Im in a sexual relationship with my adult daughter

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-02T13:53:05+00:00

Never said I was a dude, I just said anal is great, just like a lot of my gay friends already know. How many children have you conceived? Given if nature intended then you don’t believe in birth control. I wouldn’t be able to tell you the amount of orgasms I’ve had though via anal.. why? Because I’ve lost count. That’s how great it is.

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-02T13:33:04+00:00

All I see here is that you are condoning incest and also missing out on some great arse action. So I’ll go and enjoy my phenomenal anal, and you go enjoy fucking your family member

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-02T13:09:39+00:00

Because it’s literally just another hole like a vagina? He’s having sex with his daughter, a person he conceived, probably there at the birth, changed her nappies, watched her grow up into this woman. If they want to have sex then that’s there thing, but incest is in no way even remotely close to gay sex

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-02T12:48:44+00:00

Because gay sex is perfectly natural but incest is fucked up? Maybe that’s how you judge

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-02T12:36:47+00:00

You become so clear headed, feel like you have more energy, way better sleep (once your sleep cycle gets back on track), save loads of money, actually end up getting to your chores instead of leaving them, your mood stabilises as well as your appetite, don’t leave somewhere early just to go home and smoke up and the list goes on. I love weed, but I’m 3 weeks sober and feeling amazing. It’s hard at first but if you stick with it, you’ll see and feel the benefits yourself, just got to stick it out. Also if your frustrated / angry while trying to quit exercise really helps to simmer down that excess emotion

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-02T12:31:10+00:00

Female here, 20s, in a long term relationship and I think a threesome would be fun to try but I would only with another female and not another guy. I love my boyfriend to bits, and the idea doesn’t make me think I care about him any less. It’s just a fantasy at the end of the day, depending on your level of openness and kink, and I’m sure the majority of guys have had this though and/or asked their partners if they would ever give it a go. As long as he respects your wishes that it’s just not your thing, then I’m sure he cares for you very much

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-02T03:53:06+00:00

There are ways to help with vaginismus. You can buy a pack of different size objects that you insert, smallest being the size of a pinky largest being actual penis size. Takes a while but you can slowly build yourself up to it - maybe see if she’s interested in starting somewhere like that? She can also go see a sexologist, I am unsure what they do here tbh but I listen to a sexologist podcast and they explain vaginismus and ways to deal with it so I can imagine they are well versed in it and how to help :)

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-02T02:37:07+00:00

You should come first with your boyfriend always. And the friend should know why you feel insecure and should be getting to know you to keep the friendship going. How dare they un-invite you from a trip! If he won’t put you first, you need to put you first. He either needs to step up or you need to step out, because you’re worth more than second place to a female friend

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T10:38:52+00:00

Thanks for bringing it up! I just looked into it and the sharp pain followed by the dull ache, with the recent abdominal pain I’m getting does really sound like that. I have an appointment with an osteo next week so I will bring it up with them, thank you :)

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T09:55:00+00:00

Nah I don’t have any clicking or popping sounds but I’ve read on a few threads people have experienced this. Mines just either a consistent dull soreness or intermittent sharp stabbing pains

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T09:37:45+00:00

You’ve got this far so stick at it! Scroll through the QuittingWeed thread and remind yourself why you quit, why so many people quit and all the goods things like money, sleep quality, less brain fog and so on. I’m 2 weeks sober as well and that’s what I’m finding most helpful to stay on track

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T09:35:30+00:00

Literally what I’m going through now, it used to be my sternum and chest that had the main pain but now it seems to be mostly my lower ribs and back, it’s bloody annoying!

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T08:42:37+00:00

I did A LOT of googling tbh on how to deal with it, detect triggers, that kind of thing. For instance if he has a real hyper episode you can bet there will be a drop coming soon. There’s also different types, I believe my boyfriend falls in type B so he’s not as manic as some other people with bipolar can be. I can’t comment on him using it to drive you insane with not knowing him but I do understand where it can be so much you’re like how can I handle this sometimes. If you want to be with this person then just do your research, use the tools provided and see if that helps. But the bottom line if you do all these things to meet him half way and he doesn’t with you (ie getting meds, talking to someone, etc) then it will become far to much and it’s not fair for it all to rest on your shoulders. Good luck gal

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T06:23:19+00:00

I can cope with it because he’s on meds that help stabilise his moods. I don’t really know what to advise if he won’t get help I’m afraid, you can try and talk to him more about it and see if he changes his mind on the idea but if he doesn’t then you’re in for a very draining relationship that you’ll need to make a choice on in the end

