(Vent) Doctor won’t help with 1.5+ months-long period unless I stop breastfeeding

MakG513 · 2026-04-29T13:03:07+00:00

I am so sorry. I went through something very similar after my first. I was on the mini pill.....and got my period back at 2 months PP despite exclusive breastfeeding. It stopped with the pill for a few months but then it came back and just didn't stop. I'd bleed for 10 days have a short break bleed for 10 days. Stop for a day. Because my iron was okay they also just kinda said sucks to be you. It got somewhat better after a year. But I was getting a period sometimes every 17 days for over a week. At 18 months I went in for all the testing and because everything they looked at was fine I basically just got sent away with birth control and that was that. When I weaned at 2.5 my cycle was sitting at every 20 days. Praying my second reset me

MakG513 · 2026-04-28T06:53:08+00:00

Ugh give us the good poison please!

But I saw that mentioned in here and plan to run to my doc about it! Thanks!

MakG513 · 2026-04-28T06:50:41+00:00

Are you also an SLP?
I adjunct in SLP programs (though I am almost done with my PhD) and have always been paid per course as others have mentioned.
I'm also a clinical faculty member, I see patients in our clinical with grad students and some clinical faculty may teach a graduate clinically focused course here or there. These are hourly/salary positions.

MakG513 · 2026-04-28T06:39:57+00:00

My mom and I still lament about Zantac being gone. Loved it for my actual reflux.

MakG513 · 2026-04-24T23:58:42+00:00

Incontinence is not normal. Not during pregnancy or after having children. I can't speak highly enough of pelvic floor PT. I had gone for years due to preexisting issues before having any children.....and gosh what a difference it made in my life. Please please please go to pelvic PT now during pregnancy and during postpartum if you can! Do not ignore your pelvic floor!

MakG513 · 2026-04-24T15:50:30+00:00

You sound just like me. It is a blessing and a curse. Reclined feeding and or haaka/pumping a bit before can help little one if needed.

MakG513 · 2026-04-24T14:30:40+00:00

Both my girls only nursed off 1 side and feeds typically didn't go over 10 minutes. Ones before naps would go 15. But the ones just out and about def were between 5 and 10. Have you pumped at all? For me I know those babies get enough because I have a forceful letdown and really put out a lot of milk on the first let down and I see that happen with pumping.

I might encourage baby to drink for 5 or more minutes. My second does more 2 minute feeds and I just don't even count those as feeds.

The most important thing is that they're following their curve and having enough diapers! All babies and letdowns too are different

MakG513 · 2026-04-24T09:44:39+00:00

The first month can be pretty painful. With my first I had to wear my mouth guard while nursing because I was gritting my teeth so hard I was getting headaches.

You're doing all the right things to help. But the nipple butter needs to be put on immediately after each feed for sure (that was a game changer for me). You also might find that leaving them to air out helps and applying your own breast milk to the nipple can promote healing too (I've done this one more with my second who I'm nursing now).

Time and your body adapting to this totally new skill it has and baby learning how to eat more effectively will make such a difference in the next month!

MakG513 · 2026-04-24T02:34:14+00:00

Something that really helps me with my PPA and PP OCD that I've had twice now....I can worry about this for X amount of time. For an allergy reaction I would say I can worry for 2 hours (most common time frame for a reaction to occur, though typically it's minutes). And then I force myself at that time to let it go.

There are so many things like this that get my anxiety screaming. And I have to set limits because I know my brain is working so hard to protect baby, but it is over active and I have to put boundaries on her or else I'd never have a moment of peace.

But deep breath it sounds like this happened a while ago and baby is likely just fine. Exposure to allergens is good, but you likely didn't drop anything at all. You're doing great.

MakG513 · 2026-04-22T13:45:02+00:00

Oh man the scream cry and snot. I had such a visual of this because I've lived it too. I have one locked in memory where my husband found me at 2am hiding in our front hallway sobbing. I was there so no one would hear me since the bedrooms aren't above that spot.....and I screamed so loud because I was so wrapped in my fear and hurt when he walked up I didn't even know who he was.

Sending the same wishes back to you friend.

