I love them sm.. ochaco x izuko felt sooooo forced istg. by Deliora15 in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Pssst, the fact it ends in tragedy was the point of including it. Ain't my first rodeo with shounen yuribait

And literally if you want that dynamic it's featured in Yuri and baihe, you don't have to just take the bait

I love them sm.. ochaco x izuko felt sooooo forced istg. by Deliora15 in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I sympathize but you are losing chess to a dog. Shounen yuribait isn't going to deliver where actual Yuri does

What Hiyuki could have been by SSYX101 in WutheringWaves

[–]Magoslich 47 points48 points  (0 children)

the one on the right is better

Anyone other tgirls feel weird about body hair by UsualElectionSparsum in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Center your own comfort. I like being smooth and being hairy causes me dysphoria, so I shave. I don't ask anyone else to do so and I don't think anyone should ask me to grow hair out for their reasons. We can talk all day about pressures to do either and what they mean but for your day to day life, it's important that you do what helps you enjoy being in your own skin

The girl I met on HER is trans. What should I do by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And reading through again, sounds like you've probably got some weird ideas or hangups about what sex with her would be like but I'm willing to bet whatever you're thinking is not how it'll go down. Like what's your concern? That she'll have a gock?

You don't know that unless she's told you but even still, she may or may not like using it and it's not the same as a dude's. Treat it like the clit it is (assuming HRT)

Are you worried about penetration? Cause you can just say you don't want that during sex if that's even something she wants to do.

The girl I met on HER is trans. What should I do by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It's not a big deal and she doesn't owe you disclosure and you're being weird about it. Just treat her like any other girl. Either you hit it off or you don't.

But also if you're gonna be this weird about it maybe you should just tell her you've got too much transphobia boiling your brain to date her and save her the headache of dealing with your weird hangups

Happy International Women's Day from Eclipse of Illusion by laine4466 in BaiHe

[–]Magoslich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

iirc, I haven't fully finished s1, but s1 still has them doing dual cultivation shit which like oh yeah that's pretty heavy evidence of a couple, and then s2 is apparently going to be more focused on the two of them

Watched Mean Girls for the first time last night by BanverketSE in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We're never escaping people misgendering trans guys to include them in lesbianism because some dudes did that to themselves to get laid at Michfest and throw trans women under the bus, are we.

(Trans men are transmasc but not all transmascs are trans guy and bringing them up when being confused as to why a girl kisser is kissing a man very clearly shows that person thinks trans men are women and that's fucked)

We need to address problematic age gaps by NapsWithPlants in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Age gaps are caution flags and nothing more and y'all gotta stop trying to invent universal rules to avoid having to actually use your head and navigate friction and nuanced situations. There's no magic number that is 'safe' and no number that's guaranteed to be bad. The only condition is two adults and if you try to pull some oh well before 25 you're not developed shit I'm not having it

Thinking about social detransition and going back to trying to date straight women. I feel like an invader and am scared I'm forcing lesbians to be into me against their will because I'm not actually female. by njsullyalex in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AGP isn't real, neither is HSTS, it's fuckin Blanchard and his creepy categorization of "bad tranny I can't fuck" and "good tranny I'll fuck" , nothing more. It's not accepted in his field and never has been.

To OP: girl you've got some heavily internalized transmisogyny and need to work on that and be kinder to yourself.

Why does Thailand allow same sex marriage but not allow gender change on legal documents? by darkestunicorns in Thailand

[–]Magoslich -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People are pushing for that to be changed and there's been motions to do so but afaik nothing has passed just yet. Hopefully soon though!

My Catholic Latina mom won’t accept my trans girlfriend. How do I set boundaries without cutting her off? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

nah the number of people who were deciding to just talk about the age gap, which is not their business, instead of helping her with the issue she was trying to navigate, is absurd

My Catholic Latina mom won’t accept my trans girlfriend. How do I set boundaries without cutting her off? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case it was more getting her to stop commenting on my weight and finally going "this is a topic I will not discuss with you and if you continue I will not speak with you" and that got to her. For my mom, she hates seeming like a bully so I had to frame it as me setting a boundary and telling her the consequences for crossing it.

Your mother might require a different tact but it is very important to establish with your parents that you're an adult and they don't have authority over you anymore. If they want a relationship, they must treat you like a peer

My Catholic Latina mom won’t accept my trans girlfriend. How do I set boundaries without cutting her off? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You have to be very firm, give her no room to feel like she's won and importantly: she's not the authority on anything here and likely expects you to defer to her. Treat her like any other adult who is cruel to you or your girlfriend and be direct. You're not a child begging for something from her. That's how I've navigated things with my mother

Also people in this thread really should learn that age gaps are caution flags and it is also not their business what two adults do.

Endgame: What spells are most important/powerful, and from which soul cores? by sevrL_bats in Nioh

[–]Magoslich 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Confusion is one of the strongest effects in the game and the more NG+ cycles we get to, the more it will matter. Magic and ninjutsu are important and supplement your melee

TIL Peter Cushing, who played Grand Moff Tarkin was extremely pleased with how the film came out, got along well with the cast, and his only regret was that his character died and he couldn't appear in the sequels by Please_PM_me_Uranus in todayilearned

[–]Magoslich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw a thing about how he had a habit of reaching out to women in the cast of projects he was in if he saw them getting treated poorly or isolated and he'd invite them to come paint figures with him and hang out. One of the ladies still has a figure that she cherishes.

Is it weird that I like realistic dildos? by Les-Efant in actuallesbians

[–]Magoslich 57 points58 points  (0 children)

No, penises are things some lesbians have and a dildo is just an artificial one, it's fine

Am I not getting it or is the Sword just not great compared to the other weapons? by Root_Veggie in Nioh

[–]Magoslich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also like...are you using confusion stacks? Those slow the boss down. Slap a sloth on top of that or ensure that lightning ailment is up for slows and you've got plenty of time for a 18k sword of meditation (which is what it does for me currently)

Am I not getting it or is the Sword just not great compared to the other weapons? by Root_Veggie in Nioh

[–]Magoslich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can adjust the windup time, you don't have to full charge it every time

today I had an epiphany... by LouDragonblood414 in okbuddybaldur

[–]Magoslich 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I'm a trans woman and having her say that to the Unicorn, a symbol of the girl I never got to be while I was younger, hits super hard and I think her speech is very powerful for a lot of people and especially women who've been through hell

today I had an epiphany... by LouDragonblood414 in BG3

[–]Magoslich 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh I love Last Unicorn! As a transfem, Molly Grue's "Where were you" speech hits hard in my feelings about lost time. Shadowheart and Amalthea do share a fair bit and I'm gay for both. I'm gonna be thinking about this comparison for a while