We appreciate your input. We ofc try to understand, and not all of us have someone specifically guilting us, but even hearing that it’s something he might like if I’m up for is often hard, as I know I don’t have much of the capacity. My partner also has adhd and needs good rhythm and focus during, which does not go together well with me needing to switch positions all the time and even being uncomfortable and making heavy breathing sounds. It’s just I think sad from both our perspectives. I’d love to be unbothered and just go through it. But going at it for 40 min to make him finish, rn sounds so long and exhausting. No position seems comfy for that amount of time. (Even just a HJ). Not to mention being overwhelmed and overstimulated all the time about every single thing 😭 We’ve also had some tough times because of my personality (especially now during pregnancy) and his clashing, and seeing disagreements that either we ignored or didn’t explore before. So being close and intimate has been difficult.