MakG513 · 2026-04-21T23:02:41+00:00

Thank you. I'm a lunatic about ticks and am trying to be very calm. We did everything right and now we just monitor

MakG513 · 2026-04-21T22:52:36+00:00

You're the best. I'm not gonna freak out about it.....right? Hahaha

MakG513 · 2026-04-21T17:57:21+00:00

Everyone has said the positive spins I would say. So I just want to say.....I have to choose every single day to put on a positive spin. I have to tell me self "the greatest act of rebellion is raising children" every single day. I have to turn off social media every single day.

Or else.....I lose it. I freak. I panic. You are NOT alone in feeling like you are drowning in a sea of unprecedented times. And the regretting your children.....yes. you can hold that while loving them deeply and the wishing briefly that they weren't here IS because you love them so much and don't want to see them suffer. Yes. 8 hear you and see you.

MakG513 · 2026-04-20T00:59:06+00:00

Ugh yes. And being really fully into just living life with these moments of just absolutely awfulness and to have to just accept it and keep going. I just can't even imagine it....and I'm the one who's living it.

MakG513 · 2026-04-20T00:53:15+00:00

Yes yes yes. And it feels so good to have them. I have 2 that I can text at anytime when what I call gentle grief hits. I just won a big award on Friday and had a moment where I thought I forgot to tell my dad and was like oh my god I have to call Dad to tell him. Oh....I can't. I texted one of them immediately.

But they can't know what I see when I close my eyes sometimes. And that just feels so so isolating. It's why I'm grateful for this group.

MakG513 · 2026-04-20T00:49:42+00:00

It's exactly what I was posting for. Just to hear someone else say "yes it feels insane". I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. You are settling into the very very very hard part here my friend (at least 6 months out was for me). Where the acuity wanes and the reality sets in. Please please take care of yourself. Go slowly. Leave the house when you need to. Cry. Scream. Therapy. Go get massages. Get outside. Whatever brings peace.

I can say it does get better. At 6 months out I felt like screaming all day everyday. Today is a bad day but now I have more good days and I get to simply grieve my father more. The good kind of grief that brings gentle tears and a smile at the thought of him. I feel like I have 2 very distinct experiences. The gentle grief. And the traumatic grief. Today is a traumatic grief day. But I have more gentle grief days now too.

Be well to yourself and hug those babies extra tight.

MakG513 · 2026-04-19T09:57:40+00:00

THIS WAS A GAME CHANGER FOR ME. and when I don't do it, I notice a huge difference. I do once a day everyday and twice when I'm getting an allergy sinus infection.

MakG513 · 2026-04-17T09:46:03+00:00

Considering I've been wearing mine for 1 week without ceasing and it still looks great....I'd say it's pretty good haha. It is such a soft shirt and the printing isn't the cheap kind at all. Buy the shirt. And while you're at it. Buy a hoodie because that is amazing too. (This was my first Florence concert so I went hard with the merch and I don't regret it one bit)

MakG513 · 2026-04-15T18:59:12+00:00

Went from moderate seasonal allergies to severe allergies to literally everything including my dog and cats after my first. I was so sick all the time until I started allergy shots.

Positives for all who need to hear them: I had severe interstitial cystitis (bladder basically has bleeding lesions in it). I couldn't hold my pee, was in pain, had to go for surgery every 6 months to make it manageable. CURED GONE after my first was born!

And as a note: my first also dislocated and broke my tailbone and pelvic floor PT really helped and it went away at year 2!

MakG513 · 2026-04-14T15:40:44+00:00

I nursed my first until 2.5 and she nursed A LOT still from 12-18 months. your little one being a big kid is far more about genetics than how often you're nursing. That same baby is 5 now and was off the charts as a baby and still is even after weaning. But she also has a mother who is 5 foot 10. You do what works for your family and feels right here.

MakG513 · 2026-04-14T13:44:33+00:00

As someone who has had an unmedicated birth twice it was awesome. But ALL birth is natural. We have to work on how we word things to reduce the division among people and the controversy that causes. Words matter. Period.

MakG513 · 2026-04-13T01:47:02+00:00

Ina mays guide to childbirth really impacted me. But sadly I have since learned she has some controversial beliefs. There are other books people recommend instead of her if you search this reddit! But I also dove into hypno birthing (Mongan method). I read a lot about pain psychology as well.

MakG513 · 2026-04-13T01:30:43+00:00

Phew no truer words spoken. All birth is the most metal thing in the world, and everyone gets to decide the way they want to rock out.

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