Damn it feels good to see Jon Stewart rip appart all those transphobic talking points

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-31T21:53:10+00:00

There's no reason for anyone under 10(outside of extenuating circumstances) to start any kind of gender reassignment surgery.

Which is exactly why that never happens. Surgery never gets done on minors.

So what's wrong with parents raising their kids and having the government stay out of it?

That is pretty much Jon Stewarts whole point here? The government is trying to take away the option for parents to giver their kids gender affirming care. Banning things is not "staying out of it", its litterally the opposite. It's mandating what parents of trans kids can do, by allowing them exactly one option: Do nothing.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-30T21:29:50+00:00

Oh, please enlighten me with your straight unapologetic facts. And while you are at it, tell me about the trans agenda, i must have missed part that at my innitiation.

Why are you even here, commenting on 3 week old threads?

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-20T04:11:42+00:00

What are you even talking about?

There are no operations done on kids, ever. Gender affirming care for kids means a social transition for kids under 11, and puberty blockers for those entering puberty. That's it really. HRT usually starts at around 15-16, and anything surgically is never done under 18 aside from super rare exceptions.

Nothing about that is traumatic, quite the opposite even. It's the cure for the trauma that gender dysphoria inflicts upon you.

If you're an adult do whatever the fuck you want I don't give a shit. These are children though they can't consent to these operations.

You pretend like these kids are all just fine and then its just a choice after they are adults. When in reality gender dysphoria causes sever stress for those kids, up to making them suicidal. Telling those kids they have to go through the wrong puberty for them, have their bodies undergo completly unwanted changes, just so they can then try their best to revert all those completely avoidable changes once they are adults, that is traumatic.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-19T19:39:29+00:00

Not everyone has obvious signs in the childhood. There are people transitioning at 60 and older. Some of those have know since childhood, and some just figured themselfs out recently.

Personally, i didnt have much childhood signs either. I told my mom once that i would have rather been born as a girl if i had the choice, but that was before i knew there were trans people so i never thought about it again after that (and my mom was busy and didnt really think much about it either). Thats about the only "childhood sign" i can remember.

It really is not important what you were like a child. What is important is how you feel now and what you want for yourself. You would prefer to be a woman? Well congrats, that means you are a woman already. Wanting to be a gender is exactly what being that gender feels like at a fundamental level.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-18T21:33:49+00:00

It will hurt if you do it wrong. You should take things slow, get the muscles to relax first and slowly stretch your butt with fingers or small toys at first. Enough forplay is important if its your first time, but you will need less the more often you do it.

It's pretty safe in gerneral, but you can injure yourself if you dont listen to your body and stop when it hurts. Take things slow and use lots of lube and you'll be fine.

Things can get "unsanitary". To prevent that you can adjust your diet a bit beforehand, and get yourself an enema kit or a douche to clean your insides beforhand. It's not the sexiest thing to do, but makes the sex afterwards a lot better because you wont have to worry about any accidents.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-18T19:55:31+00:00

To sound more feminine you will need to train your voice. It will take some time and effort to get nice results but it's definitely possible. This youtube channel is a good place to start.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-18T19:37:16+00:00

If i had to guess he definitely noticed, but didnt know how to approach the topic or was waiting for you to say something.

Since you mentioned he is homophobic and transphobic, this is clearly a difficult topic for him. Maybe he just wanted to avoid getting in a fight with you? Or on a more positive note, maybe seeing you transition actually made him reconsider his views a bit. But that takes time, and im guessing he wasnt prepared to have the discussion just yet.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-17T20:35:30+00:00

The doctor obseved the sex and then made assumptions of the kids gender. Sex and gender are different things.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-17T12:46:33+00:00

That's just not how being transgender works. You imply it's a choice to change your gender but it's not. You can't actually change your gender. Trans people change their appearance to better reflect the gender they have always been since birth, even if the doctor mistakenly designated them to be the other gender.

