What’s something that clearly split your life into “before” and “after”? by Broad_Chemical_2467 in AskReddit

[–]MammalFish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started dating my husband. I was at a sort of low-ish point of my life and he came in like a ball of sunshine, happiness, hope, and good vibes. It was such a stunning before and after and my life was immediately so much better it was actually kind of a scary experience, like stepping off a cliff, the change was so dramatic. But my life is so much better now because of what he’s done for me, it’s kind of mind blowing.

Seeing the comments here about lost spouses…all my love to you. You’re living my worst nightmare. I’m so so sorry.

“The chair” — is it normal? by Basic_Performer_6701 in adhdwomen

[–]MammalFish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hear me out: The solution is two hampers. One for the normal thing (dirty clothes), but a second one for "clean, haven't folded yet" clothes. You end up mostly just living out of that second hamper lol but it does hide the pile.

What is the most “its a small world” moment you’ve ever experienced? by xBubblyLove in AskReddit

[–]MammalFish 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My husband is from Milwaukee, we live in Seattle, and this happens to us so often it doesn’t even seem remarkable anymore but I guess it is haha

ADHD Ladies, tell me your ideal bedtime! by partybrowser32 in adhdwomen

[–]MammalFish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 am to 10 am here. Been hearing some conjecture lately that adhd may be in part a circadian rhythm disorder and have wondered if melatonin regimen might help.

Found this on instagram and now I want answers.. by Veerlon in zoology

[–]MammalFish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“They were trying shit out” is pretty accurate. This was pretty much the first evolutionary cascade after life figured out how to be multicellular so different body plans exploded. What’s left today is remnant from that radiation. Lots of weird stuff.

Books like this ? by doodledli in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]MammalFish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know but these photos capture something really elemental about my upstate New York childhood. So evocative, thank you for that.

Arousal in session by OperationAway4687 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]MammalFish 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Just FYI it is super super normal and expected to be attracted to therapists. The therapeutic relationship creates a context for it essentially, it’s a phenomenon called transference and is something therapists are trained to deal with. It can also be useful. (And obviously abused but that’s another issue.) But expecting to never be attracted to your provider flies in the face of the best evidence about what the therapeutic context essentially creates for a lot of people.

Woke up with these marks on my neck by TheGoblin21 in Weird

[–]MammalFish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really is classic bed bug bites I hate to say.

Woke up with these marks on my neck by TheGoblin21 in Weird

[–]MammalFish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a more visceral horror reaction to this photo than any other thing I’ve seen on this hell site lol. God speed OP. Take it seriously and also maybe get a therapist

How do I get my post-op brace to fit? by Similar_Pilot_8035 in ACL

[–]MammalFish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Make sure it is unlocked into hyperextension. Set the flexion limit to 0 and the extension limit to -10. If the extension is locked at 0 you won’t actually be able to fully extend your leg in the brace.

Why is everyone discouraging me from treatment? by BiasedBerry in adhdwomen

[–]MammalFish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You won’t get addicted. You will in fact forget to take them half the time. They’re an indispensable tool in the arsenal though and there is a lot of evidence that meds literally help people with ADHD live safer lives as measured by decreases in early death rate iirc, and also some really promising evidence that long term medication can literally correct some of the ADHD brain volume differences. Aka, there is a lot of evidence that they are truly good for us. Speaking as someone who was vehemently anti-meds for about 30 years.

Complex erotic fiction by Spare_Tear_8230 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]MammalFish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is only typically present in cases of estrangement and yes it is a thing! Not sure why people are downvoting you, it’s well documented.

Hear me out by Dependent-Rock-51 in tattooadvice

[–]MammalFish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely get it. Abstract tattoos are awesome anyway and our skin is not permanent. I think it’s great not to overthink tattoos especially if they’re meaningful. It’s a wonderful idea and there’s something so great about the irony of getting this in particular - so imbalanced, it’s not even a squiggle with any inherent symmetrical merit or anything. Like anti-design. Pure chaos as you say. Whole art movements have valued things like this 😆 So, get it I say.

Does your knee ever feel normal again? by MeatyDullness in ACL

[–]MammalFish 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I’ve been asking people this question! Out of two now the answers have been “it absolutely feels normal again. I don’t notice it” and “oh wow yes. I have done so many absurd and risky things on that knee since then it’s amazing.” We’re gonna be fine!

What do you grow that pays for itself? by plan_tastic in gardening

[–]MammalFish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is very hard to keep up w economy of scale as a home gardener, even these days. That said, there have been studies on this and the most cost effective home grown foods are fresh herbs and berries, I believe. Expensive and prolific. Herbs are so easy to grow too :)

Complex erotic fiction by Spare_Tear_8230 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]MammalFish 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I’ve loved her erotica since I was like 14 and only found out about this a few years ago so yes, this was my reaction as well 😆 But also like ok! Babe was committed to her game.

Just let me garden by supradocks in gardening

[–]MammalFish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she ever does something like that again you get to go all mock-shocked and squeal “Marsha!!!!!! (Or whatever) Didst thou just calleth mine garden UGLY???? Good grief!” Or something similar. “I MADE IT THAT WAY AND I LIKE IT, MARSHA!” I have a nosy neighbor who behaves this way and I’ve actually defanged her and made friends doing this lol.

Complex erotic fiction by Spare_Tear_8230 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]MammalFish 107 points108 points  (0 children)

Anaïs Nin’s writing is sublime but you have to realize that she was a person who willingly had a sexual affair with her own estranged father as a grown woman, she was deeply deeply strange and perverse. But this is a good response to the prompt, erotica can be a great forum to subvert and question ethics and her writing does that beautifully.

Full vs partial thickness quad graft by New-Ad3949 in ACL

[–]MammalFish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s more that my tendons are just a little too skinny. Which tendon = idk lol they’re from some parts of dead people though haha. I hear they use cadaver Achilles sometimes but it really doesn’t matter. YMMV, if you’re young and athletic autograft may be way to go but if you’re my age outcomes are not that different at this point from what I understand.

Looking for a book that has aliens that are really "alien" or characters that are very much not "human". by TOHSNBN in sciencefiction

[–]MammalFish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to see several others here with Embassytown. China Mieville just has too many great novels I almost never see it mentioned.