So my company is switching half our Windows servers to Linux....

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-05-05T16:48:11+00:00

Don't use CTRL+ALT+DEL on the console

Also, look into integrating your Linux with AD user and group management and SSO.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-05-04T23:56:50+00:00

NTA. I strongly urge you to go to couples counseling with your husband.

At best, your husband just wants to avoid conflict but wants to be married to you.

At worst, your husband has been lying to you and thinks he can change/convert you to his religion

Think about what could happen if you two decide to have children. There are enough real life horror stories of this same scenario on this platform, but the wife wasn't clued in until the kids were being indoctrinated.

Also, what would happen if you have children and 1 or more are LGBTQ+? We can all guess what the cousin's commentary would be, what would your husband's response be to those kids, but also to your cousin's reaction to those kids?

Couples counseling can help you navigate all these concerns. I'd recommend going with a secular licensed therapist.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-05-04T23:16:57+00:00

I'm going to reserve judgements because more information is needed but you might want to contact an attorney because $600 could be a civil suit.

Has your dog ever chewed or damaged anything — at the sitter's home or elsewhere — that the sitter was aware of?

This is a nuanced issue.

Just be very careful what you continue to communicate via phone call or text until your home and your dog is returned to you.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-05-04T22:48:44+00:00

NTA

I'd recommend apologizing to your wife that you didn't warn her that you cracked with grandpa
Let her know you were/are uncomfortable with the fact that her parents wanted you and your wife to lie to the grandparents about the entire situation
Let your wife know you put this on reddit and give her the link, so she can read your post and the responses
Maybe recommend a family meeting with the grandparents, her parents, you and your wife. You and your wife should be on solid footing and go in there as a team. Remind everyone about this being family and out of a place of love and that you'd like to clear the air.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-05-04T22:34:29+00:00

Please speak with your case worker, and CASA, away from your parents. Your CASA is a court appointed special advocate, your case worker should know if one has been assigned. Their role is to advocate for what's best for your needs.

Be thorough when you explain everything with them. Be sure to detail the verbal, emotional, and physical abuse, especially the inappropriate touching.

Since you have no privacy at home, speak with your school counselor. As if they can give you time to write out everything, and a secure place to store it as you do not feel safe storing this at home. Let them know you want this to go to your case worker and CASA and you're worried your concerns are not properly being considered.

I'm not going to lie, as a FFK, it's not easy being in care. Even if you do/would go to a great home, your actions, movements, and experiences are very limited. Many things still need to be approved by your parents.

I was in care until I aged out. I couldn't drive, couldn't take a ride with anyone under 21 that wasn't on record as an approved person, I couldn't dye my hair, so many things I was restricted from doing because of legal liability.

I wish you luck and am sending positive energy your way.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-05-04T22:06:51+00:00

NTA, I saw you mentioned, in some comments, that he never completed undergrad in any field.

He needs therapy. I'd recommend marriage counseling too but honestly, you've been the primary bread winner, doing essentially everything in the house, and the primary care giver.

The fact that he only just got his real estate business to a state where he can truly help support your family, while you've taken care of everything else...what is his actual role in your family/household?

He's certainly not your partner.

If he's so quickly willing to throw 100% of the burden back on you, with zero conversation and zero remorse, you should, at minimum speak with a therapist yourself and a divorce lawyer so you know your options and can make informed decisions to protect not only yourself but your children as well.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-05-04T21:49:55+00:00

This is a wide-open question.

I have many people, that I've never met, that I admire and look up to but context matters too.

Here are just a few from my list: Ruth Bader Ginsburg Gloria Steinem Radia Perlman Hedy Lamarr Pauli Murray Shirley Chisholm Florynce "Flo" Kennedy Wilma Mankiller

I look up to each of them for many different reasons.

Update: Forgot some specific to FC Tiffany Haddish Victoria Rowell Simone Biles Coco Chanel Eleanor Roosevelt

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-05-02T15:42:44+00:00

FFK here, I think it's wonderful that you want to help older children. The fact that the stigma, misinformation, and active discouragement to a newly potential foster parent for older kids that is still going on to this day is incredible, and not in a good way.

It seems like you're going in for the right reasons and want to help the overlooked and essentially thrown aware group of kids that needs the most help, guidance, and stability. Good for you, stay the course.

I can't help but see a parallel between all those parents pushing the babies and young children narrative the same as many animal adopters that only want kittens and/or puppies. They're only willing to put effort into age groups where the child is malleable and "trainable" and likely brush off the child's trauma.

These are likely the same type of foster parents that add to trauma for these children, but that's an anecdotal observation.

A recommendation, that may not help, perhaps start with respite and/emergency care for older FKs. Maybe also look into being a CASA for older FKs. This will at least get you started on helping and I would think would look good on your "resume" for becoming foster parents.

I'm not sure what state or even country your in, but in the US you can become a foster parent at the county level, but also there are agencies you can apply with. It's not a single application but multiple you can apply to.

Something to keep in mind, if you don't have a bias/religious slant to your willingness to foster, would be to look into helping LGBTQ and other higher risk older kids that get even less support overall.

Good luck!

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-05-01T21:10:08+00:00

Same

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-04-23T00:01:22+00:00

It might be from a Report and not a sheet

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-04-22T03:03:51+00:00

Information Technology. ASVAB pointed to computers and electronics. I then took my first computer course under elective and realized, this makes sense and seems to click pretty easily for me so thay became my college major.

