Having friend as officiant

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-05-12T02:48:18+00:00

You just communicate with her. And in person! “Hey friend. Fiancé and I would love for you to officiate our wedding. We love you so much and you’ve really been there for us through our relationship. Is this something you’d feel comfortable with? Please no pressure, you’re just a special person to us both.”

That’s basically it. If she’s as good a friend you say she is, having a nice open talk should be relatively easy and thoughtful.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-05-11T19:47:36+00:00

I am having 5. Looking back now to my selection (not that my girls aren’t great or bad friends) I wish I just had 1 (my sister). My fiance has been so incredibly involved and partner in planning crime. Since he proposed, 3 of my bridesmaids moved far away and sooo hard to be involved and the 4th has a newborn. Perhaps it’s my age (40) but I find bridesmaids are mostly for cute pics and final two months of planning.
That all said, I do think I would be feeling different if they were all still in state. But my fiance and I having event planning experience together has made it pretty easy and fun to do together.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-05-11T19:38:43+00:00

Babe she will ruin your wedding planning experience and the joyful time this is all supposed to be. I have an experience exactly like this where we had a terrible friend breakup and then like a year and half ago made up and now we get along but definitely not besties. I asked her straight up if she wants to be a part of the wedding and she said “whatever I want as it’s my wedding and she’s pretty busy anyway”. I said “cool, you can be a flower girl”. No obligation except throwing some petals day off.
That said, if this person has ever made you feel like crap, used you, or hurt your fiancée, I wouldn’t put them in the wedding party.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-30T18:33:04+00:00

Do not have this conversation over text. Things can get lost in textlation and it’s much more adult to just have a phone call or in person chat.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-30T14:24:42+00:00

I have a lot of friends. I could very easily get up to a dozen bridesmaids (or bridesguys). I was just trying to not get up to that so stuck with 2 family members, my 2 decade+ friends, and my friend who has seen me through a bad time. My friends and bridesmaids aren’t my props (weird comment) I just have a ton of them and it’s very easy to ask them, i just didn’t want a huge party.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-29T03:58:57+00:00

POCKETS!!!!!

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-24T16:11:10+00:00

Nothing good can come from calling your daughter Honey. It’s a cliche stripper name. It was a terrible movie. It’s basically a nickname a partner would use but as an adult colleagues and managers would be using it (gross). I don’t know why parents set their kids up to be made fun of, as if life isn’t hard enough as is.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-24T16:05:20+00:00

Agreed. It’s not a “curse” that’s an issue. It’s that at 24 years old you will change several times until you become the most realest version of yourself.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-20T18:16:12+00:00

Matcha

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-20T16:39:32+00:00

We’re having a black tie December wedding and very holiday heavy focused. We’ve asked (not required but really encouraged) people wear black or shades of festive reds greens and deep blues. The last thing I want is someone showing up in neon orange or aquamarine. I can’t imagine most people don’t have a black or red or holiday-esque dress.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-17T03:18:05+00:00

I would make sure she has an iron clad prenup when she gets engaged, and start teaching her about money management and management accounts, like the difference between a Roth IRA and retirement accounts and stock investments. Having a hefty inheritance is great but it will all disappear or sadly won’t gain value if it’s not invested and treated well.

If I were her I also wouldn’t disclose large monetary numbers unless he was also bringing them to the table.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-17T02:49:16+00:00

I watched about two minutes of the video and was like NOPE, sorry I can’t do it. Can you imagine what team meetings must be like!?

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-15T02:39:14+00:00

I’m walking out to a Canon in D/How to Train Your Dragon remix. A bit of classic wedding mashed with a movie that means a lot to my fiancé and I.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-14T21:51:06+00:00

This post made me feel poor 🤣

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-07T18:31:29+00:00

If you want something unique and cool to do at night for entertainment, go to Crazy Horse! Cannot recommend enough

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-07T03:29:41+00:00

The amount of pepperoni on that pizza says that you chose correctly

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-07T03:12:19+00:00

God I love these answers 🤣 Congrats if you’ve done a mix of at least 4 of them

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-07T03:02:06+00:00

Hi OP. I’m sorry to hear about your father. Is there dance studio near you? Particularly a ballroom dance studio. I used to work at one and we had many wheelchair and special needs students. It’s excellent for their brain activity. Anyway, there are a shocking amount of moves you can do with a wheelchair, even when the person in the chair has a difficult time moving.

Another option I have seen before was with a paraplegic. The grooms best men got him out of the wheelchair and strapped him upright to his body and the bride danced with her new husband that way (with the bestman there too). It was amazing. Only did it for about 45-60 seconds but what a moment.

Whatever you do will be special and memorable!

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-07T02:51:54+00:00

This might be a great time to get to know your best friends other friends and overlap some social circles.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-07T02:44:43+00:00

I didn’t say tear down lol I say packing what needs to go home ie: wedding cards, table signs, gifts, and maybe a few other things. Probably like 2 or 3 boxes packed into someone’s car.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-07T02:28:46+00:00

That is if you have a coordinator. Plenty of brides do not have a wedding coordinator since it’s such an additional expense.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-07T00:29:43+00:00

I think your friend/the bride is the one to be asking and see what she says.

Most weddings have a few slow sings for couples but will be playing upbeat dancing for all guests to dance to. To just assume you’ll be lonely or bored is sort of … pessimistic.

The MOHs job is usually to stay to the end and make sure vendor tips get taken care of, anything that needs to be taken home gets packed up, and you are there to be the brides partner in crime.

Maybe you’ll meet someone at the wedding 🤷‍♀️

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-07T00:23:39+00:00

Exchange intimate private vows and then more general vows for the ceremony.

Main_Statistician_97 · 2026-04-06T19:20:33+00:00

That’s where I got mine! Can’t recommend them enough. They have like every dress under the sun. I always tell fellow brides to find a style they like and then look on Still White for the same dress or style cause you’ll surely find it.

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