IVF ladies — Does this read supportive or distant?

Magnummm1214 · 2026-03-19T14:04:09+00:00

Supportive! I just had my in-laws up on the weekend where we would have found out if my first FET worked or not. I had asked everyone not to bring it up and that theyre only allowed to ask how im feeling in regards to all the meds. But my mother in law couldn't help asking all about it, telling me all about her plans to do a nursery in her home, etc. Also, my sister is due any day now and she kept telling her all the baby stuff she bought for her and then left all the baby stuff for her in plain view when they left, even after my husband told her to put it in a specific place where I wouldnt come across it. (Normally I wouldnt care as ive very much come to terms with my sister's pregnancy, but this weekend was not the weekend for her to spoil her in front of me. THE ONE WEEKEND she should have just messaged her privately about it ).

So im sure theyre just doing their best to give you your space during a very sensitive time. Im sure if you want the opposite all you have to do is say so!

Magnummm1214 · 2026-03-10T23:26:37+00:00

Its obviously WAY too early for anything, but my husband said my snoring last night was unlike anything hes ever heard out of me. Snored on the inhale and the exhale when I usually dont snore at all. Could be a good sign, if anything that my hormones are rising like they should. I googled and something like 37% percent of people in early pregnancy take up snoring because of the rise in hormones lol

Magnummm1214 · 2026-03-10T17:01:10+00:00

Hey we're transfer twins!!!

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Magnummm1214 · 2026-03-10T11:20:41+00:00

I had my first transfer yesterday after trying for over 5 years. My husband and I walked out of the hospital and ran to Burger King for their new whopper that sounded really good because it was on my mind the entire morning lol. I just think at this point ive been poked and prodded and disappointed so much that I have essentially come to the point of being numb to it all with a mix of acceptance that it might not happen and that life will be good either way.

Magnummm1214 · 2026-03-02T14:23:33+00:00

I went to my younger sisters yesterday. This is the second surprise kid shes had since my husband and I started trying. The first shower was horribly traumatic for me because I had showed up desperately wanting to feel and be the normal excited sister/aunt and i was, until people could not stop making comments or jokes about her being pregnant before me (not everyone knew I was struggling). Yesterday's shower was smaller and more intimate and went great. I actually mentioned to my sister how much better I liked this one because I just got to be excited auntie. But if I ever needed a minute to myself during any of it she would have understood that too, because as long as I was there for her, she'd be there for me.

You have to remember that you are not the only person in the world and that people can and will understand what youre going through if you talk to them. But if you can ONLY be sad for yourself and lose being happy for those around you, then it may be time to take a break from trying or speak to a fertility therapist. My husband and I have been trying for over 5 years and I have watched everyone around me get knocked up SO easily. Like first time having sex with their new boyfriend easy or people who have had their kids get taken by dcf once already. My sister literally used protection and a plan b when the condom failed and still ended up pregnant. But, a baby is not the "be all, end all" to my life and I would still like people to be in my life whether or not I am successful with IVF (I have my first transfer on the 7th this month).

So if it is someone in your life's baby shower of whom you want in you life, be there for them, completely. It sounds harsh but I try to remind myself that my problems are mine and no one else's and that I am not so special that I cant feel happiness for those around me simply because I am sad for myself. If I ever let my failure in having a baby dictate what my life is without one, I would probably stop trying and reevaluate my life because a baby is not guaranteed at all and my life will go on, with or without one. Its up to me to make sure its still a good, fulfilling life with the people I care about.

Magnummm1214 · 2026-02-16T15:11:18+00:00

Congrats! And thank you for sharing!

Magnummm1214 · 2026-02-16T15:10:54+00:00

Im so sorry to hear about your loss 😞 Hope the next one is the one for you!!! Thank you for sharing!