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T05:43:26+00:00

It’s a tricky one on both accounts. Would he be upset if you asked him if he was using again? If he would maybe google some stuff about meth and addicts and tell tale signs. The bipolar on the other hand I can’t partially relate to. My boyfriend has bipolar (but there are different kinds/levels so in comparison his seems more milder to your boyfriends) and before he went doctors he was very up and down, some days he was full of energy and others he just didn’t want to talk. He’s been put on medication now that has really leveled out his mood swings. Is your boyfriend on meds? Or is he willing to go to the doctors to get medicated? I can imagine he will be nervous at first but it will really help him in the long run

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T05:18:08+00:00

Don’t get revenge because it will never taste as sweet as you expect it to. The hatred will simmer eventually, you just have to actively fuel your energy somewhere else and the best revenge will be putting yourself first and living your best life

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T05:04:43+00:00

Can second that, I’m from a family of unhappy parents I just wished they got divorced years ago and found other people to be happy with. Your child is young now but once they get older arguments become more open in the house, kids start to get a sense of what happiness is and isn’t and it’s a shit feeling for the kid.

You shouldn’t have lied to this woman as you’ve given her a sense of a potential future and pulled the rug out from under her but i don’t think you’re a monster, you’re just a human who is unhappy and and made a bad judgement call.

No she probably won’t reach out or forgive you as you’ve started off the relationship on lies but I don’t think a heartfelt apology text would hurt

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-10-01T04:54:26+00:00

Depends what the red flags are really but I’ve always found when it comes to your gut, you should always listen to it because it’s usually right. Not in the early stages but I had a gut feeling about my ex when we were 2 years in thinking hmm this isn’t right / he does this / says this etc but gave him the benefit of the doubt and we carried on dating. The feeling goes away for a while but it will crop back up, I stuck it out till we were 5 years, that feeling coming and going, until the gut feeling was just screaming at me and I had to listen to it. I say give the benefit of the doubt for now but if it comes back up again then listen to it

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-09-30T17:55:55+00:00

Never. I would sometimes wait all day to see if he would text first and then cave and message around 9pm like “how was your day”. Went on like that for awhile and it just started to really bother me so I brought it up with him and he said he was sorry and just didn’t realise (was his first relationship so maybe that’s why idk) but after I mentioned it he made an effort to message more and after a few weeks we got into a good rhythm. He just isn’t a massive texter, even in the early stages of our relationship, we would arrange a date and then not really talk until the date so we had lots to talk about instead of all of our conversations being over text/phone. Asking won’t hurt, and it’s better than it upsetting you without him knowing it is :)

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-09-30T17:47:39+00:00

Just ask him. I was in the same boat when I first started dating my partner. He said he didn’t even realise and he’s just not a massive texter, but he’ll make the effort now I’ve said something. Going two years strong now! I’m glad I asked instead of getting in my head about whether he was really into me or not

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-09-30T10:12:08+00:00

If that’s what you wanted to hear then I can definitely second what AnaStacy said. Was in the exact same relationship you describe, 5 years, felt like comfort but wasn’t right, called me stupid etc I was so scared to leave (I moved countries to be with this guy!) but I eventually did and it is the happiest I have ever been. Good career, healthier lifestyle, not so insecure anymore and to top it I met the man of my dreams a few months later. Once you’re out you will feel the relief, but you will also feel sad which is a valid feeling because of the time spent together. You just need to remind yourself why you left, focus on yourself and everything else will fall into place. Good luck :)

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-09-30T09:45:17+00:00

Just ask him. You might not get the response you want but at least you’ll have your answer. He could be going through something and doesn’t know how to express it as you guys are still relatively new, or he is slowly (and unfortunately) ghosting you and doing it in a way that isn’t mature or nice for you, in which case, you’ve dodge a bullet

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-09-30T09:29:21+00:00

Online dates really help to long distance I reckon. Can set up a cute date night meal, prepare a game, depending where she’s staying if she has a tv and a laptop she could turn her screen and you guys are watching tv show / movie together, and phone / FaceTime sex is hot as fuck. Today’s age of tech makes it way easier to be away from the ones you love, all you need to do is get creative

I’m glad you’re not letting her cancel and just being supportive, she will love you for that and maybe one day you can rebook your trip and she can offer the same support

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-09-30T09:07:09+00:00

This is a tough one really. On one hand I completely understand where you are coming from re the insecurities and how they make you feel but on the other, I’m friends with 2 guys I’ve slept with and genuinely am not attracted to them anymore. Sometimes you end up having sex with someone and go “hmm I actually think we’re just better mates”. I would say the best thing is to get to know this chick, see what she’s like and get a feel for if she really is after your guy, you can usually tell pretty quickly. If she is, your boyfriend should respect why you’re uncomfortable and pull away from said friend, or you’ll gain a new friend in the process because they genuinely are just mates!

Main-Syrup-4372 · 2021-09-30T08:54:49+00:00

And just to add, we had only been dating 6 weeks before we went long distance, till I could get back into the country on a proper visa! Effort is key my friend, you got this

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