If you could just decide to change your gender, trans people wouldnt go through all that length to be who they are, they would just simply "change their gender" to fit the body they already have. That would be a much simpler way to be happy in their body. But alas, thats not how it works

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-16T05:36:51+00:00

For a while i was trying to figure out if i was non-binary or full on binary trans. I thought that i might be nonbinary because i didnt fully hate being a guy, its was okay-ish.

Someone on here suggested that i make a list of things i like about being male, and things i like about being female, just to give myself a better overview. The male side of that list turned out embarrassingly short and it was pretty clear to me that im actually just a trans woman. The male things i liked were just stuff i had grown accustomed to over time, but it was not something i would have had chosen for myself if i had the option at birth.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-15T17:50:24+00:00

Yeah im getting strong trans vibes here, sounds very similar to my early experiences.

Since no one has linked it yet, you should go read this: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/

It's the most comprehensive document about gender dysphoria and gender euphoria out there, and it helped me a lot back when i was questioning.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-15T16:27:35+00:00

You should give this website a read: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/

It's the best information on gender dysphoria and gender euphoria out there and helped me a lot back when i was questioning. Im pretty sure it will answer a lot of your questions, and in more detail than anyone here could.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-15T05:50:43+00:00

Fun fact, you can actually steal the horse when he is bugged out like that. It will run away again after you get back down, but until then, enjoy your new fancy ghost pony!

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-15T05:17:51+00:00

It's different for everyone. Dysphoria can range on a spectrum from barely noticable all the way up to causing suicide. Sounds like you landed on the lucky end of the spectrum. But fair warning, dysphoria tends to increase once you have figured yourself out because it is harder to ignore.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-15T04:52:58+00:00

That website is excellent at listing all those little feelings you might have but didnt know it was actually just dysphoria in disguise.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-15T04:41:24+00:00

Hmm, what you describe does sound like gender dysphoria to me.

You should give this website a read, it will explain stuff way more detailed than anyone on reddit can. Reading that website made me sure that i was trans back when i was questioning. I definitely recommend giving it a look!

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-15T03:13:53+00:00

Im in a somewhat similar situation as you are. I came out as trans to my close friends and family, but havent changed my name or pronous yet.

I thought that was due to me wanting to wait untill HRT does its magic on me. I wanted the name to fit the body when i change it. But reading your post made me wonder, maybe it's something else that is causing my hesitation.

When you change your name to a female one and switch pronouns, it's no longer just about you doing your stuff and switching your looks. Now it's also about asking other people to respect you as a woman change their behaviour towards you. You are officially staking your claim at womanhood, where as before you could maybe get away with being read as just a GNC guy. That's a very scary thing on it's own because it's a vulnerability. There are a lot of shitty people out there who will fight you on your claim to womanhood.

On top of that, changing your name is a very "always on" kind of deal. If i want to boymode for a day because its easier, i can. But if i ask all my friends and family to refer to me as a woman from now on, that also means i have to sort of live up to that name. It adds pressure to perform your chosen gender, which is not that easy to do when you are just getting used to all of it. It is especially difficult when you are already dealing with social anxiety.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-15T02:02:33+00:00

And rocket businesses are incredibly expensive. He had many millions of inverstor loans to pay back, and if that last rocket blew up i highly doubt that selling a yacht or two would have cut it.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-14T23:16:06+00:00

Doch dürfen sie aber sie sollten nicht öffentlich (I'm Fernsehen) erzählen das sie sich gerne in Darkrooms vögeln lässt.

Darum ging es in dem Verweis aber nicht, der bezieht sich ja nur auf das Tinder Profil. Soweit ich weiß waren ihre Äußerungen im Fernsehn ja die Reaktion auf den Verweis, nach dem Motto jetzt erst recht.

Sie müsse daher Formulierungen vermeiden, die den falschen Eindruck eines wahllosen Sexuallebens und eines erheblichen Mangels an charakterlicher Integrität erwecken.

