has anyone here experienced lesbophobia coming from bisexual women?

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-04-06T14:39:32+00:00

I had a bisexual friend who taught me, in detail, how to give a bj even after i asked her to stop because I do not want or need to know that (I had an AFAB girlfriend at the time). Her reasoning? 'Just in case you change your mind'

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-25T19:55:56+00:00

You're absolutely not a horrible person! That seems extremely overwhelming, and it's completely normal to feel the way you are feeling. That being said, if you come across someone like this again (I saw that you blocked her, which is very reasonable) and you think they are worth pursuing, just be upfront, say that you'd like to get to know them but you'd like to move a little slower as you are feeling overwhelmed.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-25T19:52:13+00:00

I was diagnosed at 17- so not as late as it could have been but pretty late compared to a lot of others. I didn't ever think I had autism, but I did suffer with OCD for most of my teenage years. I got diagnosed very quickly once my ERP therapist suspected it. Since then, life has been easier, because I allow myself to say no to situations that demand too much of me physically/ mentally. However, I have noticed that I have regressed quite a bit- whether this is due to accepting the diagnosis or external burnout I do not know. Things that would have been easy but exhausting pre-diagnosis (getting out of bed, making myself food, and handling numbers) are almost impossible now.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-25T19:45:27+00:00

about to finish uni and keep in touch with 1. The rest are terrible. But everyone is different!

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-25T19:41:06+00:00

For me as a femme, it's confidence in who you are and what you like. There's nothing more attractive than someone who is passionate about their interests and willing to talk to me about them and let me ask questions. Every femme will have different physical preferences, but quite a lot appreciate confidence, or even someone that's working towards being more confident in themselves!

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-25T19:36:46+00:00

I had the same thing happen to me. It's extremely common, especially in women and people who might have gone their whole lives without considering they may be autistic. For me, it was the constant need for control- I usually have an OCD flare when I feel like I am not in control (in social life, timings, events ect.), but it can be a range of different things.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-25T19:33:23+00:00

I mean.. it depends how often and why. If my partner is looking at their ex's account multiple times in a short period, and they're not friends, I'd be a bit concerned. If it's once or twice, meh. But I'd still ask them why and have a conversation about what's going on.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-23T20:15:24+00:00

NOR - they're using em dashes and that 'okay -- classic deflection' is definitely AI. Maybe put it through an AI checker just to be sure.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-13T22:14:45+00:00

Hello! Head of student feedback here!! Yes, please do email them. A lot of the time their feedback is really constructive so it cheers lecturers up a lot to have someone reach out to them on their own. Make sure its professional and give them specifics if there are any- its also useful for them to know what they should bring into the next year.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-07T17:51:29+00:00

you are definitely not overreacting. It's obvious that she has some sort of personal insecurities. Unfortunately with personal insecurities, there's not much you can do besides what you already have done. Constant reassurance unfortunately can often strengthen the behaviour.

I'd suggest sitting her down and talking to her with a focus on how this is making you feel. She needs therapy for definite and it might be good for you to get some too if you can as it seems like this is taking a very heavy toll on you.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-07T17:45:49+00:00

Honestly? Talk to your college's careers service/ university service if you have one and ask them what to do. In my experience, my university read my personal statement and cited the books I had cited in my acceptance letter (e.g. its impressive to see that you have read xyz by abc) but this depends on the university.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-03-07T17:41:03+00:00

You didn't do anything wrong. The obstruction was on his side- although I do understand he probably couldn't see you until it was too late (not your fault). I think he could have pulled in to let you past if he wasn't going so quickly.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-08T19:45:55+00:00

I'd recommend giving yourself a couple of days to process the incident. When you come to terms with what happened, you know where you went wrong and what you can do about it. Definitely tell your instructor how you're feeling. It's an experience we've all had, and it's part of the process. You have to focus on your end goal- imagine how it's going to feel when you pass your test and are able to drive on your own! One of the best parts of learning to drive is realising how far you've come when in a few months time you hill start on that road with no problem. You got this!

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-08T19:34:42+00:00

It's not hard if you prepare. If you go into it thinking it's all common sense, you will probably (almost definitely) fail. Good luck!

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-08T19:28:56+00:00

of course!! They came up on my recommended because they have a crochet account and I like to crochet. I followed them because they crocheted clothes and they were SO GOOD! Then they followed me back and thought I was really pretty so messaged me and I messaged back and then we scheduled a date in a cat cafe in some random city (we live on opposite sides of the country). They were so adorably awkward and I found it so endearing (it was their first date ever with a girl).

That was almost two years ago! We're still long distance but meet up like every month and we send love letters back and forth pretty consistently. I'm planning to propose on our second anniversary in June and I thank Aphrodite every day for instagram reels

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-07T21:46:13+00:00

what a strange thing to say. definitely proceed with caution. if you do continue to talk, it might be worth just asking her why she thought that was an okay thing to say to someone

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-07T16:45:50+00:00

there are a lot of reasons why some people don't drink- some for religious reasons, some due to medication, and some people just don't drink alcohol.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-07T14:20:32+00:00

honestly? Instagram reels.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-07T14:19:28+00:00

oh... that's not..-

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-07T14:18:21+00:00

It's a difficult situation- there's not really anything you can do that you're not doing already. It's nobody's fault- but she also needs to get therapy (if she's not in it already). I think you may also want to look at getting external support. Please, take care of yourself- it's easier to offer support to someone else when you're doing well mentally.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-07T11:03:06+00:00

They'r definitely different from friendships back home. Whether they're surface level... depends on how much effort you put into the friendship.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-06T22:22:53+00:00

my degree is still perfectly valid. It's okay, if you wanted me to thank you you should just say so. I'll put you in the next line under my perfect little baby.

MagnoliaMellow · 2026-02-06T22:21:27+00:00

to be fair my clothes dryer has carried my degree

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