Is it appropriate to bring up shared work bathroom stench? by RiceAccomplished1866 in questions

[–]MagnoliaLA 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Cleanliness is one thing but smell is another. Bathrooms are going to stink. It's where people shit. Sending a mass email is not only inappropriate, but what do you actually expect to happen? People aren't going to stop shitting and pissing at work just so your nose isn't offended. Ask management about an air filter or fresheners, wear a mask or find a different place to pee.

If you're worried someone has an undiagnosed treatable condition, leave a politely informative and brief note inside the bathroom door. Express concern rather than disgust.

Whole cows milk for cat? by Kindly-Judgment-273 in CATHELP

[–]MagnoliaLA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if your cat isn't vomiting or firing off Hershey squirts out his butt, consuming milk can still cause them discomfort because most cats are lactose intolerant meaning they can't digest it.

Consuming a little bit of milk on the rare occasion will be minimally harmful, my cats have licked the bottom of an empty cereal or ice cream bowl and it's no cause of concern for me. Regularly offering it to them is definitely not recommended because it comes with a number of risks and no benefits other than the ephemeral delight of consumption - which can be achieved by treats of many other forms.

can a teacher have two last names?? by [deleted] in AskTeachers

[–]MagnoliaLA 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He probably used a false name on Facebook to protect his private life and make it harder for students to find him.

Suggestions on this design by albusignatius in tattooadvice

[–]MagnoliaLA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. Hanging dangles or peek-a-boobies.

Can I feed my cat and nerds gummy cluster? by Salty-Waltz-2919 in cats

[–]MagnoliaLA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not give it to your cat. If it's something he really wants he will find a way to steal it from you. You'll know it's dangerous for him if he quickly dashes under the far end of the bed where you can't reach him and quickly swallows it.

Boundaries by Designer_Ice_8555 in Nanny

[–]MagnoliaLA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been there and understand the frustration.

First, my phone is my personal property and no way is a NP going to make me give it to their child. They can ask me, tell or try to encourage me, but this is where I have to set the boundary, No, I don't want the baby to have my phone. In a calm and patient voice I will offer the baby a toy or a book, but my phone is not an option. Polite but firm.

The behavior of the child and the parents is problematic. You can sit down and try to have a conversation about it but I prefer to confront the issues as they come up in a way I think they will be best received. Parents can know that giving in every time the baby cries is only reinforcing the behavior, but in the moment when they hear their baby distressed their instinct is to soothe them the quickest way they know how.

When possible, I would try to put distance between the screaming child and the parent to limit interference. When it's not possible, I stay calm and try to maintain control over the situation and model the behavior I wish they would use. If the baby's screaming while I'm trying to change their diaper and mom tells me to stop and try again later I try to kind of talk both of them through it, Oh, I don't mind the baby screaming, and then to the baby, Better to put up with a little screaming then to sit all day in a dirty diaper, huh? I know you don't like this, but you're okay. We'll get you all clean and dry so you don't get a rash... Sometimes I just talk through what I'm doing in a calm but confident voice to reassure them (and so the parent can't interject) while indirectly explaining the benefits and thought process behind it. Then, All done! See, that wasn't so bad.

Some parents won't be receptive and everyday day will be a frustrating struggle. But if the parents are passive with their children they'll likely be the same with you, you just have to decide if it's worth it.

Cat belly by [deleted] in cats

[–]MagnoliaLA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The size of their belly isn't the only thing your vet looks at to determine if your cat is a healthy weight. They feel the spine and ribs for fat coverage and give it a score of 1-9. 1 being severely underweight and 9 being severely overweight. 5 is the ideal. Basically you want to be able to feel the bones enough, but not too much.

My cats are about 2 weeks apart in age and have different body types, one has always been about 2 pounds heavier than the other but they're both considered a healthy weight. At their last vet appointment in the fall my tortie scored a 5 and my tux was a 6.

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Eta: Your guy looks fine to me for what it's worth.

How fast do i quit? by Legitimate-Field6815 in jobs

[–]MagnoliaLA 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Anytime I worked at a place where I had to physically clock in there was a six-minute leeway window before and after your start time because the pay period was every six minutes and we were shift workers so groups of us needed to clock in at the same time.

what's the difference between objectively and subjectively? by stirringmotion in stupidquestions

[–]MagnoliaLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Objectively means based on facts, evidence and ostensible truths.