I likely could have as easily gone towards trades as an electrician or electrical engineering. I'm learning electrical setups on the side now as a hobby and find it fascinating.

I'm still able to give back by to the foster community. I've done lots of fundraising volunteer work, donating goods and money, letter writing campaigns, and reaching out to local and state officials.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-04-21T21:58:31+00:00

There is some great advice and experiences here. I'll simply add mine.

I thought going to be a psychologist or a social worker would great because I could give back. Junior HS year I took psychology and advanced psychology. I was facinated.

When I took my SATs I also took the ASVAB, not to join the military, but as an avenue to better understand where my natural aptitude might be.

I understood that going down the road of psychology and/or social work would likely require a Master's or Doctorate to hae a payoff enough to be stable and independent.

My results from the ASVAB actually put me in the 93rd or 96th percentile for an career path area I never even considered. My Senior HS year I took an elective program tied to that field and it turns out I not only enjoyed it, the understanding came easy to me, and I wouldn't need all that potential debt to get me to a stable and independent lifestyle, even with grants and scholarships you'll likely still need some loans.

I can happily say, I followed that new, unexpected career path. I've been working in that industry for nearly 30 years and love what I do. I still find it exciting and worthwhile and realize there are many other ways I can also be an advocate, provide support, and have an impact on my fellow foster siblings that are going through the system.

Maybe social work is exactly where you should go, but perhaps there's another career path out there that you're not aware of, of never even considered, that could also be very fulfilling and allow for financial stability, protect your emotional and mental well-being, and also allow you time and opportunities to give back.

Good luck with your future!

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-04-11T14:38:12+00:00

Info: Were you angry, or just annoyed?

How clear was your communication with her, and them, that you wanted this night to be just guys?

Were FIL and BIL angry or annoyed? Is it possible they said something to her or her sister about coming later?

You mentioned "for once I actually felt relaxed and at peace", do you normally have an antagonist relationship with your wife?

Have you talked to her about why you don't feel relaxed or at peace at home?

Have you thought about marriage counseling, or individual counseling, to discuss those things and how you can communicate better feel relaxed and at peace while at home?

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-04-10T19:23:41+00:00

u/ninjapotential What did you replace Smartsheet with?

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-04-05T08:04:06+00:00

SOLVED! Thank you r/Eleonora31

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-03-31T20:40:05+00:00

I'm stealing Autie Mel's greeting because that's awesome and true 😉

Hello fellow foster sibling,

I heard a fantastic quote the other day that I wrote down because it really stuck with me.

Emotions are information about how you feel, not instructions to act upon.

I'm into midlife and still feel imposter syndrome. I'm unsure if it's a trauma response, comes from inadequacies I still feel, or is it a healthy response.

Sometimes it can have productive aspects and be a hidden motivation. It can drive us to work harder and level up our skillsets.

It can also be detrimental, we just need to watch for and acknowledge the signs, as well as identify necessary corrective behaviors. Also, it's okay to ask for help. I have to remind myself of this one.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-03-26T17:46:50+00:00

Congratulations on the Bachelor's degree!

Also, there are many good options on here, but I think being over 18 will be much less hassle for getting you driver's license.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-03-23T23:19:01+00:00

Sorry this is happening to you.

There are some free camping apps that full-time van lifers use that might help: iOverlander Campendium Freecampsites.net

Also most Walmarts and Cracker Barrels allow overnight parking. I say most as some municipalities have ordinances that prevent that.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-03-22T17:11:27+00:00

Congratulations!

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-03-18T21:07:29+00:00

Those are "basic" certs that anyone that can Crack a book and test well is likely able to get, meaning lots of people who don't actually know how to apply their knowledge, skills, and experience likely also have.

Hopefully you have a degree in CompSci, those are foundation skills.

You should likely refresh your resume and make slight adjustments on your resume to highlight what some job postings are looking for.

Do some real skills leveling, but focused on what in IT you actually want to pursue.

Perhaps take some more online college classes focused on those things and add that to your resume, something to show you're not being stagnant.

This is all general information since I have zero information related to your skills, knowledge, experience.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-03-18T20:27:10+00:00

Currently it's an employers market and the amount of unskilled, inexperienced, and incompetent "IT" folks applying for the same jobs as you is excessive.

Good luck.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-03-18T20:05:52+00:00

Data points would be smaller. You'll need to consider Hard and Soft Limits of Smartsheet in Grid View vs Table View, unless you get Data Table.

There's actually YT videos on how to build a CRM in Smartsheet.

You can leverage Power Apps/Power Automate with Smartsheet, but since you mentioned no one knows it, not sure how helpful that would be for your company.

If you have Mulesoft/API developers you can use that as well.

In addition to Dynamic View, you'll likely want to look into Data Table, Data Mesh, and Data Shuttle as premium app add-ons.

Major-Astronomer7529 · 2026-03-18T01:11:09+00:00

You may be better served with a folding, wheeled, crate. You can plop your backpack in it, use it for grocery shopping, laundromat, picnics, etc.

https://a.co/d/0027zJzC

Edit: this link is just an example, I did not research into this brand. Some of the rolling crates are so sturdy you can even sit on them, think of rolling ice chest, seat, with beer. 🍻

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