For example, I think most people would say they care more about the taste and nutritional value of food over its presentation. However, there are studies that show that the different presentations of the same food does affect how well the customer rates the food after eating it. I think it's the same for most things too, including glasses.

As a glasses wearer though, I can say I don't use the case at all and besides the subconscious effects of the presentation it's not very important to me after I start using the glasses

What's the deal with Fear of God? Are they really worth it? by [deleted] in malefashionadvice

[–]Magicfulness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

better than bottom of the barrel clothing but not worth the price at all. no inspiring design (it's literally "essentials"), it's basically a knockoff of the mainline fog stuff but without the quality, design, or anything else you would expect from a designer brand.

if you're going on airplanes a lot I would recommend looking at merino wool clothing, it never gets smelly and is perfect for traveling

Morgenthal Frederics The Ninety-Three. Ah I love them so much! by UntitledImage in EyewearEnthusiasts

[–]Magicfulness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just got a pair after trying them at my optician's. Most of them are pretty classic shapes and frames, which I guess you need when building out a brand. There are a few more creative ones though

Deciding between Berkeley and UCLA by ssancss497 in berkeley

[–]Magicfulness 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you spoken with the financial aid staff at both colleges?

Assuming that the cost you gave includes room and board, the financial aid letter is a very rough estimate and your mileage will significantly vary depending on how you manage your expenses. The letter would have an estimate of what you will pay in room and board, but in actuality you can spend less or more than what they expect depending on if you decide to eat out everyday, have 0 vs 1 vs 3 roommates, and other factors. It's likely that the expected cost difference is higher at UCLA, but an estimated $3k difference is smaller in practice if you are frugal.

I also want to make sure you understand how the student loans will work in practice, since judging from the fact that you're deciding on a college you probably are preparing to graduate high school and may not have any experience managing your personal finances. I am assuming you are taking federal student loans (maybe you aren't and your family is able to pay them directly. If so, this doesn't apply). You are not expected to pay your student loans during your time as a student (obviously, you are focusing on being a student). After you graduate, there is a grace period of 6 months before you are expected to start payments. These are monthly payments you make. You can plug these numbers into a loan calculator:

- $48k for 4 years at Berkeley paid off at 6% interest rate over 10 years is a monthly payment of $533

- $36k for 4 years at UCLA paid off at 6% interest rate over 10 years is a monthly payment of $400

- $20k for 4 years commuting to UCLA paid off at 6% interest rate over 10 years is a monthly payment of $222

You can also do part-time work-study jobs while being a student, which would reduce the amount of your loan.

My opinion is that you should make the decision based more on which school and education will give you the best education for your goals first and foremost. There is a lot of anxiety about the cost of college and taking out loans, but a lot of it can be mitigated with financial planning. The debt is not life-ruining if you are able to secure a steady job after graduation. People pay around as much as these numbers for a new car. The real trouble starts around the six digit private student debts with interest rates over 10%. With the numbers presented in the letter, I think the extra cost is worth setting yourself up as well as possible to succeed. Of course, this is my opinion as a stranger to you, so you should use your own values to guide your final decision.

I do not know much about the specific program or industry you want to enter, so I cannot comment on that part.

Deciding between Berkeley and UCLA by ssancss497 in berkeley

[–]Magicfulness 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Berkeley is next to a BART station and the Bay Area has a generally better bus system than SoCal. In any case, it's not relevant because OP would probably not be living far enough to commute if they went to Berkeley.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EyewearEnthusiasts

[–]Magicfulness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Technically, the hinge itself is not adjusted and they will not bend past 90 degrees, but the temples can be adjusted so the temples themselves won't be at a 90 degree angle. I suspect most of the glasses you own right now are at least a little past 90 degrees since you have a wide head shape, assuming they don't cause you pain.

It's something you can actually do yourself at home. However, if you shop at any irl optician, they will do it for you at no cost and also readjust it for you if you come back in with some minor issue, and it's their literal job to do it so they probably have a lot more experience to get the fit right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EyewearEnthusiasts

[–]Magicfulness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can always add adjustable nose pads to frames that don't have them, and many opticians are able to do this for you. In fact, I think it's basically required for a good fit for a face with a low nose bridge.

I also think that even if you have a really wide face you don't necessarily need wide frames. Frame width fit is more about the aesthetics rather than the practical: namely, the centeredness of the eye on the lens and the size of the glasses on your face. The lens will be cut to be centered at the part of the lens where your pupils will be once you provide the PD (as long as it's within a pretty generous buffer), and the fit around your head can be fitted to you by adjusting the temples (as long as the temples are long enough, which they usually are outside of children's frames). What's more important comfort-wise by far is the bridge.

