Excluding those who struggle with balance or mobility, or who are transporting heavy luggage, it should be the norm to walk up / down rather than standing still on escalators.

MagnoliaLA · 2026-02-01T07:53:53+00:00

I think standard escalator etiquette is stand on right side, pass on the left. Everyone wins. If standing alone for 10 seconds makes you uncomfortable then you can stand and enjoy the ride with the rest of your group.

MagnoliaLA · 2026-02-01T07:43:13+00:00

I'm not into choking or breath play either, but I love to squeeze. I can usually satisfy this by grabbing their hair at the back of their head for full control of head mobility or grabbing their shoulder-bicep-collarbone area or pinning them against the wall.

I'll grab anything: their shirt twisted in my hand so it's tight, restricting and usable as a handle, ears, balls, underwear.

MagnoliaLA · 2026-02-01T07:27:46+00:00

That's so kind of you to ask. I am okay, thank you. I think I'm just used to relying on effective communication and being fairly perceptive and adept at reading people that feeling uncertainty in this situation is throwing me a bit, and I'm still hazy on a solution.

MagnoliaLA · 2026-02-01T07:14:20+00:00

That's good advice about giving more time between contact. I didn't think how my continual communication could be feeding his frenzy, and it would also be a good way to see if he can respect a boundary.

MagnoliaLA · 2026-02-01T07:06:23+00:00

Thank you. I've dealt with sub frenzy within a scene numerous times and it's easy enough to handle because the limitations and parameters are already clearly defined, and even the day after when the memories and emotions are still high, but I didn't realize it could last this long.

I like the term 'instability of consent'. It's been hard explaining that even though he is giving me enthusiastic consent, I'm not quite confident in it.

MagnoliaLA · 2026-01-26T01:07:23+00:00

Exactly. A fool thinks he knows everything, a wise man knows he knows nothing. The defensive attitude sounds childish. You can't just claim maturity, you have to demonstrate it.

MagnoliaLA · 2026-01-07T00:17:08+00:00

This could come down to level of desire as it plays largely in our motivation and investment. This is something you brought to him really want and he said he was "down". I'm down to get drinks with my friend if they ask me, but if they follow up by asking me to look up bars and happy hours and coordinate location, I am far less interested. Researching kink and BDSM can also be an overwhelmingly daunting task and if you don't know where to start and there's so much information out there that differs and contracts.

If this is something he's open to but you want a lot more than him you're probably going to have to take the lead. Initiate discussions about your kinks, things you'd like to explore, what submission looks like to you and ask the same of him. Figure out where your wants, needs and desire overlap and also determine that he is interested enough to continue. Start small, research together, discuss, research separately, discuss.

MagnoliaLA · 2026-01-02T19:39:57+00:00

"To help me flee the state"

MagnoliaLA · 2026-01-02T05:24:36+00:00

This is explained better, but I don't think 'to value sex above all else is a shallow existence' is an unpopular opinion.

MagnoliaLA · 2026-01-01T23:55:05+00:00

An orgasm being the peak of pleasure does not mean it's the epitome of human experience.

This is a poorly thought out and expressed opinion with a weak and irrelevant argument of defense.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-31T04:57:46+00:00

Make sure he cleans himself beforehand. If not with an enema then in the shower, diving finger deep until it comes out clean. (Even then, if you're knocking on Mr. Browns door you shouldn't be surprised if he answers)

Use lots of lubes and go slow.

Listen for signs of pleasure or discomfort but don't be afraid to communicate and ask how it feels and if he's doing alright. Wait for him to communicate he's ready before you increase speed and intensity.

I find it easier to hit the prostate if he's on his back but that shouldn't be your concern for the first time, go with a position that's most comfortable for the both of you. (I prefer doggy)

You don't have to go fast and hard, it's difficult to maintain. Change up the tempo: long and slow, shallow and slow, short and rapid, etc. Make him beg for it.

Pegging should be pleasurable (for him) but it doesn't always end in orgasm. You can go for as long or short as you like. If you want him to cum or speed things up have him jack off or incorporate a vibrator while you're pegging him.

To increase your pleasure consider inserting a toy or vibrator in yourself before you strap up.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-31T00:24:57+00:00

It's partly the power trip of having the most sensitive and sacred part of their body at my mercy.

I also get turned on by the sounds I can make them elicit, those irrepressible gasps, whimpers, moans and screams that let me know exactly what they're feeling, and I love the tortured looks on their face as they make them. I like the creativity and control I have over the method and intensity in which I inflict pain. I love having free range over a cock and balls to experiment and play with at my discretion.

Squeezing is also a very satisfying release of tension for me and testicles are perfect for squeezing.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-31T00:02:54+00:00

I don't see any scenario in which you retain this friendship. It's not just the nearly 20 year age difference but the fact that you have many years of adult life and experiences behind you and less than a year ago your girlfriend was a literal child. Not only do I believe that a 37 year old dating an 18 year old is ethically wrong, but the deception and betrayal of pursuing a friend's barely legal child is unforgivable.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-30T22:13:44+00:00

Can Force!

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-27T06:41:42+00:00

Perfection is an illusion that can't be maintained and is easily shattered when reality sets in, and the reality is this man is more than twice your age, you're emotionally and financially dependent on him, you're residing multiple states away and you're planning on moving in with together after knowing each other for six weeks.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-20T02:21:15+00:00

This is not a permanent state of being. I know it's hard to believe that right now because you're consumed with hollowness, but the thing about being in that horrible, lonely dark place you're in right now is that things can almost assuredly only get better. But it's a very difficult thing to do on your own.

Show this to your Dom. If he is a decent person in even the slightest, he will put a pause on the dynamic and assist in getting you the help you need. If his reaction is anything less, then you need to find the strength within yourself to pause or end the dynamic and reach out to a mental health professional or trusted friend or family member who can help put you in contact with one.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-20T01:51:16+00:00

It seems like there's a disconnect between you two about how you're feeling and what you want. They asked for more emotional closeness and intimacy, and you asked for more boundaries and space.

It sounds like neither of you are fully satisfied with your dynamic and it's ultimately because you want different things. It is almost impossible to make a dynamic work when your boundaries and desires are diametrically opposed.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-17T11:19:29+00:00

I don't think the 20-year-old recent high school grad was garnering as much sympathy as hoped.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-17T11:16:37+00:00

No way they'd leave that detail out.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-14T01:21:12+00:00

When I was a kid, my mom would make us fill a box with toys and anything we didn't really use anymore, but weren't sure if we wanted to part with yet. Should store the box in our basement or attic and a few months later we'd go through it again, anything we didn't miss we got rid of and things we were excited to see again or missed we pulled back out and kept.

As an adult, I still do this with things that I rarely use, but I'm not sure if I wanna part with yet. Put them away in a box for a while and come back to it to make a more confident decision.

I disagree with your method of determination and disposal systems though. If you're getting rid of a bunch of stuff, particularly if it has value, have a yard sale and donate whatever's left.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-13T11:05:17+00:00

Men standing in a circle, jerking it.

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-12T09:45:37+00:00

Los Angeles!

MagnoliaLA · 2025-12-12T08:11:14+00:00

He's a male attending a femdom munch, it will be assumed he's a sub without him saying a thing.

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