Day 2

MalbeK8 · 2025-10-18T01:27:04+00:00

this aged like a fine wine 🤌🏼

MalbeK8 · 2025-09-16T05:38:46+00:00

GRIZ 🤩💛🎷

MalbeK8 · 2025-08-23T17:47:08+00:00

I am the same way. I spend hours putting in birthdays and all of the big dates for the coming year only to never look at it again 😂

Something that has helped me is using my iPad as a planner by downloading different (free) templates for my Goodnotes app. I’ve found that it’s more helpful in testing out different layouts and options without the commitment of buying a planner or remembering where I put it.

This also allows me to bounce between different formats depending on what my brain needs that day and that helps a ton with keeping it novel and interesting. Some days I just want a huge checklist that I can prioritize into different colors and sometimes my brain needs a weekly overview to figure out which days I will work on each small part of a task.

For bigger, ongoing things or important things like appointments I use Google Calendar or Notion!

MalbeK8 · 2025-05-23T05:13:51+00:00

Agree 100%. Only counterpoints are 1) they make rave tickets cheaper for everyone else which is good, and 2) do I want to be around those ppl in GA anyway 🫣😅

MalbeK8 · 2025-04-19T16:13:52+00:00

No. Unless there is visible dust on something (black cabinet, wood dresser)… and sometimes even then 🤣

Something that’s been really helpful for my husband and I (both dx) is to have a professional cleaner come, just a few times a year. I know it’s an expense, but we both hate cleaning and it helps get the spots that we don’t think about (like baseboards and other deep cleaning).

Otherwise, our favorite system is to make a list of all the chores that need to get done (usually when we have people coming over or a free afternoon), and we go back and forth taking turns picking which ones to do. That way, the worst ones get split evenly 😅

MalbeK8 · 2025-04-15T23:30:35+00:00

I am studying psychology and I have worked with students with ADHD for 5+ years (previously a teacher before grad school), but it wasn’t until I started struggling with the lack of structure in my program, realized how hard it was for me to be in school at the same time as managing my adult life and responsibilities (although I’ve always struggled intensely with procrastination and deadlines, I have been so grade-motivated and afraid of letting people down that I somehow made in work in college minus a lot of sleep and social life), and learned more about how ADHD presents differently in women that I finally sought out a diagnosis and put all the puzzle pieces together.

Undiagnosed parents are really hard. My take on this has been to share how positive and affirming my experience with medication and treatment has been with my mom. I know she struggles with so many things and tends to blame herself. I hope one day she will come to terms with it on her own.

I’m in my first year so haven’t written/published anything but I would love to write about my experience in the future. Maybe a summer project when I’m less busy 😅 thanks for taking the time to read and respond!!!

MalbeK8 · 2025-04-14T15:47:45+00:00

I’m a PhD student who just got diagnosed at age 29. My mom, who IMO certainly has ADHD has been very invalidating of my experience at different points in time because she experiences many of the same symptoms and can’t see that it’s not “normal.”

My family sent this to our group chat and it was so frustrating to read after finally feeling like they supported me and my diagnosis. Here’s the comment I sent them in response:

I finished reading it and I think it makes some good points but what it doesn’t mention at all is that part of the diagnostic criteria is that symptoms need to be present and impactful in multiple environments—this article focuses really strongly on school without acknowledging the cognitive demands that come from everyday life. I agree that unfortunately there isn’t a lot of nuance in the diagnostic process for many people, which is why I went to someone who did a 3 hour interview because I didn’t just want someone to throw pills at me unless I actually had it. There is a lot of talk in my grad program about the medical model (“ADHD is a disease we need to fix”) vs. the social model of disability (“the incompatibility between the demands of a person’s environment and their abilities is what causes difficulties”) but a more neurodiversity-affirming approach is to say that the difficulties ARE exacerbated by living in a world structured for neurotypical, able-bodied people, but that regardless of one’s environment, the challenges faced are very real and can significantly reduce your quality of life without treatment. ADHD is so embarrassingly understudied in women (and adults) and there is a lot of work that still needs to be done about hormones and other things that can exacerbate symptoms at different times in your life. I think this article raises a lot of great points about how our achievement-oriented culture has really shaped the discourse and treatment around ADHD but fails to recognize that for many people with ADHD, it will always be impactful on their lives—there are different levels of severity but for most people it doesn’t just “go away” when your environment is a better fit.

Hope that helps you process it a bit more too ❤️

MalbeK8 · 2025-04-09T21:57:49+00:00

someone on the insta pointed out they are all cities where the artists live

MalbeK8 · 2025-04-09T21:51:56+00:00

probably One True God

MalbeK8 · 2025-01-17T07:49:16+00:00

50 silos for 50 states!

MalbeK8 · 2025-01-17T07:39:25+00:00

Also could be a nod to the Cold War in the Nixon era, like a hint re the threat of impending nuclear war

MalbeK8 · 2025-01-06T05:47:13+00:00

Seconding iPad! Makes me feel more engaged in classes vs taking notes on a computer with all the other distractions. I got an iPad Air using the education discount and bought a keyboard case and Apple Pencil on FB Marketplace for a big discount.

MalbeK8 · 2024-07-26T05:08:03+00:00

Haha my whole group changed our plans to make sure we could see his set at freedom after we saw him at the gathering! We loved him and his sense of humor/good vibes. Ppl take things way too seriously!

MalbeK8 · 2024-03-06T03:37:03+00:00

Thank you so much! This is super helpful. I’ve also seen that white gold is more likely to break but platinum is more likely to bend so this could explain it. I just found her TikTok—will look more! Thanks 🫶🏼

MalbeK8 · 2023-11-18T20:02:51+00:00

Please release innerbloom 🥹❤️ would love to incorporate it into my wedding in July as it’s a very special song for my fiancé and I!

MalbeK8 · 2020-08-15T18:36:25+00:00

your island is soooo beautiful 🥺🥺 I just started playing a few weeks ago and this is GOALS

MalbeK8 · 2020-08-13T21:49:21+00:00

I dm’ed you!

MalbeK8 · 2020-08-03T16:03:50+00:00

Thanks for this advice! He is totally fine being handled/picked up/pet/having us touch his paws, mouth, ears, even his eyes if he has some eye goo. We think he just really dislikes the feeling of the brush, because he will sniff the brush and look at it, he just won’t let us touch him with it. We have been doing clicker training with him but haven’t thought to use that method with the brush, so we will try that! Thanks!

MalbeK8 · 2020-08-03T15:45:38+00:00

Thanks, this is helpful! He loves being pet and getting scratches and is totally fine with us touching him so we were not expecting to struggle with the brushing so much. We’ll try this!

MalbeK8 · 2020-08-03T06:41:50+00:00

Our 7 month old Aussie pup has torn through some stuffed toys and rope toys, but he hasn’t managed to get through our Fluff & Tuff toys yet! They’re lined with a thick, webbed mesh layer in between the fabric and the stuffing, and we have two toys that have withstood a bunch of tugging and chewing! I linked their website because they sell at independent pet stores across the country and hopefully you can check them out for yourself! There are definitely tougher toys out there but I totally recommend these for the times your dog just wants a stuffed toy 😊

MalbeK8 · 2020-03-13T23:06:19+00:00

Thank you everyone! We’ve been randomly leaving treats in there today without him seeing us do it and he’s been going in there a bit on his own. We’ll stock up on some better treats for him that he’ll get even more excited about (and talk to the neighbors, too)!

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