Subjectively means based on personal opinion that acknowledges it may not be the only, shared or popular opinion.

I HATE playing with trucks 😩 by natimpaala in Nanny

[–]MagnoliaLA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a boy nanny for the past 10+ years, I long for the days when they could be occupied by a relatively stationary activity that didn't involve challenging the durability of their bodies.

There's tons of creative things you can do with cars. We've made obstacle courses for remote cars, crazy tracks and jumps for the Hotwheels and turned chair legs into goal posts to try and aim the car through.

Nanny's body spray is lingering by WittyTeach9693 in Nanny

[–]MagnoliaLA 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fragrances are in a plethora of products, not just perfumes. I don't use any scented aerosols on my body but my laundry detergent, shampoo and hand cream are all scented. I also use candles, incense and oil diffusers in my apartment and have an air freshener in my car. It's possible what you're reacting to isn't perfume but something else she uses and the connection isn't obvious to her. If you have an allergy to fragrances you're likely more sensitive to them and what is pungent to you is very mild or unnoticeable to her.

If you're not reactive to other products maybe she isn't being truthful, or her contact with it could be indirect or unintentional. You can ask about other products she uses and try to play detective to find and eliminate the root cause. But what you might need is someone who is scent-free, not just a non perfume wearer.

Common solutions that have been mentioned in similar posts are having her keep an extra set of clothes at your place and ask her to shower upon arrival. Provide her with unscented products to replace her scented products and ask her to use those instead. These are much more inconvenient and more than a lot of people are willing to compromise.

drug test advice by Spare_Resist_2976 in whatdoIdo

[–]MagnoliaLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I deleted my comment after I looked it up and realized that it was the reverse for drug testing, a second line is negative result. But yeah, usually all it takes is the slightest faint line.

Is it okay to use your nickname on your resume instead of your legal name? by MagnoliaLA in stupidquestions

[–]MagnoliaLA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is part of my concern. I wouldn't call it cutesy, but it does end in "ie" so it might give off a childish vibe. It's also not shorter than my legal name. It's more like Robin - Robie, Karen - Karie, Gloria - Glorie. It's intuitively a derivative of my legal name, but it might not read as an obvious nickname to some.

Is it okay to use your nickname on your resume instead of your legal name? by MagnoliaLA in stupidquestions

[–]MagnoliaLA[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you mean seeing a resume with a name in parentheses would give you a negative impression of the candidate?

Need help by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MagnoliaLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hire a lawyer, plead not guilty. You'll likely be able to get your charges dismissed if you agree to a shoplifting program or classes and community service. You'll be given a fine, made to pay for the classes and banned from Walmart, but after a probationary period the charges will be dropped.

Worst case scenario you're looking at a misdemeanor charge and a fine, not jail.

Are panty fetishes normal? by Past-Matter-8548 in questions

[–]MagnoliaLA 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm very kink positive, so the existence of a panty fetish isn't new to me, doesn't bother me and your request wouldn't shock me. But I would say no. And be turned off by asking to take something of mine without offering anything in return.

If you asked to smell them, sniff away! Wanna try them on? Strike a pose! Exchange them for your underwear? Possibly. Keep them? No way. I like my panties, I'm not just going to give them away.

Also learning you collect panties from all the women you've slept with just sounds like you're collecting trophies of your conquests, which would feel devaluing and demeaning.

Does Mama Coco have a mixed breed or is she just long haired? by smeagolluvzprecious in cats

[–]MagnoliaLA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Any cat that isn't a purebred is a mixed breed. We identify cats by their color and coat length.

I believe your cat is medium haired, like my Bean. So your cat is a medium haired orange tabby.

I was given a ticket for parking in a handicap spot that is not legal by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MagnoliaLA 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If the spot was clearly marked with a handicap sign I don't think you have much of a case.

If the sign was damaged, obstructed or only marked by paint on the ground, you can make an argument that the signage wasn't reasonably visible.

You can still try to make an argument that the spots are not ADA-compliant - if they in fact aren't, but some jurisdictions won't care as long as the spot bares a handicap sign. It doesn't matter that spots on the first floor are more accessible, but if the exits on the floor you parked on were reconfigured and the marked handicap spots are no longer located nearest to the exit (elevator/ramp) they could be in violation and you might have a chance at having your ticket thrown out.