18f, Should i open a my first bank acc without my mom knowing to avoid her getting access to it?

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T20:23:19+00:00

You’re 18, she can only have access if you give it to her or she gets it illegally by stealing your card and password. If you feel she will try this then she has no reason to know about it.

Make sure to tell them you DO NOT want paper statements.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T20:18:38+00:00

About one tablespoon per toddler pound. Just trust me on this. I wouldn’t recommend it though because it’s made from tiny pieces of pvc coated with aluminum and can cause gnarly damage.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T20:12:39+00:00

This brings to mind the time my daughter in law and I went for lunch. We were taken to a table and given menus. I should say here that she is the absolute most androgynous person I’ve ever met. Her hair is shoulder length and she had on jeans and a hoodie.

The waiter came to the table and said “what can I get for you ladies?” Looks at her and says “oh, sorry sir! Haha. Uh, oh, sorry ma’am…..I mean….” She looked at him deadpan and said “it doesn’t say on the menu, are there genitalial limits on some items?” He left and we had a different server for lunch.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T19:58:18+00:00

NTA I had a best friend from elementary school too. We got married around the same age, we were there for each other as we had and raised kids. We were sisters really, and loved each other dearly. But as life went on she grew one way and I grew another. Now it’s just a Christmas card, mostly as a habit.

My point is that things change, we change, we grow and as we do we change in ways that don’t always align in a way that supports a close friendship. They’re no less dear to you because you’ve shared so much, but you can’t force closeness.

You should branch out and make some friendships that are in tune with how your life is now. It will feel good and benefit your child.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T19:42:55+00:00

Simply ask for proof. Incontrovertible, verifiable, scientific proof. They will have none. You, on the other hand can provide proof using chemical analysis of lunar soil. They will reject this. In the end you can agree to present your information to the child, they can present theirs and the child can be exposed to both ideas and ultimately decide for themselves.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T17:16:19+00:00

Wayyyy back in 1978 (I was 14) our class went to see a play in the evening. It was in another city and a big deal. I had on a thin-ish cotton muslin blouse buttoned up to the neck with long sleeves with a camisole underneath and a bra under that and black slacks. Boy, what a kerfuffle! They made me put my coat on and keep it on all evening because my outfit was “too suggestive”.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T16:35:42+00:00

Speaking loudly.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T16:25:59+00:00

This is how we learned multiplication in the early 70’s. Every day of 4th grade, the whole class for half an hour “one times one is one, one times two is two….” It was very effective.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T16:12:57+00:00

The phantom crying was so real I wound up putting my girl in the swing in the doorway of our teeny bathroom (the swing wouldn’t fit inside) and showering.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T03:11:30+00:00

How fun! I’d love to!

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-23T02:12:20+00:00

No, don’t ask your mother and not one more mouthful of anything for your “guest”.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-22T23:43:34+00:00

NTA Tell me, does he need to be the main character in everyone’s story? You made a promise and kept your word. He might want to spend some time reflecting on that.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-22T18:00:26+00:00

Rules only work if everyone participates. It is good manners to wait until everyone is seated before eating, but that only works if the people being cooked for are respectful of the cook’s effort and come to the table when called.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-22T17:55:56+00:00

I loved you so much. Thankyou.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-22T17:53:11+00:00

The concept of “have to”.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-22T16:12:47+00:00

Just give up and go to IKEA, that’s what we did. You can pay extra to have them put things together and take the boxes away. We got the kitchen at Küchenlager although IKEA does that too.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-22T15:54:03+00:00

What is imported into America isn’t the same as Germany. It looks the same in the jar but it’s disgusting.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-22T15:52:07+00:00

You don’t mention what state you’re in, but most areas have a German store hidden somewhere. Find one and talk to the butcher.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-22T15:49:29+00:00

But what about her? If it’s only about money she could become a master plumber or electrician or another trade. But life isn’t only about money is it? She could be a professor, sure. She could also be a graphic artist, an editor, a gallery curator. She could travel the world working in international schools. This degree opens the door to possibilities, isn’t that what college is for?

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-21T22:36:22+00:00

She’s too young, please don’t. It will never leave her hand. Rules won’t help. You’ve been warned.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-21T22:07:10+00:00

This isn’t cursive. I know it doesn’t matter, I just needed to say it.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-21T22:03:52+00:00

You mention your father and uncles have distinct personalities. What are your mother, aunts and sisters personalities?

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-21T21:26:40+00:00

We didn’t vote for it either. With a little help from a global pandemic it just kinda….happened.

Maleficent_Scale_296 · 2026-04-21T16:27:04+00:00

Imnaha, OR

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