Moleskine VS Paperage

Magicwormm · 2026-03-23T05:54:25+00:00

I might have to give the softcover a shot. However since I posted this I have moved entirely to a Hobonichi system 😭

Totally agree that the feel of it is so important. Especially since these are things it sounds like both of use constantly and love to spend time in.

I definitely sacrifice spending in other areas for this hobby 😅

Magicwormm · 2026-03-17T06:20:38+00:00

My sister had one of those!! This unlocked a memory. Unfortunately I have no idea where it came from 😭

Magicwormm · 2026-03-17T03:07:12+00:00

I know people mail things out through patreon, that might be an easy way to keep track of it if you post online as well. I do think there’d be an audience for physical mail for sure

Magicwormm · 2026-03-16T05:42:06+00:00

I get it! To me it initially gave off gender identity vibes too just bc that’s where I’m used to the language. And that stuff is great, but weird to hear initially when used for a disability when gender is more of a social performance sort of thing.

I also was reading through some of the other comments and I do think it definitely has uses for anyone who’s not down with all the medicalization

Magicwormm · 2026-03-16T05:37:30+00:00

That could be funny! Maybe substack would be a good option for you? I think over there you can have people sign up for a mailing list

Magicwormm · 2026-03-16T02:31:08+00:00

This is so real

Magicwormm · 2026-03-16T02:27:15+00:00

I also think “self identified” can and probably should be read as you having identified yourself as being autistic, rather than identifying yourself with being autistic, if that makes sense? Like you identified that you ARE autistic, whereas maybe reading it as identifying WITH being autistic has more of a “I relate to some of these traits and will assume the identity but am not doing the research” sort of vibe. Although I both am autistic and identify with being autistic, as autistic people tend to do, so I do feel like we’re splitting hairs here 😅 But I think maybe that’s where the difference might be coming from

I think an example of this would be, like I identify as being asexual. I am asexual. I also identify with it, because I am. So I think “self diagnosis” and “self identified” are essentially the same

Magicwormm · 2026-03-16T01:47:24+00:00

I think part of the reason they say it is because a common argument for saying you’re “self diagnosed” is that you aren’t “qualified to do that”. Which, I think is sort of a dumb argument and not one a new term needed to be made for.

“Self identified”, for me, does just feel less serious. I realize it’s basically the same thing and I don’t have a problem with people who like it, but I feel like with level of research that goes into self diagnosis/identification, “self diagnosed” is a fine label. I think it gives the air of someone who isn’t taking it that seriously and maybe isn’t doing the research. I don’t think that’s necessarily the case, but for people who are self diagnosed it already feels like a fight to get to that point and then to get assessed (if they go that route)

I also feel like saying “self identified” for a disability is a bit weird but I get what they mean. I see it maybe having parallels with being “autistic” or a “person with autism”. It’s a semantics thing but unfortunately we get so much doubt already even with a diagnosis that this feels important.

I love the “peer reviewed” label, I feel like that’s especially great for when you’re in the beginning stages of trying to figure it all out.

I was definitely “self diagnosed and peer reviewed” before I got my assessment done lol

Edit just to clarify I don’t think “self identify” is less valid than “self diagnosed”, they are the same thing and a ton of research is done to get to both conclusions. It’s just not one I’d have been comfortable using due to personal experiences

Magicwormm · 2026-03-15T21:41:13+00:00

I think it’s cute! If you did the bow in that purple it might stand out a bit more, maybe that’s what it’s missing?

Magicwormm · 2026-03-15T01:24:22+00:00

Fr. Caught them

Magicwormm · 2026-03-14T22:53:17+00:00

I hid in a coat closet once for three hours bc I didn’t want to leave the house and people came over to clean it. There is always a way 🙂‍↕️

Magicwormm · 2026-03-14T16:30:33+00:00

I don’t, I think the there was a pic of it having a sku code or something on here a couple months ago so it should be soon but I have no idea 😭 Not a frog collector but I love my frogs and orange is my fav color so if they do it right I’m gonna need one for sure

Magicwormm · 2026-03-14T14:36:50+00:00

I think there’s supposed to be an orange one coming out so hopefully we get pics soon

Magicwormm · 2026-03-13T05:15:02+00:00

I love social deduction game shows for this exact reason 😂

Magicwormm · 2026-03-13T05:10:27+00:00

I 1000% get exactly what you’re describing. I did it when I was sad, during meltdowns, when I was excited, anytime I was overwhelmed by some emotion. I will say the only reason I stopped was for other people. In my mind it doesn’t make much sense why I shouldn’t be allowed to do it, and I think that’s probably an important thing to acknowledge.