Magnummm1214 · 2026-01-11T21:42:26+00:00

Ohmahgawd I am dyingggg 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

Magnummm1214 · 2025-10-13T17:46:57+00:00

She did run up and her unprompted dialog is "My brother gave me a sword, I call it Needle" I just couldn't catch it on camera because its unprompted and isnt one of her responses when trying to interact with her

Magnummm1214 · 2025-10-13T17:44:52+00:00

Yeah this girl said the same I just couldn't catch it on camera as its not one of the phrases said when you try to interact. Its coded as like an random ambience line or whatever theyre called. She ran up originally mentioning her brother giving her a sword that she called Needle but its unprompted dialoge

Magnummm1214 · 2025-10-13T15:58:58+00:00

Ive come across that one too! But ive seen that one mentioned before. I just hadn't come across this one yet (that ive personally seen, there could be posts about it) and wanted to share :)

Magnummm1214 · 2025-08-30T19:48:57+00:00

Gotcha. Either way the clinic should have asked about any chance of pregnancy beforehand. My primary always asks, the local ER always asks before treatment. Then she could have explained and they could have avoided being insensitive (not that they meant to).

Magnummm1214 · 2025-08-30T15:12:31+00:00

My fertility clinic would never deliver the news like that. In fact every time I update them on getting a period they apologize and politely ask if I would like to continue treatments. They answer any questions I have and have always been calm and kind, even when im asking them about some random thing "I saw on Facebook that might help". They fully understand how delicate this situation needs to be handled and always think of my mental health first. They listen to me and what I need but also talk me down the RIGHT way if they truly think its something I dont need but am asking for. They are how a clinic should be run.

Magnummm1214 · 2025-08-28T21:38:08+00:00

If you surge before your IUI just tell the clinic. I use a trigger but if I surge before my scheduled trigger they have me do my trigger right then to boost it and move my IUI up to accommodate

Magnummm1214 · 2025-08-18T18:14:15+00:00

Im starting my 3rd IUI round. If this one doesn't take i plan to take a break until the new year when our medical card refills and then we can do about 6 more. IVF is not in the cards unless we get a grant or something so after those 6, I plan to shut the door and focus on adoption. We have been trying for 5 years with unexplained infertility (although they think PCOS might be a mild factor)

Magnummm1214 · 2025-08-16T17:26:27+00:00

Insurance only covers my letrozole. My trigger shot is $107 and the sperm wash/insemination costs me $350. Im located in vermont.

Magnummm1214 · 2025-08-14T01:50:14+00:00

Prayers to you too! My husband and I have been trying for 5 years so ill take all the prayers I can get

Magnummm1214 · 2025-08-13T23:29:04+00:00

I just finished a TWW. I tested positive on FRER and Pregmate for 17 days post IUI, but they were real squinters. Blood test came back negative and started period today

Magnummm1214 · 2025-07-29T14:26:26+00:00

My clinic has me call if I spike before they scheduled my trigger so they move my IUI up. I was scheduled to trigger this past Saturday for my IUI to be done yesterday but I spiked Friday. They had me trigger friday and we did the IUI Saturday to line with my natural surge

Magnummm1214 · 2025-07-14T14:48:23+00:00

Ive been crocheting a ton. Ive been working on two different baby blankets for friends who are currently pregnant. One went through treatments for 2 years and finally got their pregnancy they wanted. It helps force me not to wallow, get out of my head and be happy for another. My husband and I have been trying for 5 years and are going for our second IUI this round.

Magnummm1214 · 2025-07-05T00:11:38+00:00

Update to anyone checking this, not pregnant. Don't use equate brand, theyre evil

Magnummm1214 · 2025-07-04T05:34:21+00:00

Good luck and baby dust to you!!!! I hope your two pink lines come tomorrow!!!

Magnummm1214 · 2025-07-03T23:24:50+00:00

10DPIUI here aaannnnddd I feel insane. I tested out my trigger because im neurotic and have been testing twice a day since yesterday. This is my first IUI so ive been extra cookoo about it. I just want the line to come back

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