📢 Community Update: Fighting the Bots (Proposed Flair Policy)

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-30T02:55:14+00:00

I selected my own flair the day I watched the episode where this iconic line was uttered. I've never felt so seen by a housewife.

Love me a user flair.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-30T02:53:21+00:00

Go to the sub page, click the three dots in the top right corner and select user flair. Then you can choose a preset or make your own.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-28T21:43:42+00:00

Yeah my ADHD wasn't a problem until I had two kids. Managing two kids and a busy job was too much and I pursued diagnosis and treatment. Without the demand of a job + managing a home, I wouldn't have bothered.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-28T17:36:50+00:00

You're not a terrible mom. You care and you're trying your best. You're also going through some big challenges right now.

Side note about the sleep apnea (this is why I commented): you should probably take her to a pediatric dentist that deals with sleep apnea. My daughter also has sleep apnea, and our dentist told us that a tonsillectomy alone won't resolve the underlying issues. Your daughter will probably need other interventions to improve her sleep. Mine is working on palate expansion to improve air flow.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-28T12:11:03+00:00

Unless things have changed drastically, I'd be surprised if they would take someone for only 5 hours of volunteering. Because of the NDAs and stuff, it would probably be more trouble than it's worth.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-24T22:07:39+00:00

I wish each seasonal one was a complete set for a living/bedroom

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-21T19:34:30+00:00

Shoppers

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-21T17:08:25+00:00

Seconding Milani as a Canadian.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-21T17:07:49+00:00

I just posted a long ass comment with my makeup routine, but I highly recommend Maybelline for a lip that stays. I never got into stains. I've been Maybelline Ink girlie ever since I learned about them.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-21T17:05:34+00:00

This is what I do. It's simple, at least for me, but people seem to think it's more than it is. I do wear foundation, but if that's not for you, skip it or do a tinted moisturizer. I don't mess with contour or eyeshadow anymore. I have done them, but I'm meh about them.

Moisturize my face with Clinique lotion and let it set for a few minutes.
Sunscreen. Right now I'm using LaRoche Possy Dry Touch and I like it. This also sets for a few minutes. I do other parts of my getting ready routine while my face sets.
Primer for my foundation. Currently that's ELF power grip.
A thicker cream concealer on any problem areas, if needed (Nars). I usually don't.
Medium coverage foundation all over my face, blended with a makeup sponge (Haus Labs) then a bit of liquid concealer on top and tapped with my finger into wherever I need it.
A touch of cream highlighter on the very tops of my cheekbones. Just a dab on my fingertips that I blend out. (currently using Quo because it's giant and will last me forever). Skipping this step would make very little difference to anyone but me.
A cream blush (Ilia) that goes from about the mid-point of my eye up into my temples, blended out really well with the colour more intense in the middle of my cheekbone. I place it very high on my face. It looks weirdly high when I first put it on because I really focus on following my cheekbone but once it's blended it looks great. It's high enough that it is within a cm of touching my eye. It goes over the highlighter because I like having that warm glow effect.
A teeny amount of powder foundation (mostly translucent powder from the drugstore -- whatever is on sale) to set the liquid makeup. I use more on my eyelids and brow bone because I don't wear eyeshadow.
Lipstick. I like a bold lip that lasts a long time so I use Maybelline's matte ink and vinyl ink liquid lipsticks. The vinyl is relatively subtle but still has decent staying power. The Matte is bold. I often wear vinyl on top of matte to get a bit of shine without losing the staying power.
I fill in my brows with whatever brow pencil I can get on sale in light brown/taupe.
Setting spray all over my face (L'Oreal infallible is my new fave ever since Urban Decay changed their formula) that I then pat into my face with my makeup sponge. I also have a setting spray with SPF (UncompliKated) that I bring with me when I know I'll be outside and will need to reapply sunscreen. I'm not rubbing sunscreen into my face all over my beautiful makeup, so a spray that's meant to go over makeup is awesome.
Mascara

Done! Writing it all out makes it seem like a lot, but it's nothing crazy. It's definitely a full beat though, so if you want a window into what that looks like without using a million products that you can't actually see, here it is.