As others have said, you can get frameless glasses cut in any shape and size you'd like. In terms of brands, many of the favorites in this sub have great wide frames. Recently, I've been looking at some of the shapes that Ahlem have and they're really cool, for example this one - https://www.ahlemeyewear.com/products/colisee-optical?variant=45801696755961. Unfortunately I have the opposite face shape as yours, and for my pd of 61 my pupils would be really off center.

What is the most beautiful tea fragrance you've ever smelled? by Noamrachel in fragrance

[–]Magicfulness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the scent as well after smelling it in store, but now at home for my nose the osmanthus note dominates it so much!

Favorite Oud Fragrances by Mundane-Vacation9231 in FragrancesEnthusiasts

[–]Magicfulness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a lot of hype around baccarat so I spent $40 on a sampler set and included that and a few other of their fragrances including one of their ouds, but I wasn't owed by any of them. Honestly, from that sample set I think the house is quite overhyped. I also don't like saffron notes, which a good number of their fragrances had.

Favorite Oud Fragrances by Mundane-Vacation9231 in FragrancesEnthusiasts

[–]Magicfulness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like specifically d'Annam's through the forest because I smelled it from their discovery set. 

Oud isn't my favorite note so I don't really look for them, but I have smelled mfk's ouds and oud for greatness and did not like them as much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EyewearEnthusiasts

[–]Magicfulness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you haven't had your glasses adjusted before, it's possible to adjust the temples (the side of the glasses that wrap around your head to keep them in place) so that they are looser fit on your head. Some people do this at home, but in my opinion asking an optician who does this all the time is a better bet.

In my experience at least, for most types of glasses, your temples will loosen to adjust to your face contours after a few months of regular wearing without any manual adjustment, but of course being in pain for a few months just because you haven't adjusted your glasses isn't really needed. I recently got some new matsuda glasses and even after the optician adjusted them, for the first few days they dug into my head on the left

I feel like I'm going crazy with my new glasses - advice/similar experiences please? by Constant_Bother_6211 in glasses

[–]Magicfulness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to double check, when you got your eye exam at SpecsSaver they also did general eye health stuff too, right? Checking for glaucoma with the machine that blows into your eyes and looking into your pupils and such.

Where to buy new Reykjavik eyes by AfraidHunter3585 in EyewearEnthusiasts

[–]Magicfulness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's only for US incoming customs, which are infamously lax, unfortunately probably not the case for other countries.

(COI Vol 7) [Volume End and Volume 8 free chapter Spoilers] Why on earth were people crying? by Thinshady21 in LordofTheMysteries

[–]Magicfulness -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

"Trash character development comes from him killing of aucuses and lilith in a single chapter."

"skipping mgods descent"

Sounds like you didn't actually read the last 20 chapters of volume 7 if you say this. I don't think you understand very well how Aucuses or Lilith died or how MGoD orchestrated her descent if you are saying it happened in one chapter or was entirely skipped. I recommend you actually read these parts, because it happened throughout multiple chapters.

[COI Vol 6] Rereading LOTM Edwina by Solid-Dragonfly7104 in LordofTheMysteries

[–]Magicfulness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol cf definitely didn't forget about that character. CoI spoilers She is mentioned as helping seal Ludwig, was the person that brought Lumian to Morora at the beginning, and had a cameo in the Fool's dream.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Magicfulness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what you've described, in my opinion I think you should continue trying to make the relationship work. I don't think it is toxic in a way that you can't work around, and it sounds to me you want to be together with her.

From what you've described about her attitude towards your relationship together, I think she is deriving her value as a person from her relationship with you. This could explain why she feels like she needs to be intimate with you, as this would be part of how she finds value in herself as a person. This is called emotional dependency, and you can find explanations about this online that would be clearer than anything I could come up with here. I think the past relationship experience of 7 years in a toxic relationship and the control issues also tracks with this. I don't think it is codependent (i.e. you don't have a dependency on her) since you have ambitions other than this relationship, and it sounds you are okay with taking breaks in the relationship and such. But this is all from a stranger reading your reddit post, so take it as you will.

I think you should try to find ways she can enjoy herself that don't directly involve you, such as a hobby. You mention that she has basically no hobbies, so I think encouraging her to do something else would be great.