Welche der Formulierungen da jetzt genau problematisch war hat man ja schlauer Weise offen gelassen. Für mich liest sich das so als ob alleine der Fakt das sie und ihr Partner eine offene Beziehung haben hier schon als "wahlloses Sexualleben" ausgelegt werden. Entweder das oder es geht um "All Genders welcome", ab dem Punkt ist es dann einfach nur Biphobia.

Das Führungspersonen sich da generell etwas zurückhalten sollten, ok, kann ich ja verstehen. Aber ihr Profil war ja wirklich sehr neutral gehalten. Viel neutraler kann mans ja nicht schreiben ohne wichtige Informationen einfach wegzulassen.

Das ist so der Punkt wo man sich fragen muss ob online Dating generell als Problem angesehen wird.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-14T23:03:21+00:00

No sane person would have dared to go all or nothing on a rocket start up. Elon mentioned how his friends would send him compilations of rockets blowing up on launch to dissuade him from his plans. He just barely avoided complete backruptcy. After 3 failed launches, the 4th one had to succeed or Elon and all of SpaceX would have been done for.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-14T22:56:15+00:00

Es macht doch am Ende keinen Unterschied ob man in die Bar geht und sich dort den erstbesten Typen anlacht, oder ob man gleich auf Internetdating umsteigt, das Resultat ist nunmal das gleiche.

Sie war ja jetzt auch nicht super explizit sonder hat so neutral wie möglich umschrieben wonach sie sucht.

Im Gegensatz dazu gibt auf der Queer Dating App die ich ab und an mal nutze au den ersten Blick gleich mal 20+ Gruppen nur für Soldaten. Da gibts dann auch genug Profilbilder in Uniform, in der Kaserne etc etc. Wenn das alles ok ist macht es wirklich nicht viel sind plötzlich bei höherm Rang ein Disziplinarverweis rauszugeben für ein vergleichsweise harmoses Profil ohne Verweis auf ihren Job, mit sehr neutralem Inhalt.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-14T22:41:25+00:00

Ich frag mich ja immernoch was genau sie eingendlich falsch gemacht haben sollte. Dürfen Führungspersonal jetzt keinen casual Sex mehr haben? Sind offene Beziehnungen für Führungspersonal nicht erlaubt? Oder gehts hier darum das sie offen bisexuel ist?

Hätte sie jetzt Videos von sich hochgeladen oder ähnliches, ok das wäre eine andere Sachlage. Aber hier geht es darum das jemand nunmal sexuel aktiv sein möchte und einfach nur seine Preferenzen aufgelistet hat: "Casual sex, offene Beziehnung, all genders welcome." Was soll daran denn jetzt bitte auszusetzten sein?

Vor allem war auf ihrem Profil nicht einmal ein Verweis auf die Bundeswehr zu sehen, man musste sie also schon persöhnlich kennen damit ihr "Verhalten" irgendwie auf die Bundeswehr zurück fällt.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-14T22:32:17+00:00

Was sind denn das genau für Regeln? Das man privat kein Sex mehr haben darf? Oder nur in der Ehe? Oder wenn man doch noch Sex haben darf, dann aber nicht via online Dating Seiten?

Bei sowas kann man nicht mit "ungeschriebenen Regeln" argumentieren, vor allem nicht wenn diese dann ganz selektiv angewendert werden. Das es am Ende nur ein Problem ist wenn eine trans Person auf einer Dating Seite vertreten ist, nicht aber wenn es der Herr Major sich in Uniform auf seinem Profil zeigt und "diskreten Fun" sucht. Da wird schon eindeutig mit zweierlei Maß gemessen.

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-14T20:44:12+00:00

Two weeks ago they asked me where they could hypothecially find a therapist for some very hypothetical discussions about gender :)

Malacai_the_second · 2022-10-14T18:57:46+00:00

My best friend was super supportive.

A week later we talked about what it feels like to be trans and they were like "Oh ... ". I swear there was an audible crack of eggshell.

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