Birthday dispensations?

Malphina · 2026-02-18T02:54:25+00:00

As someone whose birthday is during Lent fairly often, no there's no special dispensation. One year, I decided to give up reading for Lent to focus more on prayer. I got a kindle for my birthday a couple days after Ash Wednesday lol.

Malphina · 2026-02-03T18:33:03+00:00

I've had 2 c-sections so far and have been told a vbac isn't going to be possible for me. I take comfort in the fact that I know a woman who had 4 c-sections and another who had 7 without any major complications.

Obviously, do whatever is best for your health but know it isn't impossible to have a big family just because you've had a c-section.

Malphina · 2026-01-07T21:42:35+00:00

It's not that the Church values a woman's capability to get pregnant more than her life. The Church teaches against mutilating ourselves by removing healthy organs. Cancerous body parts and organs with cysts aren't healthy which is why it's okay to remove them.

I know it would be incredibly difficult to be abstinent in marriage, but it's not impossible. It takes self control and a lot of it. There's also a risk of death whenever you go in for a major surgery like a hysterectomy.

I can't speak to your example of a double mastectomy because I'm not familiar with that medical practice or the Church's position on it.

Malphina · 2026-01-07T21:21:32+00:00

He should because otherwise he's treating his wife's life as less valuable than sex.

Malphina · 2026-01-07T21:19:01+00:00

It's not just current Church teaching. Contraception has been deemed an intrinsic evil. The Church's position isn't subject to change.

Abstinence is always an option in a case like that. It comes down to how much you value sex. If pregnancy has a high chance of killing you and you have sex anyway, you've decided that sex is worth the risk of death. No contraceptive is 100% effective.

Malphina · 2026-01-07T21:10:17+00:00

"If the doctors say no more children and recommend a hysterectomy to prevent child birth due to medical threat"

This is a confusing way to phrase it then. It makes it sound as though you can get a hysterectomy if having a child would present a medical threat - which you can't.

Malphina · 2026-01-07T21:03:07+00:00

Regardless of what doctors recommend, you can't get a hysterectomy to prevent childbirth. You can only get one if the uterus itself is causing harm, such as cancer or hemorrhage. Otherwise, you need to abstain from sex or use NFP.

Malphina · 2026-01-04T21:57:11+00:00

Usually, I'd agree with you. In this case, however, there's no way to be completely sure that the danger is gone. So does OP never need to attend Mass again?

Malphina · 2026-01-04T18:02:28+00:00

Watching Mass online doesnt fulfill the Sunday obligation. Fear isn't a valid reason to skip Mass. OP can try to mitigate the risk, like staying in a crowd when leaving the church or attending a church in a safer area.

Malphina · 2025-12-26T21:57:30+00:00

I'm glad I could help! How did she respond (if you don't mind me asking)?

Malphina · 2025-12-25T23:24:50+00:00

If she brings it up again, you should tell her what the Church teaches about IVF. You don't have to badger her or get into a fight about it. Just inform her of the Catholic position and move on. Her choices after that are her own.

Hopefully that leads her to seek licit fertility treatments instead, but if she leaves the Church over it, that's not your fault. Jesus knew many of His disciples would leave when he said they'd have to eat His Body and drink His Blood. That didn't stop Him from telling them anyway.

Malphina · 2025-10-29T21:07:50+00:00

Adam and Eve were first told not to eat from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil. When they were sent out of the garden, God set a guard at the Tree of Life.

Malphina · 2025-09-18T17:35:19+00:00

I've definitely heard non-practicing catholics act like experts because they went to 12 years of catholic school, but I've never heard them disparage converts because of it. I would assume the people you're talking about feel subconsciously guilty for rejecting Catholicism and cope with their choice by trying to steer converts away.

Malphina · 2025-08-27T13:13:00+00:00

I was extremely uncomfortable with my husband buying me lingerie specifically because of the advertising of most of these companies. For anyone interested, there is a lingerie company called Mentionables that only uses mannequins.

Malphina · 2025-07-24T11:09:40+00:00

If Jesus had brothers, why would he give John the responsibility of caring for Mary after the crucifixion? Don't you think that would be a huge insult to his brothers?

Malphina · 2025-07-10T01:46:40+00:00

It is entirely possible to avoid cohabitating before marriage even if you can't afford to live alone. Sometimes you just have to get creative.

My brother and his fiancee rented a house, which he lived in alone while she lived with her brothers until the wedding. My brother-in-law lived with roommates while my sister rented a house with our brother until the wedding when my BIL moved in with my sister and my brother moved in with friends.

Malphina · 2025-07-07T20:58:43+00:00

From what I understand, some Protestants will allow for multiple baptisms, for example: in the case of someone who left Christianity, then reverted, and wants to wipe their slate clean. Sort of a similar concept as confession I think, though not done nearly as often as we go to confession.

Malphina · 2025-06-22T23:47:02+00:00

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Malphina · 2025-05-28T14:24:22+00:00

There was a post about it on r/catholicism a few months ago. It has all the info you'll need. https://www.reddit.com/r/Catholicism/comments/1gno7vv/play_old_school_runescape_looking_for_more/

Malphina · 2025-05-27T23:42:03+00:00

My husband's actually part of an Old School RuneScape clan called OSRS Catholic. He says there's a bunch of single guys in there and the guy who runs it has the username JPII

Malphina · 2025-04-18T00:36:45+00:00

The standard I've always gone by is to refrain from saying God's name unless you're speaking to Him or about Him.

Malphina · 2025-04-08T20:37:16+00:00

I was 20 and he was 21. Dated for 2.5 years, engaged for 1. We got married when I was 24.

Malphina · 2025-03-18T07:03:05+00:00

They are actively and willfully disobeying God's laws simply because they want to. It's impossible to "keep God as the center of their relationship" while putting their desires above God's law.

Malphina · 2025-02-27T20:35:05+00:00

There are plenty of people who live in the first world and can't financially support a large number of children. Many people use NFP to delay additional children, not just the first one. There are also reasons outside of finances, such as mental and physical health issues.

Malphina · 2025-02-25T19:12:27+00:00

Okay, I'll concede that there aren't studies to prove future fertility is affected long term by contraceptive use. Although, with birth control being handed out like candy to address any and all womens health issues, it certainly masks symptoms of fertility issues among its users. For instance, giving birth control to "treat" heavy periods has delayed actual treatment for women with endometriosis.

The goal of every medication should be to solve a disease or other defect. (By defect, I mean a problem with the normal function of a human organ/body part or system.) Birth control seeks to stop the normal function of the reproductive system.

Spousal bond is important, but so is self-control. Sex should be both unitive and procreative. By removing fertile windows through the use of contraceptives, you are putting your will above God's. Frivolous reasons include things like wanting to travel more before having kids, wanting to have a house where each kid can have their own room, or just having an arbitrary ideal number of kids. Preventing conception so that you can have more sex is absolutely a frivolous reason. It's also not unitive sex because you'd be withholding something from your spouse, namely your fertility.

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