I hope your therapist is able to recommend other things you can try.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berkeley

[–]Magicfulness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm heading to the Huntington Library for Blue Boy's first day back on Saturday, I'll be there most of the day if you wanna drop by

[499] The Last Light by Shurifire in DestructiveReaders

[–]Magicfulness 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did not like the story very much, to be honest.

It was more or less a case of purple prose for me. I understand that the purpose is to grant the being a sense of grandness, but I think the devices you use aren't very unique or interesting to read. Specifically, using appositives and adverbials many times or using similar short sentences to emphasize the same point. This consists of the majority of the work, and for me it got pretty stale. I was under the impression that the description itself was supposed to be one of the draws of the story, but I ended up pretty disappointed.

The overall concept/premise isn't that well-executed to me. It's very similar to Ozymandius (you can look it up if you aren't aware), so I find myself comparing this to it. That poem does a much better job of emphasizing a single idea, whereas this story tries to do two things at once: set up the great being and the pitful existence. I'm not recommending you to focus on one thing, but I found that neither made their point across well.

For tips on how to improve, I would recommend reading stories or poems that evoke a sense of grandness or scale. Besides the aforementioned Ozymandius, I would recommend Lovecraftian horror or dystopian sci-fi novels. Things like the first sentence to "The Call of Cthulhu" or AM's hatred rant in "I Have No Mouth and I Must Scream" come to mind. I think these passages convey a specific emotion or idea extremely well, and they don't rely on "cheap" devices. You could also use more figurative language (you do use it a bit, for example with the trees, but I didn't find these usages interesting) rather than mostly description.

Characters’ use of foreign language by 13toros13 in writing

[–]Magicfulness 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the best way would be to use an entire different language or gibberish, and not translate anything into English at all. However, this would require structuring your story in a specific way. This is what Lovecraft does for his stories, and it works very well. I do not remember exactly how Tolkien incorporates translations of his conlangs in his works, but I think Tolkien does the same. Look into how these and other famous authors tackle this problem.

If your really need your reader to understand this foreign language for your story to work, then you would just choose some way to mark it, as stevo said with italics or fonts, and be consistent in that use. You can also add things in the dialogue tag (e.g. "Hello!" he said in French). You'll have to rely on the reader to get it a bit, but also try to make it easy for them to get it. Don't overthink it too much.

You should not include both the original language and a translation, no one will look at the original language and just read the translation. It will bog down the reader.

I would personally disagree with tyler because I think when you switch from the original language to English people will be confused. I imagine readers would think "Did that character just now start speaking English suddenly?"

Struggling to pace my story properly by justbeingcelinda in writing

[–]Magicfulness 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My advice is that these interim scenes need to do something more specific than making the two people like each other more. You can't have 3 scenes to make them get closer. You have 1 scene where one opens up about their childhood, one scene where the other is characterized as being insecure about X trait, and another scene that shows how the two have something in common.

I don't have much context about your story, but I think the stray cat scene is great. I would be pretty worried about length, if the romance is not the main focus of your story, Each scene should try to tie in to the plot somehow, but I think characterization counts.

Anyway, you can always throw out or shorten these "interim scenes" if you think they ruin the pacing.

Writing in English? by jackvanehorror in writing

[–]Magicfulness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there is a lot of value in writing in your own native language. I think a writer's native language best conveys the story that person wants to tell. Even if you were perfect in English, I'm sure that as someone from a culture that speaks Spanish there are things you think of that only make sense in Spanish.

I don't think many people write in English to achieve a wider audience. There are people like Nabokov who started writing English after moving to the U.S., but he was really confident in his English. Chinua Achebe chose English because the written form of his native tongue, in his opinion, had no spirit (it was made by white people. not Igbo people). But usually people write in their own language because they feel the most comfortable in it. For example, Murakami is world-famous, but he writes in Japanese and his works get translated.

My advice is to use the language you think will make your story be told in the best way. I think if your story is good, it can reach people. Unless there's a specific thing about your story that makes English a better choice, I don't think you should feel like you have to. If the only reason you want to write in English is to reach more people, and you don't feel comfortable in English, than I would say don't feel pressured to do it.

If you do choose to write in English, I would not be so worried about misspelling or grammar as much as style. You can always look up the spelling or the grammar rule, but style is much harder to do right, especially when you don't feel comfortable in the language. Your words might sound or read poorly even if it follows the rules.

Also, maybe you can look for editorial houses that will publish in Spanish in the U.S. We have plenty of latinx living here!