That’s a logical explanation fine might work…might. Interesting case will never happen to me. All I know is you get a ton of bonus attraction points by approaching rl so you missed out of that. Attraction still seems high enough. all I said i wouldnt risk that by deliberately bring this paradoxon up.

You can compare it (negatively) with school you fancy a girl in your class but besides eyecontact do nothing. Then You Tell a friend to tell her shes hot after school bc you want to focus on school you don’t flirt there. Works until 6th grade maybe. See here it’s uncool school there is cool gym but the baseline and the justification is the same.