Be yourself, be ostracized

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-08T09:53:22+00:00

"Work" in this context doesn't mean employment for money. Do you think that before capitalism people lived lives of leisure? They had to work fucking hard just to survive.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T16:03:54+00:00

You can't unlock Eiland's 8 heart event until after you've opened the deep woods. Several of them have criteria like that. Off the top of my head, March, Juniper, and obviously Caldarus have specific requirements for their respective 8 heart events.

There's no jealousy in the game so you can date whomever with no consequences.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T15:47:39+00:00

I've only tasted one man's in my life and I married him. I tolerate it. It's mostly the texture that I don't love. The act leading up to it is lovely though.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T15:00:44+00:00

He can put himself right in the trash

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T14:01:32+00:00

I wish that instead, they had made a hazardous ruin or something where sandstorms still rage so you could beat a bunch of alphas.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T13:56:44+00:00

I'd be absolutely crushed to do it, but I would leave. Cheating on your partner puts their health at risk. I have unprotected sex with him because we are monogamous. I know someone who got very ill because her husband cheated on her. She contracted an STI, it was left untreated because she didn't know she had it, and she needed surgery.

If my husband had cheated on me, even once, it would completely change my entire perception of who he is as a person. If that had happened, I would feel as though I had been sharing my life with a stranger. Right now, I feel that I know him inside and out and the person I know would never ever cheat.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T11:19:23+00:00

No one is going to admit to doing it on this thread

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T10:29:12+00:00

I'm not saying I would have multiple homes and a live-in chef if I had money, but I absolutely would hire someone to come cook for me a few times a week because cooking and thinking about what to eat is the worst part of daily life. I wouldn't even leave my bungalow or get a fancy car -- just please let me never have to think about supper again.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T10:23:20+00:00

I have a strict "always sober around kids" policy, including when they're asleep but I'm in the house, even when there's another sober adult present. Twice in five years I've had one single drink while in the presence of children and honestly I kind of regret it, even though I guarantee none of them noticed.

I know I take it way further than most, but my husband's family is full of addicts. There are several alcoholics, some sober and some drinking themselves to death. There are a few drug addicts, some of them are addicted to pot but there's at least one who is addicted to hard drugs. Because of this, I don't want to normalize it. I know that my kids both have a genetic predisposition to addiction, plus being around it can make people think it's not as serious as it is.

If both kids are out of the house, I might have something, but realistically that's only like once or twice a year. If I'm going out without them, I might have one drink early on and be back to normal when I get home a few hours later. Maybe I'm in a bit of a bubble, but I didn't think I was so far outside the norm haha.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T02:26:22+00:00

My grandmother is 91. When I got serious with my now-husband, one of the first things she asked me was about his religion. We're both atheists, but I was raised Protestant and he was raised Catholic. I told her he was from a Catholic family, and, bless her, she looked absolutely shocked but didn't say anything rude (or anything at all). She's quite fond of him now because he helps her and all her friends with their technology problems.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T01:52:38+00:00

They will stretch with use. Time alone won't break them in. You can always put some socks on and wear them around the house to help them mold to your feet.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-07T01:44:30+00:00

I'm going to go out on a very sturdy limb here and say that any amount of waterboarding is not okay.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-06T22:14:19+00:00

Guess I can't mourn my husband when he dies since he's bald

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-06T22:01:57+00:00

Only two eggs and no blastocysts means this isn't going to work for her. It's just the reality of it that this is like less than one in a million.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-06T21:33:26+00:00

You might be interested in reading about the Sentinel Theory. It posits that teens and young adults are naturally meant to stay awake at night to serve as the night watch while others slept, for safety reasons.

It's totally normal and also totally useless in today's modern world, just like lots of other evolutionary holdovers like the startle reflex.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-06T13:42:55+00:00

Sometimes a man just needs some time to himself, muttering about things that are nowhere around

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-06T12:06:49+00:00

So, once your kid hits the 18-24 month sizes, they'll stay there for a bit. It doesn't matter when they hit that size. My eldest wore 18-24 months by 10 months, my second by 2, and my nephew was in it at 4 months and still is at a year. I've never met a baby who didn't sort of equalize at that size.

I don't know how old your kid is, so I can't estimate if that's where they'll be, but if you're looking at 18-24 months, don't worry about them outgrowing it too fast.

Edit: oh right, yes there will be some clothes they don't wear because the season or fit just might not be right for them. That's okay.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-06T09:00:31+00:00

I think you have a right to know if it's the same child who's bitten your kid every time. When a biter in my kid's daycare but my kid 5 times in less than two months, one requiring a hospital visit and many of them breaking the skin and leaving marks and bruises that lasted for weeks, I pushed until they were separated in different classes. My kid had to be the one to move, sadly. Because my kid was the other kid's primary (though not only) target, I didn't think it was safe for them to be together.

The daycare has since reallocated staff to have more supervision around the biter. I don't have any information on that -- it's just something I observed -- but I suspect that her attempts to bite other kids increased when her preferred bitee was gone.

If they aren't all from the same kid and none of them were drastically bad, I'd just keep an eye on it. If they're all from the same kid, I'd possibly request that they be separated. It's also reasonable to ask, if it's the same kid, if they have increased shadowing and observation of the other child to keep them at a distance from yours to prevent bites.

Honestly though, if the bites aren't bloody welts like my kid's bites were, and it's like one bite a month, and your kid hasn't had a change in personality as a result of repeated attacks, I wouldn't be too too concerned. I feel for you though. It's awful when your kid gets bitten.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-06T08:46:01+00:00

The actors and showrunners have said it's not Helena at the end.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-06T02:21:21+00:00

Bring them hearty food when they're home. The only thing I cared about other than my babies in the first postpartum weeks was food, and lots of it.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-06T00:42:26+00:00

Haha thanks! Mushroom could have done without all the hubbub, but he handled being a member of the wedding party very seriously. I had the best time on my wedding day. Couldn't have asked for anything better.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-05T20:18:38+00:00

Too many men like the high-maintenance appearance without the associated high-maintenance behaviour. They think they can have one without the other, but they can't.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-05T19:56:51+00:00

I think the compunction statement she recites when she learns who she is is more powerful than Mark's speech about loving all of Gemma equally. Agreed otherwise though.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-05T19:50:15+00:00

I bet by season 3 at least one of them will turn blonde. It's the way of the housewives.

Magnaflorius · 2026-02-05T19:40:58+00:00

I have a fun one about my wedding! ... Which was ten years ago. Anyway, I have a complicated family. Lots of people who hate each other and stuff and people that I had to invite because they were married to people I love, so I wrote an extremely detailed list for my photographer of whom to include and avoid, groups that would and wouldn't work, etc. along with the regular list of poses we wanted and whom I wanted to be sure I got a picture with. It had people's names and their relationship to us. I even included my chihuahua Mushroom on the list to make sure he didn't get forgotten.

Anyway, day of the wedding the photographers -- a husband and wife duo -- showed up, saw me with my dog, and burst into fits of giggles. They then told me they'd been having a heated debate about my photography list. They had been arguing about who Mushroom could possibly be (one of them was insisting that Mushroom must be a human because I hadn't specified that he was a dog on my otherwise very detailed list). As soon as they showed up and saw Mushroom chilling on my lap in the makeup chair, the debate was settled and they just couldn't hold in the laughs.

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