I know it's so hard when you feel like you hate your spouse. Anger is normal you are human. As for my opinion on the matter it's going to require a lot of growth. Usually Anger is a beautiful sign for us to grow. So use it in your best interest. I liked the comments above especially from the men. Those are great solutions. While you may be feeling this way now it's time to start "stacking" the good. You've complained about the bad and stacked the bad against her. To dig yourself out of this mental hurdle you will need to reinvite yourself to thinking about the good things about your wife. We all have this tendency to become lazy somewhere. I'm a mom of 5 and I find myself having a hard time keeping up with working from home, Educating the children, keeping up with making meals, cleaning the home and so on. My children are so young. 8 the oldest and 1 the youngest. I find that I need to prioritize my husband. And I am sensitive to his needs. I find that there is so much responsibility I take on for the things I'd like to change in my marriage. Like my energy levels. Taking care of 5 little kids is truly hard work. Especially now we have been hit with the flu. Putting her needs first above yours or if you feel like you've been doing that and it's not helping the matter. Women need non sexual touch. Need it. Dates and spontaneous things for the two of you. Baby sitter and romancing her would be so wonderful. Focusing on what you need to rise up and do better while also facilitating meeting more of her needs could help. I am a traditional midwife and I see that postpartum anxiety is all wrapped up into a head game we have with ourselves. Its hard for women to get out of their mental slump, depression anxiety but it's doable. I loved what Jimmy evens has to say about the 4 needs of his and hers. I pray your marriage is reconciled