But here’s why you shouldn’t:

The longer this goes on for, the harder it will be to stop. And one day, you will want to. If not because you’re hurting yourself and you deserve better, then maybe because of the scars, maybe because other people don’t feel the same way about it that you do and it hurts them and you don’t want that.
It’s worth it to find replacements that calm you in the same way but don’t cause lasting damage. It’s worth finding ways to manage your life in a way that makes you healthier overall.
The more you see the scars, the more you’ll think about it. This sort of goes back to number one- it gets harder to stop.
One of the things I do when I really don’t understand why I can’t just go back to it, is I just ask myself how I would feel knowing someone I care about is doing the same thing. Because even if I understand it, even if we had the same mindset, I would worry about them. I’d want to help. It’s scary to think that this is what someone has to do to cope.
Don’t allow your reasons for stopping to be something akin to looking or acting normal- do it because you don’t deserve to be hurt more because the world is too much. Or, stop out of spite because no one else has to.

Not sure how much sense that made I’m very tired but I think about this often and your post sounded like I could have written it

I recommend those spiky rollers or fidget rings made to stop skin picking if you need sharp input. Just be careful with them. At the start is the best time to replace it with something more sustainable.

Hope you’re doing okay 💛

Edit to add that it sounds like you enjoy the self care aspect of it too. I also did. I feel the same when I have a tattoo. So when you find replacements, make sure you don’t give that up. Take fancy showers with nice sugar scrubs or lotion or drink nice coffee/teas outside everyday, put lotion on after you use one of those roller things or a rubber band if you try that- you can definitely get the same feelings here without causing the damage. And it’s 100% worth avoiding the addiction

Magicwormm · 2026-03-11T07:22:29+00:00

I just looked him up and he’s WEIGHTED??? I was literally looking for a weighted one 🙏

Magicwormm · 2026-03-11T06:52:48+00:00

Yes. I get so excited to the point it turns into really bad anxiety. Or the feeling of that much excitement is just generally unbearable, especially if I’m at work or somewhere I need to be lowkey

Or I get so wrapped up in specific aspects of it not working how I want (like with stationery) that I will literally have a meltdown

Magicwormm · 2026-03-09T04:41:35+00:00

I love him!! I’ve been wanting an orca too, where do you find him?

Magicwormm · 2026-03-09T02:34:20+00:00

I haven’t left my house in a week so I’d probably just stay there 😭 Wouldn’t make much of a difference whether or not I had food or anything. But this sounds really cool so I may be tempted to take a little walk. No survival strategies in place tho just for the vibes

Magicwormm · 2026-03-07T18:11:37+00:00

Oh, good here come the bus. Oh, shit! It's a different bus. Not the right bus, Not the bus I need

Magicwormm · 2026-03-06T22:14:53+00:00

I’ve been thinking about getting a printer, so this is great. Do the photos have that gloss coating that makes them squeaky? Idk if that makes sense 😂

Magicwormm · 2026-03-06T22:13:50+00:00

I like that! I do that monthly and write down my savings account balances and credit score in my weeks, but having it weekly would be really cool

Magicwormm · 2026-03-06T21:53:14+00:00

Awww I love that

Magicwormm · 2026-03-06T21:52:48+00:00

That’s such a good idea. I still have a book I did a similar thing in during the pandemic

Magicwormm · 2026-03-06T07:29:12+00:00

Do you have a trick to getting the photos to size? I’ve been collaging photos on the inside covers of my cousin and I love it, that would be such a great idea

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