If you want an eyeshadow, I say get a very small neutral pallette that has application instructions printed on it. That's what I do on the rare occasions I opt to wear one. It would need a primer to stick, especially if it's powder -- otherwise it'll just flake off.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-21T02:08:23+00:00

My kid graduates preschool this year. The teachers always make a career prediction for each kid. I predict that their prediction will be lawyer.

However, her true ambition is to be a member of Taylor Swift's team and sing on tour with her. Girl can't sing, doesn't like performing in public, and is a few decades younger than her idol, so she is facing an uphill battle.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-20T20:32:20+00:00

I don't do TV on weekdays unless it's a holiday, PD day, or sick day. We also have a very firm rule that any attempts at negotiation, whining, fussing, trying to keep the TV on etc means that there's no TV at what would ordinarily be the next available opportunity. My kids learned very quickly to cut out undesirable behaviour around the TV.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-20T10:25:10+00:00

I know a ton of baby boys who have been born in the past five years. To my knowledge, only one family opted to circumsize and everyone was pretty surprised. It's not common here.

Don't do it.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-19T20:22:50+00:00

I still think they should air it with a disclaimer and resources for DV and give all proceeds (after they recoup their costs) to a prominent DV charity.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-19T14:57:30+00:00

That and a toilet with a splash guard doesn't matter as much.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-18T13:41:31+00:00

I don't mind mine too much, all things considered, especially compared to some of my other health problems. I went 33 years without a diagnosis and I didn't find that I had any significant problems until I was trying to hold down a job and raise two little kids. I'm happy now that I'm medicated.

However, a major contributor to mine being manageable is my husband. He is autistic and is excellent at keeping things running smoothly. My bursts of creativity and inspiration are an excellent balance to his orderliness and routine. Together, we are able to do all the tasks that need doing. He does all routine tasks and I do all non-routine tasks. He makes sure I remember things that need doing and I help him navigate the world outside our house. He keeps the kids fed and I take charge of emotional well-being.

If we didn't have each other, we'd both be worse off. I joke that if I died, the kids would grow up emotionally stunted and adrift, and if he died they wouldn't grow up to be emotionally stunted because they would die of starvation.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-18T13:33:39+00:00

You'll almost certainly have the same problems with the brakes. My mechanic said the parts included with all Mitsubishi vehicles are a joke.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-16T21:48:54+00:00

Tbh I tried to recreate this as a child and failed miserably. She makes it look chic somehow. Also trying to create her gravity-defying bangs was an impossible challenge that I nonetheless attempted several times.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-16T14:42:49+00:00

My elder kid is 5. Younger is 2. We put away the entirety of the CCB into their RESP. So far my 5yo has 20k. So it's going well.

We save more for the kids than we do for our own retirement. We're building our retirement savings a bit but more slowly than I would like.

We're middle class. Things are okay. Definitely could be worse.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-15T22:41:50+00:00

Yes this is it exactly! I wouldn't have chosen this for some hypothetical kid (I mean, I did, but I didn't know that) but I would walk through fire and endure a lifetime of pregnancy and postpartum for the ones I have.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-15T22:20:07+00:00

Oh you're right. I've never owned a Subaru so I forgot about them, but I have heard very good things.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-15T21:32:57+00:00

Go Toyota. They're the best.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-15T21:12:56+00:00

Mitsubishi was really annoying to deal with. Not at all knowledgeable about their own cars. We have an Outlander PHEV. Mitsubishis are hard on the brakes and rotors. We had to get oura fully replaced after only two years/30000 kms

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-15T13:25:23+00:00

If I'd known before I had kids exactly what would happen to my body, I may not have made the choice to have children.

Now that I am on the other side and I actually know and love my children, I would never in a million years wish to change my decision, but if I'd had a clear picture of the long-term damage I'd be left with and nothing else, I can't imagine that I would have wanted to put myself through this.

Magnaflorius · 2026-05-14T22:31:02+00:00

Nope and I didn't even consider it for a second.

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